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RE: What is it that keeps you 'there' - 11/18/2006 5:30:28 PM

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Our LDR is not easy. Our dynamic has never suffered, but schedules as they are daily contact is impossible. What keps angel here is the need for acceptance and control. I offer him something he has never had before, and something that he has found he needs. Love and comfort, and the ablity to completely depend on someone else without worrying that he is going to be hurt or betrayed. ITs intoxicating, and he said he finds me on his mind every day. Even this week while he is away with friends, I will be on his mind every day even if it is in passing.
If all goes well, we will get to get rid of the LD and just have the R

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RE: What is it that keeps you 'there' - 11/18/2006 10:28:18 PM

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The same reason why people stay with their husbands or wifes or boyfriends and girlfriends. Their happy in the relationship

Rituals to remind oneself who their owned by seems rather stupid to myself, as if you can't remember who own's you then are you sure your in the correct lifestyle?

If you need a ritual to feel 'owned' or 'wanted' then i'd say its a communication problem as you should know that by comments he says or by hugs or simply talking.

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RE: What is it that keeps you 'there' - 11/18/2006 10:34:19 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: imtempting

If you need a ritual to feel 'owned' or 'wanted' then i'd say its a communication problem as you should know that by comments he says or by hugs or simply talking.

Rituals can bring about feelings of intimacy for some, and such feelings of intimacy can bring about peace and contentment in knowing one is owned.

I have very few rituals. However, each one I have is designed to bring about a particular frame of mind...it's almost a meditative state, where I can reflect on my servitude to him and what his ownership means to me. It is a time when I can remind myself of my gratitude to him and bask in the serenity this brings me.

So for me it has nothing to do with a communication problem. It is, however, a way of communing with him, in my mind and in my heart.

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RE: What is it that keeps you 'there' - 11/19/2006 3:03:02 AM

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greetings
i do understand what you mean and how you feel a closeness with him like no other or with anyother but i want to ask many of the submissive do you wish to marry you master yes he owes you body and soul but what of legally and what if something happen to him how are you protect. i know the gorean;s have a well placed plan that if something happen to their master the master has a plan that takes care of them, now do anyone of you have this in place or are anyone of you married to your master? I think you answer you own and many other question it is so nice how you siad you felt the feeling the moment you spoke with him that is wonderful you are well contacted to him i wish you all of the luck and love and god speed to you both

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RE: What is it that keeps you 'there' - 11/19/2006 12:57:14 PM

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I have no plans to marry Master Mons; for one thing, I personally do not believe that one marries their property ( I said personally here ).

I married my first Master simply because he became so ill and HE decided that it would be a good idea to do so because their were unmentionables involved ( 3 were his, 1 was ours ). If he had not become ill, we would never have married.

As for being protected; I am more than capable of protecting myself financially; I do not require another to do so for me.

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RE: What is it that keeps you 'there' - 11/19/2006 9:35:04 PM

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We have a connection that i've never encountered before in my life. One that anyone who see's the two of us together spots easily. I have no clue where it comes from, or how it got there, or why its there. It just is. We unite as one and we flow together well. i have no understanding of it - i can only go off of what i see and what others have said about the two of us when we are together. It seems that no matter what bumps or lumps we go through - that connection always pulls us back together. I only know that our connection is so deep - that he has literally chased my demons away. They recently started coming back - as they come in my dreams - and my dreams become filled with blood, shredded bodies, and death on a holocaust scale - things that would give anyone nightmares, yet i am used to them. I've told my Dom they were back and in the past 4 days, my dreams have been free of death. He is chasing the demons away again. We have a connection that is deep enough where he can literally enter my dreams and stop the blood bath that has been happening there since i was 16 years old.

and no i dont feel submissive 24/7 and no we dont work on keeping in the "head space" we are what we are, we flow as we flow and we do as we do. We have a good understanding - )

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