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AAkasha -> RE: newbie question (11/21/2006 12:26:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: thetammyjo quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha quote: ORIGINAL: longingtobeapet thank you Mistress Bossy for your words and understanding. I am hoping there is a Mistress out there for me that is willing to train a lonely pet that is VERY loyal and will do any task or order... al I want is to be trained and give happinesssto a Mistress.... I do not thkn that is alot to ask pet I have a need for an online slave who is willing to do any task to please me. You did say you would do ANY task or order, so I am sure you will be an obedient and hardworking slave to please this demanding online Mistress. Your first task is to compile a 75-page summary of the Carolina Hurricane's Stanley Cup run last year. Since you live in that area, this is a perfect task for you. I want you to compile news clips and do first hand interviews with the local community about their thoughts on the team. I want you to go through all the newspaper articles (which you must also send to me) and summarize the quotes from all the hockey players, put them in a grid alphabetically and make this a cover sheet. Once you complete this task, I will allow you to start attending Hurricane's practices and taking pictures of the players for me. I am looking forward to having you as my slave. I can assure you, these tasks WILL please me!! Akasha Akasha does this really fall under the category of "Training"? Seems more like it falls under the category of an online slave or servant to me. To the OP again: What do you mean when you use the word "training"? If you can spell that out clearly in your profile and when coorespond with women who are also looking for online that might increase your success rate. Just popped into my head right now. Let me give you an example. When I train someone I include training in behavior, service, experience in various SM play, and a lot of reading and writing assignments. You can see that most of that just wouldn't work online at all because being unable to see and hear means being unable to correct and guide appropriately. So what do you mean by "training"? Tammyjo, I respectfully disagree. He said he wants "training" and in his first post he clarified that to mean: "...but I actually felt excited to realize I love pleasing, following orders, and making a Mistress happy." I gave him orders that would: * Please me * Require him to follow orders * Make a Mistress happy I used an exaggerated task to make a point; like a lot of men that desire "serving," what he seeks is a fantasy. Not serving. Serving a woman to make HER happy often includes tasks that are NOT that erotic or exciting. But the slave gets pleasure out of knowing he has made her day. I've had relationship (online and off) that include tasks that may appear mundane. However, when the sub realized how MUCH I was enjoy it..or how turned on I was...or how much it made my day -- well, they realize that it is fulfilling. But what confuses the situation is when guys like the OP go around claiming they want to serve, when in reality, they want to BE served. He wants a list of erotic commands to follow. Akasha

thetammyjo -> RE: newbie question (11/21/2006 12:35:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha quote: ORIGINAL: thetammyjo quote: ORIGINAL: AAkasha quote: ORIGINAL: longingtobeapet thank you Mistress Bossy for your words and understanding. I am hoping there is a Mistress out there for me that is willing to train a lonely pet that is VERY loyal and will do any task or order... al I want is to be trained and give happinesssto a Mistress.... I do not thkn that is alot to ask pet I have a need for an online slave who is willing to do any task to please me. You did say you would do ANY task or order, so I am sure you will be an obedient and hardworking slave to please this demanding online Mistress. Your first task is to compile a 75-page summary of the Carolina Hurricane's Stanley Cup run last year. Since you live in that area, this is a perfect task for you. I want you to compile news clips and do first hand interviews with the local community about their thoughts on the team. I want you to go through all the newspaper articles (which you must also send to me) and summarize the quotes from all the hockey players, put them in a grid alphabetically and make this a cover sheet. Once you complete this task, I will allow you to start attending Hurricane's practices and taking pictures of the players for me. I am looking forward to having you as my slave. I can assure you, these tasks WILL please me!! Akasha Akasha does this really fall under the category of "Training"? Seems more like it falls under the category of an online slave or servant to me. To the OP again: What do you mean when you use the word "training"? If you can spell that out clearly in your profile and when coorespond with women who are also looking for online that might increase your success rate. Just popped into my head right now. Let me give you an example. When I train someone I include training in behavior, service, experience in various SM play, and a lot of reading and writing assignments. You can see that most of that just wouldn't work online at all because being unable to see and hear means being unable to correct and guide appropriately. So what do you mean by "training"? Tammyjo, I respectfully disagree. He said he wants "training" and in his first post he clarified that to mean: "...but I actually felt excited to realize I love pleasing, following orders, and making a Mistress happy." I gave him orders that would: * Please me * Require him to follow orders * Make a Mistress happy I used an exaggerated task to make a point; like a lot of men that desire "serving," what he seeks is a fantasy. Not serving. Serving a woman to make HER happy often includes tasks that are NOT that erotic or exciting. But the slave gets pleasure out of knowing he has made her day. I've had relationship (online and off) that include tasks that may appear mundane. However, when the sub realized how MUCH I was enjoy it..or how turned on I was...or how much it made my day -- well, they realize that it is fulfilling. But what confuses the situation is when guys like the OP go around claiming they want to serve, when in reality, they want to BE served. He wants a list of erotic commands to follow. Akasha So his definition of "training" then really is quite different from what I would consider training? Is that correct, longingtobeapet? Because I'm still seeing a statement of what you discovered you liked, not of how you define or see training. Not being clear about what you want is really going to slow down anyone's search.

