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force feminisation - 2/10/2005 7:36:49 AM   
sari


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Status: offline 		I consider myself a closet male lesbian. I love to be feminised to look like a cheap whore with my mistress taking advantage of me knowing that I am a hetrosexual Am I on my way to being gay??
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RE: force feminisation - 2/10/2005 7:40:20 AM   
suberic


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Status: offline 		Not unless you wish to be used by men too.

Being feminized and crossdressing are different from being gay. To be gay, you have to be attracted to men, in more than a "he looks hot" sort of way.

I'm a hetrosexual man, I love being in dresses and corsets and hose and heels, but I love women. I used to think I wanted to be a woman, but I have changed my mind recently (which has little bearing on this), but there was only one man I could honestly say I was sexually attracted to, and that was mainly because he made me feel little and small and weak.

So if this is a fear that you are "turning" gay, don't worry about it. Enjoy your bras and panties and dresses and don't worry about it.

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RE: force feminisation - 2/10/2005 8:17:33 AM   
femdom4u2besub


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Status: offline 		Feminization is of itself a fetish and does not lead to anything if you do not want it to.

Lady Payne

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RE: force feminisation - 2/16/2005 1:45:07 AM   
MistressDREAD


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Status: offline 		lets get some correct definitions here for you sani first:

lesbian = A woman whose sexual orientation is to women.

crossdresser = To dress in the clothing characteristic of the opposite sex.

forced feminization = To do work or cause physical change; energy, strength, or active power to (a male or female) to assume feminine characteristics.

gay = The word gay is now standard in its use to refer to homosexuals, in large part because it is the term that most gay people prefer in referring to themselves. Gay is distinguished from homosexual primarily by the emphasis it places on the cultural and social aspects of homosexuality as opposed to sexual practice. Many reserve gay for males, but the word is also used to refer to both sexes; when the intended meaning is not clear in the context, the phrase gay for men and lesbian for woman may be used. Like the other names of social groups derived from adjectives (for example, Black), gay may be regarded as offensive when used as a noun to refer to particular individuals, as in There were two gays on the panel; here phrasing such as gay members should be used instead. But there is no objection to the use of the noun in the plural to refer collectively either to gay men or to gay men and lesbians, so long as it is clear whether men alone or both men and women are being discussed which is different from homosexuals.

I hope this better defines what you desire and concider your self sari and in My Opinion having fetishes and desires does not change our personal sexual preferances which are naturally inborn into most of Us but can be changed by preferance. JMPO~

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RE: force feminisation - 2/16/2005 3:21:34 AM   
onceburned


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quote:

I love to be feminised to look like a cheap whore with my mistress taking advantage of me knowing that I am a hetrosexual Am I on my way to being gay??


Probably not, but some crossdressers find that dressing helps them overcome inhibitions so that they can explore bisexual feelings.

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RE: force feminisation - 10/11/2006 6:25:33 AM   
misswipp


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Status: offline 		force feminisation,i thank is used by some as a cop out. if  a couple agrees to this life style(femdom) and the mistress wants him to be a gurl .thean maybe she   will use the word force to to get around he true feelings. i thank some wemon have trouble coming to grips with wanting there  s/o to be a gurl.she may ask herself am i gay exc. ,thus the word force gets around all this soul searching. in my case i found that through communication and life style change we have what i call willing feminization. not for everyone i am sure, but  our relationship is now much closer and getting better all the time.
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RE: force feminisation - 10/11/2006 6:43:50 AM   
MissyRane


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ORIGINAL: sari

I consider myself a closet male lesbian.


can anyone tell me why I'm allergic to this word????

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RE: force feminisation - 10/11/2006 7:02:05 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		Your gay if your attracted to other males sexually and romantically. My sub is a CD and he feels no attraction for men whatsoever he is very heterosexual. He does love to dress up in frilly women's lingerie and high heels, I don't mind it so it works for us.

So the answer is no you aren't on your way to being gay unless you are having feelings towards other men.

~Lashra


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RE: force feminisation - 10/11/2006 3:33:01 PM   
sophia37


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Status: offline 		I kind of thought this post was in jest. 

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RE: force feminisation - 10/11/2006 3:49:44 PM   
joyinslavery


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You're already there. 

