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AquaticSub -> RE: Levels of d/s and lifestyle (11/19/2006 4:34:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: WantonThroat So I think you most CERTAINLY dont have to leave your present relationship in order to have a more 24/7 service...be a good slave and work toward it on your own. It will make Him happy. His s. I appreciate this advice. While I don't identify as a slave, I do have a need to please him. I prefer to get and open his beers or drinks for him rather then have him get them, though if he is up already I may ask him very nicely if he would mind getting me one. I perfer to sit near him, either cuddled up at his feet with my head in his lap, or snuggled in his arms (a most happy time!) I think part of the problem is that I have more interest in this then he does and I don't quite know how to guide myself. He has said that he doesn't want a slave, so I don't want to do too much and have him think I am changing from the spirited woman he fell in love with. But the responses to this thread have made me think that perhaps there is a way for me explore my submission outside of the bedroom as well as respecting his firm desire to keep our relationship a boyfriend/girlfriend one first and a dominant/submissive one second.

KatyLied -> RE: Levels of d/s and lifestyle (11/19/2006 4:48:37 PM)
I think when you get caught up in labels that you lose something. 24/7, slave, sub, girlfriend. Try to be in the relationship and allow it to progress at its own rate. You may eventually be a slave, one day he may be more a Master, or you may find a mix of things that work well and that do not require defining - because they work for you.

gandalf0297 -> RE: Levels of d/s and lifestyle (11/20/2006 4:48:34 PM)
I agree with kl. it's going to morph. let it go and see what happens. And I am a firm beliver in the KISS theory(keep it simple stupid). belive me it will get complicated all on it's own.

BRNaughtyAngel -> RE: Levels of d/s and lifestyle (11/20/2006 5:45:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub He has said that he doesn't want a slave, so I don't want to do too much and have him think I am changing from the spirited woman he fell in love with. I went through this with my last VERY vanilla boyfriend. This was before I understood and acknowlegded what had always been in me, although it's been there as long as I can remember. He and I work together periodically, in a male dominated industry, where I was constantly hit on by guys and basically had to prove myself. When he and I started seeing each other, I found myself doing submissive type things with him. Wanting him to take the lead and other stuff. I'm not an argumentative person anyway (hate confrontation), so I deferred to him most of the time on just about everything. He'd get mad because I always wanted him to choose where we ate out. One night while we were lying in bed, he said something about wondering what happened to the fiesty, hardheaded woman he first started dating...... (not that I'm not fiesty and hardheaded now, but you get the picture ;) I think that was my wake up call that sent me on the journey that brings me to where I am now. He didn't want what I truly was. [sm=noway.gif] He wanted the persona that I assumed in the working world. All I could manage to say to him was, I'm fiesty and hardheaded at work because I have to be to survive. I don't want to have to be that way when I come home.

AquaticSub -> RE: Levels of d/s and lifestyle (11/21/2006 9:33:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: BRNaughtyAngel quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub He has said that he doesn't want a slave, so I don't want to do too much and have him think I am changing from the spirited woman he fell in love with. I went through this with my last VERY vanilla boyfriend. This was before I understood and acknowlegded what had always been in me, although it's been there as long as I can remember. He and I work together periodically, in a male dominated industry, where I was constantly hit on by guys and basically had to prove myself. When he and I started seeing each other, I found myself doing submissive type things with him. Wanting him to take the lead and other stuff. I'm not an argumentative person anyway (hate confrontation), so I deferred to him most of the time on just about everything. He'd get mad because I always wanted him to choose where we ate out. One night while we were lying in bed, he said something about wondering what happened to the fiesty, hardheaded woman he first started dating...... (not that I'm not fiesty and hardheaded now, but you get the picture ;) I think that was my wake up call that sent me on the journey that brings me to where I am now. He didn't want what I truly was. [sm=noway.gif] He wanted the persona that I assumed in the working world. All I could manage to say to him was, I'm fiesty and hardheaded at work because I have to be to survive. I don't want to have to be that way when I come home. For me this is just a desire to explore it. I think that right now he has some misgivings about what 24/7 might be. I'm certainly not the kind of girl to do laundry on my knees and even if he puts a collar on me and I call him master, I'm still going to tell him to bug off every now and then. It's just my nature and while I want to submit more to him out of the bedroom (or at least try it), neither of us wants me to lose that wild streak.

BDSM05478 -> RE: Levels of d/s and lifestyle (11/21/2006 11:34:05 AM)
Oh Katy and Gandalf short, simple and very sweet. Amen! really sums it up, We are the creators of our own world, so long as it is within the bounds of reality, truely imo this is the most free lifestyle choice. It honestly is whatever you make or want it to be..... Aqua, if you or your Domly One want to bounce any things off me or have any questions about how we have designed our life feel free to email. (and more than likely anyone else woiuld be more than happy to help)

slavegirl1969 -> RE: Levels of d/s and lifestyle (11/21/2006 10:22:44 PM)
Firstly I apologise if I don't make much sense, I've just come home from a long night shift and am chilling before I hit the bed. This was an interesting question for me because I often want more obvious d/s time in my relationship but my Master goes in fits and spurts. Sometimes I find it frustrating that there isn't more but then there are times when it is 24 hours a day and I find it frustrating because I want to just be the girlfriend....I'm a contrary creature, oh my poor Master, how I must confuse him lol... I don't live with him but we do spend as much time as possible together. When we aren't together I find I'm still submissive to him, eg I never wear shoes when I'm talking to him either on-line or by phone (unless I'm at work and can't take my boots off), I sit on the floor automatically because that's where I am when he is with me. Am rambling now, and have lost my thoughts, apologiies

subtill -> RE: Levels of d/s and lifestyle (11/23/2006 8:09:12 AM)
in my live i was always dreaming submissive,but i didn't not been in a 24/7 relationship as a slave of a real Dominant Lady.But if someone this day comes,and a Lady,who i have real feelings in my heart for her,its only her to Know what i will be am f or her. it s okay if i'am be her lover, ok to be her slave,ok to be her real human pet, ok to be Her server. Its only her dream,her fantasy, her wants what i will be then. For me i could be live under her in TPE livestyle. For me its only the main think that i feel love for Her in my heart. So i could be her slave 24/7 ,someone whith the status like her real pet,or her real lover. What ever she will decided over my life in future. All what i want to be healthy ,and whith out any conflicts of law.

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