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Missokyst -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/20/2006 12:23:57 PM)
If you haven't ever chatted before it could be he is looking for a little "drive by domming". Your profile states you are new to this and that is such an attractive lure to someone who might see you as an easy mark. You did right to ignore his email, imo. Kyst

sublizzie -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/20/2006 12:27:03 PM)
I wonder about someone sending me their hotel room number, hotel phone number, and a time to be there. Why would they send that kind of information to a stranger? It doesn't make sense to me. Granted, at my age, it's not like Chris Hanson from Dateline is going to show up at their hotel room showing that they are soliciting underage girls, but it seems weird. Why do people think that just because I'm a fem sub I'm easy?

LadyHugs -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/20/2006 12:36:42 PM)
Dear SunshineinVA, Ladies and Gentlemen; Often, individuals who claim they are dominant come with this 'line' per se. If they contact another dominant and keep it on a scouting of the area or brief visit, fine and dandy. But, unfortunately--some dominants contact only submissives/slaves and that can lead to some rough times. If they are in town, and I have never met them before; I use the same protocols if they're fifteen minutes away or fifteen days away from me. They are strangers. Give them the address of The Crucible or some other Leather/Kink friendly location and meet them there but, I wouldn't provide a bed, food and have them come into your home. The same should be said for those who use; "I'm thinking of moving" I tell such individuals when they do move, then get in touch with me. Funny--they don't move. [Chuckles] Trust is earned. And, though the community at large has us 'wanting and willing' to help and or support our fellow kinksters--it also means not opening one's self to being a victim of assault, rape or worse. Respectfully submitted for consideration, Lady Hugs

GoddessDustyGold -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/20/2006 12:53:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sublizzie Why do people think that just because I'm a fem sub I'm easy? Sadly, it is not just feb subs that have this attitude thrown at them. I have received many an email over the years from Male Dominants as well as male subs that tell Me they will be in town for a few days and would like to get together. Now and then, depending on the tone of the brief email, and My mood (Smile) I delved a little deeper to make sure of their intent and gave the benefit of the doubt. I have yet to have one of them who was misunderstood. They were hoping for a play date and just assumed that I would be panting to meet them with My strap on and handcuffs. When I said "No", of course I wasn't a real Domme! LOL

whisperedsighs -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/20/2006 2:56:14 PM)
I actually get a lot of emails like that. I have in my profile specifically that I am not interested in long distance relationships, and keep getting emails from people who "often get up to my area." shakes head I want a man I can relate to, not play tag with.

LotusSong -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/20/2006 3:09:49 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: akisha Well this one is more polite then the one i recieved on alt a few months ago. The guy told me what hotel and room he was going to be in and that I would be there at precisely 8:00 pm to serve him. lmao. I had never talked to him before, and turned my profile off soon after receiving that e-mail. Guess it takes all kinds. [:D] I would not have responded to the IM either. If they can't take the time to talk to you before hand then why do they assume you should make time for them just because they are going to be in your area? I would have responded: "Thank you very much. My partner and I will be sure to check in on you". Sincerely, Officer Megan O'Riley

LotusSong -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/20/2006 3:16:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHugs Dear SunshineinVA, Ladies and Gentlemen; Often, individuals who claim they are dominant come with this 'line' per se. If they contact another dominant and keep it on a scouting of the area or brief visit, fine and dandy. But, unfortunately--some dominants contact only submissives/slaves and that can lead to some rough times. If they are in town, and I have never met them before; I use the same protocols if they're fifteen minutes away or fifteen days away from me. They are strangers. Give them the address of The Crucible or some other Leather/Kink friendly location and meet them there but, I wouldn't provide a bed, food and have them come into your home. The same should be said for those who use; "I'm thinking of moving" I tell such individuals when they do move, then get in touch with me. Funny--they don't move. [Chuckles] Trust is earned. And, though the community at large has us 'wanting and willing' to help and or support our fellow kinksters--it also means not opening one's self to being a victim of assault, rape or worse. Respectfully submitted for consideration, Lady Hugs Or give them the address of the local police station. Tell him there are LOTS of people who would be interested in meeting him.

SunshineinVA -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/20/2006 3:25:13 PM)
ROFLMAO!!!! All good posts, lol!!! But I really like the last 2. Sounds like something I would do too, just for shits and giggles....I'm so naughty... :P

LTRsubNW -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/20/2006 4:09:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SunshineinVA When a guy sends an im saying he's visiting from out of town and would like to schedule time (never met this dude before), isn't he treating me like a professional? Felt creepy and I didn't answer. No. But as a Pro male sub...I'm $117.00 an hour...and I don't take no shit. (But I will take canned carrots).