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RE: force feminisation - 10/11/2006 7:06:58 PM   
Sissypinky


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RE: force feminisation - 10/11/2006 9:57:38 PM   
undergroundsea


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Status: offline 		I think a desire for feminization and sexual orientation (het, bi, or gay) are independent drives, and the two may or may not coexist. I think the want for feminization stems from different reasons for different people.

For some, it stems from an admiration for the feminine image and attire that creates a want to assume that image.

For some, it is biology related where the gender identification is not clearly defined and one leans towards the gender opposite of the sex one has--a biological male may mentally feel more like a woman. I spoke with one such guy this summer and the term he used to describe himself was androgenous.

For some feminization is a means of humiliation: forced purchase of feminine garments at a lingerie store, being called a slut, etc.

For some feminization means sissification or emasculation.

I sometimes talk about a greater tendency in the femdom/malesub dynamic to rely on constructs to mentally justify the power exchange that runs counter to roles traditionally defined. I wonder if for some people feminization is such a construct that allows one to escape the traditional role by escaping the male gender identity.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: force feminisation - 10/11/2006 10:26:21 PM   
MistressDolly


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Status: offline 		Honey, only you can answer that.  But I can tell you not all c/d's are gay- most aren't. 

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RE: force feminisation - 10/12/2006 6:58:07 AM   
MisPandora


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sari

I consider myself a closet male lesbian. I love to be feminised to look like a cheap whore with my mistress taking advantage of me knowing that I am a hetrosexual Am I on my way to being gay??

*shaking head*
1) I'm sure the lesbians of the world are pretty mad that you're trying to 'be one of them' and keep your cock.  While that might strike you as a cute cliche, really, it's not.
2) What's your idea of 'being taken advantage of'?
3) Do you know what gay sex is?  Have you ever MET a gay man?  Do you know that gay men don't have to dress up in frillies to have sex?

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RE: force feminisation - 10/12/2006 7:07:15 AM   
deschmitz5


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Status: offline 		I love to dress and wear lingerie.  I love being used by both sexes.  I love women and big cocks, so what does that make me?  I have no attraction to men other than nice cocks, but I love being with women.  Is there an answer for me?

sublace

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RE: force feminisation - 10/12/2006 7:19:01 AM   
LadyEllen


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sari

I consider myself a closet male lesbian. I love to be feminised to look like a cheap whore with my mistress taking advantage of me knowing that I am a hetrosexual Am I on my way to being gay??


If it is your mistress taking advantage of you whilst crossdressed, and you enjoy this attention from her, then how would that make you gay, exactly?

And you can consider yourself what you like. But you're definitely not a lesbian and almost certainly not gay, going from the above.

To me, you seem like a guy who enjoys crossdressing and enjoys power exchange with a dominant woman. Not to disappoint you, but this is really not that uncommon!

But you also seem to have some hang ups over this too. Just be yourself, doing what you like, with a partner who likes you for who you are and likes doing what you do. You really dont need to put a label on yourself, however much you might think others want you to.
E

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RE: force feminisation - 10/12/2006 7:21:32 AM   
larsebr


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Status: offline 		I have a question for Women? How to you feel about feminization / forced feminization of guys. What are your thoughts on this sopic in general. Do you approve or see it as being somethign negative or postive. I have thought of being feminized as a very sensual experience, especially with the Girl I love. I would really like to know beyond what I think on this topic. Thanks

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RE: force feminisation - 10/12/2006 7:23:01 AM   
MisPandora


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quote:

ORIGINAL: deschmitz5

I love to dress and wear lingerie.  I love being used by both sexes.  I love women and big cocks, so what does that make me?  I have no attraction to men other than nice cocks, but I love being with women.  Is there an answer for me?

sublace

OK, so if you want to have some sort of sexual interaction with said cocks, and you're still into sex with women....I think by dictionary terms alone you're bisexual, no?

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RE: force feminisation - 10/12/2006 7:24:33 AM   
MisPandora


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quote:

ORIGINAL: larsebr

I have a question for Women? How to you feel about feminization / forced feminization of guys. What are your thoughts on this sopic in general. Do you approve or see it as being somethign negative or postive. I have thought of being feminized as a very sensual experience, especially with the Girl I love. I would really like to know beyond what I think on this topic. Thanks

We've really beat this topic up like a horse going to a glue factory in other threads.  Have you bothered to look in the forums or do a topic search?

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RE: force feminisation - 10/12/2006 7:28:07 AM   
larsebr


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Status: offline 		I did not know, I will do a search then. Thank you

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