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ORIGINAL: nikaa

medievalwench,
 
There are things that I enjoy having done to me that my Master is simply not comfortable doing at this point.

that is the case with my Master, He just either does not enjoy or does not see the way to go about certain things.


He has allowed me to scene with other Doms that he felt comfortable with. He is always there as a silent observer. This allowed several things. It gave him an opportunity to observe play that is new to him and it also allowed him to give me something that I enjoyed, wanted, perhaps even need on some level.

That makes sense, it was not initially His intention to be there but has now decided that it would be a good thing, if W/we find the right person. i feel that i need more sadistic treatment than He wishes to give except as punishment, and discussing this was what brought Him to decide to seek another Dominant who enjoys it more and who could show U/us both the intricacies of sadism and corporal Domming.
 
It is always something we discuss alone as an M/s couple prior before. There are boundaries of play and expectations of play set up prior and he is ALWAYS present. Those expectations and boundaries are ALWAYS discussed with the other Dom before hand.

Master has put a basic outline of what He is seeking on His journal, and will talk thoroughly with the Domme He finds acceptable before anything is arranged, He has also found a useful online checklist or agreement of what will and will not happen during a session which may be used.

 
I was a bit nervous about it because I didn't want to make him feel like I was turning to someone else for those things. Though it ultimately has been a postive choice.

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ORIGINAL: medievalwench

My Master has told me that because He is less interested in the pain side of my submission than i am He is looking for a Mistress to use me in that way, has anyone else had experience with this?
He says because He trusts me fully He is prepared to allow me to be with a Domme sometimes also to experience my bi side as i never have done.
I have given myself fully to Him, and was not seeking another although i do often wish He would be more sadistic with me. i was not thinking of looking for another but i am cautiously curious, He has been my only Dom and my only love, and He will be the only onei will truly answer to, but I accept His reasoning, and have discussed the reasons and what He expects. We have been together for  enough years that W/we are both secure in our relationship,
Thanks,
wench

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ORIGINAL: akisha

There is nothing wrong with a Dominant seeking advice or an apprenticeship per se, from another Dominant that has more experience in the areas that the less experienced one would like to learn.

that is definitely  part of this for Master, as W/we have been self contained in our lifestyle and maybe need freshening up and to try new things.

I'd personally encourage it. If you have someone or a group of people that you can learn from, especially on the edgier side of play, that would be great. Reading is a good form of background information, but seeing and doing with someone that already knows is much wiser.

As for being given to someone else....  umm i would personally hope that i was happy enough with the One i was with that i wouldn't really be seeking someone else.

He is enough for me 99.9% of the time - but there is no getting over the fact that He is a man and to only ever be with Him i would never get to experience my bisexuality. i could go on without being with a woman, but i would be denying part of my makeup.

If He or She was not into something i was, and the kink was not overly important then i'd be happy with what i had.  Playing with others occasionally might be ok, but i certainly wouldn't want to have to serve two Dominants on a full time or semi full time basis.

It is not intended that i  fully serve the Mistress, only occasional sessions whilst totally under His collar.

I probably wouldn't be in a relationship with someone that didn't come close to meeting the needs i really needed met, and hopefully i would fulfil the majority of his as well. If there was something i really wanted to try, I'd talk to my Dominant and see if He or She was willing to try it as well, or if they would be willing to go to workshops or contact a local Dominant that has experience in that area to learn from.

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ORIGINAL: medievalwench

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ORIGINAL: akisha

There is nothing wrong with a Dominant seeking advice or an apprenticeship per se, from another Dominant that has more experience in the areas that the less experienced one would like to learn.

that is definitely  part of this for Master, as W/we have been self contained in our lifestyle and maybe need freshening up and to try new things.

I'd personally encourage it. If you have someone or a group of people that you can learn from, especially on the edgier side of play, that would be great. Reading is a good form of background information, but seeing and doing with someone that already knows is much wiser.

As for being given to someone else....  umm i would personally hope that i was happy enough with the One i was with that i wouldn't really be seeking someone else.

He is enough for me 99.9% of the time - but there is no getting over the fact that He is a man and to only ever be with Him i would never get to experience my bisexuality. i could go on without being with a woman, but i would be denying part of my makeup.

If He or She was not into something i was, and the kink was not overly important then i'd be happy with what i had.  Playing with others occasionally might be ok, but i certainly wouldn't want to have to serve two Dominants on a full time or semi full time basis.

It is not intended that i  fully serve the Mistress, only occasional sessions whilst totally under His collar.

I probably wouldn't be in a relationship with someone that didn't come close to meeting the needs i really needed met, and hopefully i would fulfil the majority of his as well. If there was something i really wanted to try, I'd talk to my Dominant and see if He or She was willing to try it as well, or if they would be willing to go to workshops or contact a local Dominant that has experience in that area to learn from.

He does meet my needs and i his, or things would not have lasted for the years that they have; but as i say, he is a guy and i would like to try being with a woman to see what it is like. Also, He does use corporal and sadistic play, but wants to learn to get more into it, or find someone who is more into it for me to play with as the rest of our relationship is really good.