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telling the truth - 11/19/2006 8:23:54 AM   
auniquegift


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Status: offline 		hello to A/all...i am new to here...
and there is something i would like your opinion on...
as where the truth is always better...
when talking to a perspective Sir...shouldnt it be the same for Him also ..
example:i am talking with one now....he tells me if he doesnt come on he doesnt have time to talk...okay i understand this...but then i find that all he is doing is talking to someone else ...he just stopped talking to me no goodbye nothing and answered the other...
so question is:why not just tell the truth ?
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RE: telling the truth - 11/19/2006 8:51:25 AM   
Couple2luv


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Status: offline 		Respect is the MOST imortant part of a relationship this is even more true in a sub/dom setup.  Even if you are simply in the courting phase, if you are not being respected then tha person is NOT somebody youshould associate with.

Any dom who doesn't respect their sub, isn't a dom, they are a self user.

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RE: telling the truth - 11/19/2006 8:51:39 AM   
medievalwench


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Status: offline 		i think its just like in RL, some people are genuine and honest and some are inconsiderate or false, only online it is easier to be decietful <sp?>. There are some good people out there, its just not easy to find them.
i don't really know what to say, i'm sorry this happened to you,
Sincerely,
wench


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RE: telling the truth - 11/19/2006 8:52:19 AM   
missturbation


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Status: offline 		as where the truth is always better...
I'm not sure the truth is always better. I think circumstances where the truth would only hurt and fit no other purpose a white lie may be appropriate.
 
this...but then i find that all he is doing is talking to someone else ...he just stopped talking to me no goodbye nothing and answered the other...
so question is:why not just tell the truth ?
My instant thought was so that if things dont work out with the other he is talking to he can come back to you and just tell you he told you he was busy if he did not speak to you and that technically he did not lie, he was busy!

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RE: telling the truth - 11/19/2006 8:57:21 AM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		I before E, except after C...deceitful

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RE: telling the truth - 11/19/2006 9:22:29 AM   
medievalwench


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quote:

ORIGINAL: bandit25

I before E, except after C...deceitful


thankyou, i knew i had it wrong, i tried it and it looked wrong to me both ways then apparently chose the wrong one <g>. i can usually spell better than that, honestly.


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RE: telling the truth - 11/19/2006 9:42:27 AM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		LOL...no worries.  I can't help correcting...must be that domme part of me surfacing.

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RE: telling the truth - 11/19/2006 10:23:15 AM   
agirl


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Status: offline 		Possibly, it could be that... he is rude....he doesn't care THAT much whether you hang around or not .........he IS busy , busy talking to someone else.

Why not tell the truth ?......Possibly because he doesn't need to. You're not that important. You're one of many *potentials*.

Why not ask him?

Regards, agirl

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RE: telling the truth - 11/19/2006 10:43:19 AM   
kinkiminx


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Status: offline 		I avoid liars like the plague - there's no point in lying in a relationship when you can tell the truth - sometimes it might seem tempting if you know the truth isn't what someone wants to hear, but I see it as being far better to tell someone a truth they might not like than to let them find out later!
 
I would rather know than be kept in the dark, regardless if it is hurtful or not, at least I know where I stand.
 
He may have been busy chatting to someone else, but disappearing without a word is an odd way to convey it, it wouldn't have taken much effort to say something.

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RE: telling the truth - 11/19/2006 10:52:38 AM   
BitaTruble


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quote:

ORIGINAL: auniquegift

hello to A/all...i am new to here...
and there is something i would like your opinion on...
as where the truth is always better...
when talking to a perspective Sir...shouldnt it be the same for Him also ..
example:i am talking with one now....he tells me if he doesnt come on he doesnt have time to talk...okay i understand this...but then i find that all he is doing is talking to someone else ...he just stopped talking to me no goodbye nothing and answered the other...
so question is:why not just tell the truth ?



Telling you the truth won't keep you on the line if the other one doesn't work out. Chalk this one up to a life experience and move on. There are good people out there so hang in there.

Celeste

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Rock, paper, scissors."

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RE: telling the truth - 11/19/2006 5:00:24 PM   
auniquegift


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Status: offline 		thank you for all the responses.....

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RE: telling the truth - 11/19/2006 5:40:05 PM   
RedSavageSlave


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Status: offline 		Ok.. I dont get it... you are talking online and you feel if he IS online he needs to be talking to you the whole time? WTF is up with that? Maybe he just wanted to communicate with someone else for awhile. I know I sure as hell dont feel like just chatting with one person all the time when I am online and I certainly dont need to justify that to anyone.

Why do you feel he needs to account for time he doesnt wish to spend with you?  Maybe this sounds harsh but I just get tired of people thinking that other people owe them their time just because you might occupy the same online time.

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RE: telling the truth - 11/19/2006 5:46:00 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		If he simply stopped talking to you, then either you were not a good fit and he just gave up, or he realy was too busy to properly handle moving things frwad with you.  He hasnt said anything, so you dont know what the truth is, honestly.  It might be as bad as some are making it out to be, he was keeping you on as one of many and decided he had a favorite.  Or it might be something more along the lines of he simply didnt have the time to work with you and just stopped communication.
On the internet, people come and go without saying word one about why or what happened.  They dont have to, since there are no repercussions for disappearing. Whatever his reasons, he is gone.  Time to dust yourself off and move on. This might be the first, but it will probably not be the last time this sort of thing happens. Dont dwell, just take it for what it was, a bad experience, and start your search again.

DV

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RE: telling the truth - 11/19/2006 5:57:20 PM   
MagiksSlave


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Status: offline 		OK.. There is nothing I hate more then  a Dom talking to a million girls at a time, it has happend to me befor , Im talking to a Dom things are going great and then one day I get on and i see his profile "I am no longer searching I have found my one perfect princess her profile can be found under so n so" and Im like what you found you soul mate in the 8 hours since we last spoke?? Or maybe you just forgot to mention her last night when you where telling me how great a match you thought we would make and you wanted to know my every fantasy so you could help make them come true in the near future!!

Im sorry but thats what comes to mind when you are talking to a potential here and they arent polite enough to tell you they need to do something els online and cant talk to you anymore or that they may respiond slow becasue they have other IM's open (Yes my Master tells me this all the time when he is talking to friends in IM and me too) Red it isnt about her demanding time from he he doesnt have or doesnt want to give its about the lack of respect he is giveing her by not telling her and just poofing to do something els.. it shows she isnt a priority at all and he doesnt really care.

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RE: telling the truth - 11/19/2006 6:37:23 PM   
auniquegift


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Status: offline 		thank you Magiksslave for your response.....it is appreciated.

redsavageslave...point was he was talking with me...and just left...not a word just left me sitting there
waiting ,,while he went to talk to someone  else that had mailed him.....so no i dont expect all his time
but goodbye or goodnight might have been appropriate...
and thank you for your response

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RE: telling the truth - 11/20/2006 11:01:08 AM   
MagiksSlave


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quote:

ORIGINAL: auniquegift

thank you Magiksslave for your response.....it is appreciated.

redsavageslave...point was he was talking with me...and just left...not a word just left me sitting there
waiting ,,while he went to talk to someone  else that had mailed him.....so no i dont expect all his time
but goodbye or goodnight might have been appropriate...
and thank you for your response


No problem hon just remeber people treat you the way you let them treat you dont let them treat you like this

Magik's slave

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If you’re going through hell keep on moving
don't slow down
if you’re scared dont show it
you might get out
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