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ozgirl -> relationships (11/20/2006 7:41:41 PM)
HI, wow my first post :) do you think it possible for a submissive to be in a bdsm r/ship with another submissive? ozgirl

BitaTruble -> RE: relationships (11/20/2006 7:47:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ozgirl HI, wow my first post :) do you think it possible for a submissive to be in a bdsm r/ship with another submissive? ozgirl Welcome to the boards! Perhaps Zumala will chime in because I believe she is in a relationship with her husband which is sub/sub and they seem to be working out pretty well. As long as everyone is happy, getting their needs met, I don't see why not although it may be harder. Good communication can help with issues which arrive and need to be confronted along with up front dialouge which is really honest. If two people want things to work out enough, they'll make it happen. Celeste

ozgirl -> RE: relationships (11/20/2006 8:38:08 PM)
thanks for your thoughts Celeste. i need to do a lot more thinking on this one ozgirl

MasterFireMaam -> RE: relationships (11/20/2006 8:38:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ozgirl HI, wow my first post :) do you think it possible for a submissive to be in a bdsm r/ship with another submissive? ozgirl If by BDSM you mean the fetishes of bondage, discipline (corporal punishment), sadism and masochism, absolutely they can. If by BDSM you meant a Ds relationship...well, someone has to be the Dominant. It will depend on how the relationship is arranged and what not, but one person will have to be the Dominant for at least part of the time. If they can do that, yes, a relationship is possible. Master Fire

ozgirl -> RE: relationships (11/20/2006 9:17:19 PM)
thanks for your comment Master Fire it is (was) a Ds relationship where she has decided that she is actually submissive. it may be time for me to move on ozgirl

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: relationships (11/20/2006 9:32:58 PM)
I'll just stick with my standard: If you can imagine it, someone out there is doing it, and very happy about it.

gypsychick -> RE: relationships (11/20/2006 9:39:08 PM)
my question is why would you have to move on, can you not find a Dominant to come into your life that way your needs are met and you don't have to leave a relationship that is pre-existing?

theGuideGoddess -> RE: relationships (11/21/2006 5:09:29 AM)
I agree with previous statements. It is only time to move out of a relationship when: 1. There is no trust. 2. Your needs are not and can not be met. 3. It stands in the way of your happiness. Otherwise I see no need to end a relationship. In my life and mind relationships evolve, and terminate only when necessary. The Guiding Goddess

ExtremeOwnerIL -> RE: relationships (11/21/2006 5:22:06 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross I'll just stick with my standard: If you can imagine it, someone out there is doing it, and very happy about it. I recall something similar - an old A.S.B. mantra - Ugol's Law: Two of the most common formulations of Ugol's Law, as it came to be known, are "For any given kink, either nobody does it or more than one person does it", and "If you ever ask 'am I the only one who <insert kink>?' the answer is invariably 'no'." (from the alt.sex.bondage FAQ - http://www.mindspring.com/~frites/wel.htm#UGOL) Regards, EO

sub4hire -> RE: relationships (11/21/2006 6:46:01 AM)
Remember the old saying "opposites attract" It has been tested over time and generally is right on. Although I think any relationship can last for a period of time. Depending on what time frame you consider successful it can even be a successful relationship. Yes, I believe it would fizzle after some time though....someone said..."as long as your needs are getting met" Well we know that is not the case if you want a dominant. I do know top couples...who have been together a while now. They do everything outside of their relationship. That is something you will no doubt have to consider.

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