longingtobeapet -> RE: newbie question (11/21/2006 12:59:25 PM)
I sent you a personal message Tammyjo, since you understood me best.... and I thank you! pet

Morrigel -> RE: newbie question (11/21/2006 2:16:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: longingtobeapet Is it possible to actually be trained strickly on line. But, sometimes I feel this lifestyle will never happen for me :-( On-line training is not a "lifestyle", from my point of view. Real relationships take place in real time and real space, not in cyberspace. On-line training is a fantasy--it may be mutually pleasurable for both parties, but the real risks and real rewards of a real relationship are completely absent. While you keep your desires in a realm which is divorced from your real life and the real people in it--including you--you will always be dealing with the kind of abandonment you have described. Reality always takes precedence over fantasy, in the life of any sane human being. If you want the real lifestyle, you're going to have to do what it takes to make it happen. That entails some sacrifices and risks, no matter who you are. Everyone you speak to on these forums who has engaged in real BDSM play or pursued a real D/S relationship has had to overcome these hurdles and obstacles in one form or another. We all had to overcome our own doubts and fears and whatever blockades that society put in our way, to get to the promised land. I'm afraid you are not any different. --M

MistressDolly -> RE: newbie question (11/21/2006 5:07:29 PM)
On-line seems to have worked for you- -continue on until you find a compatible Mistress close to you. Nothing wrong with on-line if you and she find it satisfying. To each is own.

MisPandora -> RE: newbie question (11/21/2006 9:19:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: longingtobeapet Dear Mistress Pandora, I can not assume the wonderful world it is to be a MIstress. I can only speak for the MIstress that owned me for 6+ months. She enjoyed it...so she told me. she loved giving me small tasks to do everyday and then as the weeks went on... she tested me ffuther and futher... she told me that i was the best "pet" she ever had. I gave her pleasure (she said) by being obiendient and loyal and by completed ALL her tasks she gave me. She told me that she as VERY pleased with me and was very sorry to give me up... but her life got in the way. SO.. yes.. I think we both would get pleasure out of the experience thak you Mistress OK, thanks for the answer.

joyinslavery -> RE: newbie question (11/21/2006 9:45:30 PM)
Okay, I know I'll get some neg. about busting on the OP but... Why is such obvious trolling tolerated here????? Help me understand it and I'll shut the f___ up.

subfever -> RE: newbie question (11/21/2006 10:03:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: longingtobeapet Dear Mistress Pandora, I can not assume the wonderful world it is to be a MIstress. I can only speak for the MIstress that owned me for 6+ months. She enjoyed it...so she told me. she loved giving me small tasks to do everyday and then as the weeks went on... she tested me ffuther and futher... she told me that i was the best "pet" she ever had. I gave her pleasure (she said) by being obiendient and loyal and by completed ALL her tasks she gave me. She told me that she as VERY pleased with me and was very sorry to give me up... but her life got in the way. SO.. yes.. I think we both would get pleasure out of the experience thak you Mistress Did you ever speak to your former Mistress over the phone?