Missokyst -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/20/2006 4:27:43 PM)
Oh yeah, that has happened to me. A dom in Montana who I knew only superficially online let me know he was coming to california and could we meet. I let him know I would be happy to have dinner with him. And that I was sure he might enjoy talking to a dominant friend of mine who would be coming with me. Funny, I never heard from him again. Kyst quote: ORIGINAL: LotusSong quote: ORIGINAL: akisha Well this one is more polite then the one i recieved on alt a few months ago. The guy told me what hotel and room he was going to be in and that I would be there at precisely 8:00 pm to serve him. lmao. I would have responded: "Thank you very much. My partner and I will be sure to check in on you". Sincerely, Officer Megan O'Riley

LadyHugs -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/20/2006 4:34:49 PM)
Dear LotusSong, Ladies and Gentlemen; You know, directing them to the Kinky Kops might give them a thrill. The police station is the ideal 'interogation' scene just for them. Ladies version of Sadism manual, page 69. Respectfully submitted with humor, Lady Hugs

sublizzie -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/20/2006 4:48:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LotusSong Or give them the address of the local police station. Tell him there are LOTS of people who would be interested in meeting him. This is why I really don't understand someone sending their hotel room number and phone number. It would be SO easy to call the local police department and ask an officer to check on them.

Tamerofwild1s -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/20/2006 8:06:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Bearlee Yup, I get a lot of notes like that; I don't respond, either. Sometimes they wise up, and try again later...and more politely. I figure the ones that write like that are pretty new and don't have a clue what WIIWD really is all about... and have the erroneous idea it's all about easy sex. bearlee ** runs in and tapes a note to bearlee's chest .. I will be in your area ... can we fuck . I mean have coffee ...... dives out the window**

akisha -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/20/2006 9:55:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LotusSong quote: ORIGINAL: akisha Well this one is more polite then the one i recieved on alt a few months ago. The guy told me what hotel and room he was going to be in and that I would be there at precisely 8:00 pm to serve him. lmao. I had never talked to him before, and turned my profile off soon after receiving that e-mail. Guess it takes all kinds. [:D] I would not have responded to the IM either. If they can't take the time to talk to you before hand then why do they assume you should make time for them just because they are going to be in your area? I would have responded: "Thank you very much. My partner and I will be sure to check in on you". Sincerely, Officer Megan O'Riley LOL omg i wish I would have thought of something like that. Or sent my brother instead hehe. I responded and first told him to keep dreaming and asked if such a lame assed demand ever actually worked. Sadly, he said that yes it had worked in other cities. I can't imagine doing as some unknown wierdo demands. Good way to get into a heap of trouble I'd think.

SunshineinVA -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/20/2006 10:41:44 PM)
[8\|][sm=book.gif] (quietly reads section in Subbing For Beginners entitled, "So You've Met Your First Weirdo".......)

juliaoceania -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/20/2006 11:12:48 PM)
When I first registered on another site that shall remain nameless, this so-called dom emailed me and told me he was in from out of town and he was getting together with another couple for a threesome and wanted to know if I wanted to join them. It was definitely odd. There was nothing in my profile about being open to swinging and it was not a swingers site so I thought it very odd indeed.

mons -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/21/2006 2:35:11 AM)
greetings your right to feel something is wrong you do know him and just because he is coming you do no have to meet him at all gosh i wish so many women would think like you do not go for any reason. i am not sure if you ssubmissive or not but some of the submissive feel they need to do what they guy says becasue he is a dom or master whatever smart move very very good mons

koimizu -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/21/2006 4:22:57 AM)
The 'I will be in town, be available' ones are too cute to poop aren't they? Favorite line following such a sterling invite as that was ''Do you know you have a very fuckable mouth slave?" To which i replied. "Thank You for the compliment Sir. Do You know my Protector is liscenced to carry and use firearms?" Yes...i am a polite little thing with a wicked mind. However, brilliant of you SiVa!

MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/21/2006 4:36:08 AM)
Is it really a shock that some boys, when removed from their home environment, have the desire to pursue a one night stand? I see such emails as a fishing expedition - they probably send out dozens, hoping that maybe one will hook.

KatyLied -> RE: Visting Dom Question (11/21/2006 4:50:53 AM)
quote: I see such emails as a fishing expedition - they probably send out dozens, hoping that maybe one will hook . That's exactly what they are. I've had them email "where exactly are you located? I will be passing through your area over the weekend and want to get together." Really? Whatever. I don't even respond to that sort of nonsense.

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