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AmakeYumi -> Etiquette (11/20/2006 1:32:44 PM)

I was just about to message a dom for the first time and realized I have no idea what would be appropriate to say. My first dom contacted me, so i've never had to worry about it.

So what is the etiquette when a sub is messaging a dom?



mnottertail -> RE: Etiquette (11/20/2006 1:35:12 PM)

Normal nice folk etiquitte is just fine.

Ron 



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Etiquette (11/20/2006 1:38:56 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail
Normal nice folk etiquitte is just fine.

Ron 

Ditto.

Same manners you've always used.  Unless your manners suck, and then pretend you have nice normal manners.



Kalira -> RE: Etiquette (11/20/2006 1:40:20 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: AmakeYumi

I was just about to message a dom for the first time and realized I have no idea what would be appropriate to say. My first dom contacted me, so i've never had to worry about it.

So what is the etiquette when a sub is messaging a dom?


Sometimes hello works very nicely [:)]



Hercuckslave -> RE: Etiquette (11/20/2006 1:43:33 PM)

Dom/mes are people too.  I don't believe that a sub has to approach a Dom/me in a submissive manner.  There has been no agreed upon power exchange and both parties are on equal footing.  So just be polite, be yourself, be respectful.  Same as you would in meeting anybody new.

Regards,

M's m



raiken -> RE: Etiquette (11/20/2006 1:52:49 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: AmakeYumi

I was just about to message a dom for the first time and realized I have no idea what would be appropriate to say. My first dom contacted me, so i've never had to worry about it.

So what is the etiquette when a sub is messaging a dom?



What others have stated, and to add that nice sentiments or thoughts about his profile are usually well received, and do make a nice segway into other areas of thought and or questions.  Just be yourself, as you were here when posting this thread.  ~smile 



diamonddreamlove -> RE: Etiquette (11/20/2006 2:14:16 PM)

What they said and a good luck to go with it.



Mercnbeth -> RE: Etiquette (11/20/2006 3:02:49 PM)

quote:

So what is the etiquette when a sub is messaging a dom?


'Proper' etiquette would be honesty. Ideally the same as when a dom is messaging a sub.



joyinslavery -> RE: Etiquette (11/20/2006 4:03:09 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Ditto.

Same manners you've always used.  Unless your manners suck, and then pretend you have nice normal manners.




That doesn't always work. 

I've tried it. 

I'm SO transparent!     



slavemaia -> RE: Etiquette (11/20/2006 4:11:17 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: AmakeYumi

I was just about to message a dom for the first time and realized I have no idea what would be appropriate to say. My first dom contacted me, so i've never had to worry about it.

So what is the etiquette when a sub is messaging a dom?



Beside manners, i think it's important to know what it is you want to know about Him. i don't see this format as all that different from vanilla when it comes to getting acquainted. We're all still people getting acquainted. Personally, the more real someone is, the more honest, the more i tend to like them.



AmakeYumi -> RE: Etiquette (11/20/2006 7:43:53 PM)

Thanks so much for the responses. I just wanted to make sure I went about these things correctly.

As it turned out i accidently left te message I wanted to send as a personal note. I flagged him as a favorite, but I cant find him again.



mnottertail -> RE: Etiquette (11/21/2006 6:26:56 AM)

If you have more than 20 favorites (oh, you nasty bitch!!!!! LOL) you can't get to them, there is no scrolling for that.  You have to weed out the less interesting.

Ron



sophia37 -> RE: Etiquette (11/21/2006 6:52:28 AM)

Since you have no idea how to break the ice with someone, I think maybe I can help. Im sure you'll find just the right Dom if you write to a total stranger and say, "Yo. Willling to be your sex slave and total slut. No limits here baby!"  I find a high quality pitch such as that, will get you good results.



mnottertail -> RE: Etiquette (11/21/2006 6:55:39 AM)

Sex slaves and total sluts are required to have profiles and pictures sophia37, I think it is TOS.

LOL



SunshineinVA -> RE: Etiquette (11/21/2006 7:40:10 AM)

But would you respond to a non-pic attempt at contact?  Either Dom or sub....            



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Etiquette (11/21/2006 7:42:18 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: SunshineinVA

But would you respond to a non-pic attempt at contact?  Either Dom or sub....            

Depends on their message.  I am, however, more likely to respond to a message with a pic, than to the identical message without a pic.



AmakeYumi -> RE: Etiquette (11/21/2006 4:26:49 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

If you have more than 20 favorites (oh, you nasty bitch!!!!! LOL) you can't get to them, there is no scrolling for that.  You have to weed out the less interesting.

Ron

haha i dont know how to navigate my favorites. It looks like everne on the site it on it, buit I've only added him.



AmakeYumi -> RE: Etiquette (11/21/2006 4:27:49 PM)

oh yeah... picture thing. I hope thats not held against me. I dont feel comfortable putting up face pics on bdsm sites,



mnottertail -> RE: Etiquette (11/21/2006 4:39:09 PM)

Really?  So you ain't angela jolie?  We know she must be hanging out here somewhere, probably one of the moderators.

Ron 



AmakeYumi -> RE: Etiquette (11/21/2006 4:43:05 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Really?  So you ain't angela jolie?  We know she must be hanging out here somewhere, probably one of the moderators.

Ron 

harhar



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