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Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/16/2006 6:56:28 PM   
medievalwench


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What would You as a Domme feel about using a  bi girl who is collared to a Master?
If You have done so, how did it work out?
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RE: Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/16/2006 7:06:33 PM   
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I have gotten a number of requests to top female submissives who are owned by Masters.  Personally, topping females isn't My thing, so I never take them up on the offers, but that's just Me.
 
On the other hand, Mistresses have asked Me to top their male submissives from time to time and I will usually do this if I know and like the couple.  When I get requests like this online from people I don't even know, I usually ignore them.
 
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RE: Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/16/2006 7:23:11 PM   
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Master has not messaged anyone online about this, He has just put the information on His profile and would want to meet the Domme informally to talk before anything would happen, He rarely comes online as He is busy with other things which is why i come here to learn and pass on information to Him.
Thankyou for Your reply Ma'am, i appreciate it,
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RE: Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/16/2006 7:41:21 PM   
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medievalwench,
 
It would depend on thepeople, situation, and what dynamics they where seeking.
 
When it has happened in the past it took alot of communication to make it happen and a successful experience for all involved. Typically the Dom was present if scening even if not actively particpating. Though this was mostly for safety purposes, because there is some play where I feel a third person should be there in case of an emergency.



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RE: Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/16/2006 7:48:53 PM   
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i had not thought of the safety aspect, as Master and i have done some pretty edgy things with only us two there, but it is a good point, thankyou. For example, Master knows what might send me into sub space or make me a little emotional, and also because of my shyness it might help to have him there. Good point, hon, cheers.

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RE: Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/16/2006 7:53:25 PM   
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Ideally such an arrangement should be an outgrowth of a social contact that the couple has with a femme domme with whom you are both comfortable, but I'm sure it can be worked out one way or another.  Good luck. 

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RE: Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/16/2006 7:55:55 PM   
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I wont do fire play, heavy knife play, and some suffication play unless there is a third person persent.
 
Also if someone is scening with you for the first time they don't know your physical or emotional limits or triggers. Where your Master would.The acception to that would be if you knew them well prior to.  And if your are doing an extreme scene for the first time with someone it may be reassuring to have your owner present even if he does/says nothing.



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RE: Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/16/2006 8:01:16 PM   
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I have had a Master share me with a Mistress in the past. The Mistresses I was with where bi themselves and enjoyed dominating a woman. Just like anyone, some are bi some are not. It is hard to find someone that may match up to your tastes. Like anything in this lifestyle takes time to find the right one.

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RE: Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/16/2006 9:24:01 PM   
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This is pretty common for me, I get asked a lot to top a female collared to a Dom.  Sometimes the submissive gets the idea and then asks her master about it and sometimes the master gets the idea.....but in both cases it typically happens because they have gotten to know me in real time.   I very much enjoy co-topping with a Dom, it just seems to work well for me.....and I'm very much looking forward to the latest request.  I can't really say I'm bi but I enjoy kissing and petting with women..not sure if that's part of why it's a common request for me.

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RE: Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/16/2006 9:27:13 PM   
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I've recently been offered to train bondage on my mentor's sub...I can't wait! He'll of course be there as she's His, but in a play context, she would obey Me the same way that she obeys any Dom/me.

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RE: Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/16/2006 9:37:02 PM   
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I've only ever co-Dommed with another woman... her slave is her husband. We are pretty good friends & went to munches and play parties together... we started talking, and decided it would be fun to scene together. Limits were set beforehand, and we had a trial run (so to speak) where I learned her slave's limits & pain tolerance (and how to use some other toys ). We talked more & set up a scene. Spiffy stuff & we'll likely be doing it again, as soon as my schedule permits.
 
Provided both parties are willing & all know what to expect (limits, toy usage, expectations, et al.) then it's fine. But, I think it is of the utmost importance that EVERYONE knows everyone else and are very comfortable with each other. Also, imho, the sub/slave's Master/Mistress should always be present.
 
Hope this helps

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RE: Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/17/2006 2:35:56 AM   
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greetings
 
you are question this do you wish to do this? always have you own mind on things you have the right to say no now if you wish to do this i am not one to asnwer you see i am only into males slaves and submissives but good luck and make it what you wish ok
 
good luck
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RE: Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/17/2006 3:26:35 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: mons

greetings
 
you are question this do you wish to do this?

i do want to try this, i am curious about it will work though, Master discussed it with me a lot so W/we know it is something W/we are both comfortable with it.

always have you own mind on things you have the right to say no now if you wish to do this

i know, i have said no to Master before - rarely though, He knows me well enough to know what is good for me.


i am not one to asnwer you see i am only into males slaves and submissives but good luck and make it what you wish ok

 
good luck
mons


Thankyou Ma'am, i appreciate Your reply,
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RE: Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/17/2006 3:28:13 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Mikal

I've only ever co-Dommed with another woman... her slave is her husband. We are pretty good friends & went to munches and play parties together... we started talking, and decided it would be fun to scene together. Limits were set beforehand, and we had a trial run (so to speak) where I learned her slave's limits & pain tolerance (and how to use some other toys ). We talked more & set up a scene. Spiffy stuff & we'll likely be doing it again, as soon as my schedule permits.
 
