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BlkTallFullfig -> RE: Master, switch, sub, confused? (11/20/2006 12:34:00 PM)
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Right now I've put my bottom needs on the back burner. Yes I know alot of Dominants would shake their heads at me. But to ME, my subs mental well being is more important then a few moments of my own phyiscal pleasure. I need to know that he understands and is ok with this. This makes perfect sense, and it is an angle as others have mentioned ("I could never hit my master") that I didn't consider in my reply, since I'd never had that specific type of experience... As I hate most pain on myself, it isn't likely ever going to be a problem I encounter.
For me, the only thing that never changes, is who has the final authority within the relationship. Everything else is negotiable in terms of play, so for that reason, I don't like the labeling of any act as sub/dom.
I suppose that if I had a strong need to be hurt physically, being with a sub who could not deliver might become problematic; so I hope that with time, lots of conversations, he will come to understand and deliver on your ordered desires as much as you need/want. M
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