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Kalira -> RE: never met? how can it be a real relationship (11/20/2006 9:20:27 PM)

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I think we all need to take our selves out of the WWII and Korea era....unfortunately divorce is running rampant around the world  and well the WWII and Korea era marriages really do not have anything in common with anything that is going on with the world today

Hmm, personally, I think we should all put ourselves BACK into that era. Marriages from that time frame worked for alot of reasons; personally I think it was because the couples had no UNREALISTIC expectations or romantic visions of 'living happily ever after with absolutly no problems ever'.

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Divorce runs rampant today because couples are afraid to stick it out and make it work Compromise has become a word that no one wants to speak of anymore.
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  I would love to actually take a survey to find out how many women  are able to stay home full time and take care of the houe and home and have Mr Master work a traditional 40 hour work week and come home and take out the trash and mow the lawn.

I bet that you would actually find quite a few. Personally, I would be interested in seeing the results of such a survey.

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  I am just wondering why be in  a relationship that is not and may neverbe an in person one?

Possibly because they do not require anything more than that? Who are we to say that they are not getting their needs and wants met?

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  .for me it (D/s) is more about the interaction/personal relationship rather than a sexual relationship

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  and so with that said i was just wondering what do you do with a log distance D/s relationship?? 

You just said that for yourself, it's not about the sex; its about the interaction and the personal. By interaction are you referring to mental or physical?

You can forge a mental bond long distance; you can even maintain it for many years; all with never having physical interaction of any kind. Some maintain that D/s is nothing more than a mental state; others will state that they need the physical also.

The only thing needed to make it work is the determination of both parties.  



SamKeithsslave -> RE: never met? how can it be a real relationship (11/20/2006 11:31:50 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Kalira
( WARNING PERSONAL OPINION COMING UP )
Divorce runs rampant today because couples are afraid to stick it out and make it work Compromise has become a word that no one wants to speak of anymore.
( END OF PERSONAL OPINION )
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I agree to a degree, however sometimes couples stay together "for the sake of the kids" and I think we will all agree, that doesnt work either. Lack of compromise is not only the problem with current divorce rates. I believe (as someone has already mentioned) that people often expect too much from marriage, some believe it will save a failing relationship, it doesnt. Many dont take their vows seriously and opting out is made way too easy.



SirGordonslil -> RE: never met? how can it be a real relationship (7/6/2007 6:41:02 PM)

well it was a way of introduction for Master and i, if O/our online relationship gave everything there would be no fun in exploring Him after we met and nothing to explore, which W/we did meet on numerous occasions during O/our online relationship, i flew there He flew here etc etc.
i agree, its an introduction, but valuable when i look back.

S/some dont have the munches etc to meet up with O/others.. online has become a useful tool of bringing not only communities together, but whole nations.. not to mention intimate relationships.

allbeit, for S/some, not for O/others.

my 2bob's worth eh.

~~lil~~



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: never met? how can it be a real relationship (7/6/2007 6:55:08 PM)

where is absolutely defined as "twue" or "real" in the BDSM community that every relationship (real or online) have to follow? this is not a cookie-cutter world in which everyone and everything has follow the same set of rules and regulations ...if the world was that "perfect", it would certainly be f-ing boring. 

i'm in an ldr with Daddy and my collar is real as cold metal locked around my neck - this is not a fantasy relationship, op, we have a happy, successful real one ...and just because we're not together 24/7 like most r/t relationships, we don't thump our noses down on what others have. a relationship is what two other people make it to be and i respect theirs as long as they respect my D/s dynamic. as i stated before with this "my relationship is better than yours holier than thou attitude" and one-sided assumptions that no one has a relationship until they meet is absurdly ludicrious ...each relationship (r/t or online) is special in its own way between the two (or more) that are invovled - respect that, CM!

rant over and off the soapbox i go



LadyPaige -> RE: never met? how can it be a real relationship (7/6/2007 7:01:46 PM)

I'm happy to hear about all the successful relationships begun on-line.  Perhaps I'd be more open to getting to know people on-line if my own experience were better.  Unfortunaltely, the only extended relationship I had on-line before meeting was with a friend I'd been chatting with daily for 3 years.  When I finally got to her part of the country and met her, I discovered a whole side of her that I didn't like and it really soured the friendship on my part.  So, for me, I'll stick to getting to know people face-to-face.

Paige



KatyLied -> RE: never met? how can it be a real relationship (7/6/2007 7:09:55 PM)

I can see on-line as a means of meeting someone.  But to actually be in an on-going relationship, on-line, with someone you've never met?  That is too strange a dynamic for me to consider. 



Mystique567 -> RE: never met? how can it be a real relationship (7/6/2007 7:58:00 PM)

To me it's amazing that I have the opportunity to meet and be perved on by a whole new group of Doms.

Just kidding, I think it's a great way to meet people that you would have never met had we not had this venue.



TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: never met? how can it be a real relationship (7/6/2007 9:58:57 PM)

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ORIGINAL: KatyLied
That is too strange a dynamic for me to consider. 


Quite honestly, I think what people get out of online-only relationships is an utter feeling of safety.  They don't have to risk anything, not even a physical connection, much less their very lives in an actual BDSM relationship.

I think it is why you see so much more of the online relationship thing in the BDSM world than you do in any other large online communities.  In other virtual communities, people recognize that they are merely people chatting on a computer, and not in some type of serious relationship.  Yet here, when the alternative to online relationships is as frightening and, well, real as it gets, they take solice in the safety that the power button provides them.

These delusions serve them well enough to keep them satisfied, at least for a while...

Taggard



BlackWomanSubNJ -> RE: never met? how can it be a real relationship (7/8/2007 6:42:25 PM)

It can't, that's how.



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