Provided both parties are willing & all know what to expect (limits, toy usage, expectations, et al.) then it's fine. But, I think it is of the utmost importance that EVERYONE knows everyone else and are very comfortable with each other. Also, imho, the sub/slave's Master/Mistress should always be present.
 
Hope this helps

Thankyou Mikal, i agree with what You are saying, Master has said that He will be present during sessions, and He will speak with the Domme before agreeing to anything.





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RE: Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/17/2006 3:29:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: LadyKmtl

I've recently been offered to train bondage on my mentor's sub...I can't wait! He'll of course be there as she's His, but in a play context, she would obey Me the same way that she obeys any Dom/me.


Wow, fantastic, i'm really pleased for You, i am sure You will be an excellent Domme :0)
Thankyou Ma'am,
wench


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RE: Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/17/2006 3:34:44 AM   
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ORIGINAL: MzTlaz

This is pretty common for me, I get asked a lot to top a female collared to a Dom.  Sometimes the submissive gets the idea and then asks her master about it and sometimes the master gets the idea.....but in both cases it typically happens because they have gotten to know me in real time.

As Master and i have not met any other BDSM ers in real life yet W/we don't know any Dommes, but maybe eventually W/we will meet the right person, the difficulty in meeting RL people is that the scene is mainly club based and neither of U/us like  clubbing; but this idea isn't something where Master will accept the first person who says She will do it.

I very much enjoy co-topping with a Dom, it just seems to work well for me.....and I'm very much looking forward to the latest request.  I can't really say I'm bi but I enjoy kissing and petting with women..not sure if that's part of why it's a common request for me.


i think its great that You are open to this especially as You are not definitely bi, having fun in this lifestyle is so important - i think sometimes people can take it too seriously.

Thankyou for Your reply,
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RE: Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/17/2006 3:38:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW

I have had a Master share me with a Mistress in the past. The Mistresses I was with where bi themselves and enjoyed dominating a woman. Just like anyone, some are bi some are not. It is hard to find someone that may match up to your tastes. Like anything in this lifestyle takes time to find the right one.


Master has said that He is hoping to eventually find a bi or Lesbian Mistress for me. He will take His time and not say yes to the first response - unless exceptionally lucky.
Master is the only man i have ever been intimate with, so He is seeking a Domme rather than another Dom so that i will hopefully be more able to relax.
Thankyou for Your reply,
wench


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RE: Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/17/2006 8:21:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: medievalwench

What would You as a Domme feel about using a  bi girl who is collared to a Master?
If You have done so, how did it work out?
Many Thanks,
wench


I too get numerous, random requests (even from strangers) to dom someone's owned fem slave.  I don't oblige them because I don't share well.  My style lends itself to the female becoming imprinted with MY control.  In the end, I find that not alot of guys understand what they're asking.  They want a woman to dominate their girl, but they fail to recognize that we're doing emotional/control stuff -- it's not just topping them so he can get off on the whole woman on woman thing.

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RE: Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/17/2006 9:09:14 AM   
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I have recieved a few of these requests from subs looking on behalf of their Masters. Personally I'd much rather hear from the Master himself, but that is just me. There was one request that I was seriously considering until the girl told me that Master would want to control how I Dominated her. So in other words, he was looking for a Domme for him to Dom. I said no thank you I was not interested, I do not take orders I give them.

I think if you can find the right situation and your Master can honestly give up control of you to another for awhile it could be alot of fun. Just make sure you screen carefully and that your interests pan out.

Good luck,
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RE: Master is seeking a Mistress for this girl - 11/17/2006 9:30:24 AM   
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(in reply to Lashra) I've had a very similar scenario presented to me as well. These specifics are extremely distasteful for me... besides with so many available subs practically throwing themselves at the dominant women, they aren't all to desperate or eager to play with already owned property.

side note: This thread could easily tie in with the "2 Women" thread going on right now.

Most times these men really don't know what they are initiating & how easily this whole scenario they instigated can turn around & bite them in the butt.

The co-topping scene is one that can be easily achieved when all parties are friendly with one another. I've enjoyed sharing scenes with friends & often they are extremely rewarding for all involved.
The online set-ups & advertising for such is much less likely to come about & often seem really tacky.

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