longingtobeapet -> RE: newbie question (11/22/2006 6:49:47 AM)
YES... I had spoken to her on the phone many time..... when she ordered me to! I hadto obey. pet

kishasub -> RE: newbie question (11/22/2006 7:09:49 AM)
Was thinking the same as you specially after he was set a task and declinded [:)]

longingtobeapet -> RE: newbie question (11/22/2006 7:16:10 AM)
I did not decline the task... I declined my relationship with a Mistress. I feel there is a very special bond that forms between a Mistress and her pet. At least in the very little experience I had with my on line Mistress, she was tender, but firm, kind but very task orenanted which I perfromed well in doing. I gave me sexual slef to my Mistress and she trained me according to her needs and I am just searching for the same kind of training. I am sure no one can deny me of my feelings and wants and I know there is a Mistress out there for me that is a good match... unfortunitly I have not met one yet... but I am willing to try! pet

adaddysgirl -> RE: newbie question (11/22/2006 7:24:24 AM)
longing, *Do you ever* intend on finding a RL partner, or will you always remain online only....like for the next 20 years? i see that you say you are looking for online only but don't mention anything about going RL some day. Will that eventually be your goal? Or no? [8\|]** DG

longingtobeapet -> RE: newbie question (11/22/2006 7:45:49 AM)
Dear DG, Thak you for your question... I feel like I am being verbally beat'in, just becasue I am searching for the right Mistress, to answer your question... YES... evenually I would love a real life Mistress but there are trust issues that need to be dealt with and I feel it takes a long time to built this trust on both sides of the Mistress and pet relationship. but right now... it has to happen on line ONLY and I have heard it is possible... my desire to part of this lifestyle motivates me to continue my search... if it worked for my past Mistress and I.. it work again.... I am hoping anyway. thank you pet

joyinslavery -> RE: newbie question (11/22/2006 8:27:17 AM)
Has anyone asked this guy yet if he is married or in a committed relationship? Online can be very convenient I suppose. Btw, please look for MY trolling post coming soon to "Ask a Mistress'. In it, I will describe what I'm looking for, my qualifications and how I enjoy pleasing a Mistress, as well as making it known that I am "unowned" and looking. Then I'll ask for 'advice'. What the hell. Seems to work.

Philosopher -> RE: newbie question (11/22/2006 10:17:47 PM)
It is possible to train a sub in an online relationship, but it's not the same as in an offline relationship. Most of my experience is online, but I do have some offline experience too. For me training a sub online involves getting him to write (or more often than not, co-write) fiction that I enjoy, in the style I enjoy, giving him some real-life tasks he has to complete (and write about), and some non-fiction writing tasks where he has to do research on a particular topic. The reason I am mostly looking for an online relationship, is because I am fairly young (21 in less than a month), and I still live with my parents. I don't rule out an offline relationship (that's what I'm aiming to have one day), I have met people from online in the real world.

MissyRane -> RE: newbie question (11/23/2006 1:52:35 AM)
I simply find the idea of online training terribly lame in every single aspect of it and can't think of taking part in it I get absolutely nothing out of it, but I guess it works for some people sooooo I guess it doesn't hurt trying I mean some dominants are only looking for online training so I guess it must work for them too then.

MistressMaamNH -> RE: newbie question (11/23/2006 2:20:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: longingtobeapet dear Mistress, Is it possible to actually be trained strickly on line. The answer to your question, can be found in your post, in the third line of the body of your letter. quote: I have this deep feeling inside to be a pet (sub) to a Mistress, but I only want to be trained on line. I have been trained for about 6 months but she left me to have ababy and had no time for me, but I actually felt excited to realize I love pleasing, following orders, and making a Mistress happy. But, sometimes I feel this lifestyle will never happen for me :-( Should I end my search for an On Line Mistress or follow my dreams? What are your dreams? If they aren't about finding an online mistress, why are you wasting your time doing that? If your "lifestyle" is about sitting in front of a computer typing out words that help feed into your erotic fantasies so you get all aroused, that seems a bit limiting. There's more to a lifestyle than banging a keyboard-what you describe just sounds like a little diversion for a thrill. quote: Any help would be greatful. Thank you! Unowned pet your further posts reveal a little bit more about what you are seeking. "Service," so long as it is by your definition..not necessarily about what a Dominant Woman states She wants. If one didn't know better, One would think that your post was just a way to advertise yourself in more than just your profile, and that you were just looking for online wankoff fodder. Best of luck to you with that one. MMNH

MsSonnetMarwood -> RE: newbie question (11/23/2006 6:21:27 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: longingtobeapet She enjoyed it...so she told me. she loved giving me small tasks to do everyday and then as the weeks went on... she tested me ffuther and futher... she told me that i was the best "pet" she ever had. I gave her pleasure (she said) by being obiendient and loyal and by completed ALL her tasks she gave me. She told me that she as VERY pleased with me and was very sorry to give me up... but her life got in the way. SO.. yes.. I think we both would get pleasure out of the experience So I'm curious...if she was getting sooooo much out of it (despite the fact that it sounds like an awful lot of work for her)....and you were getting so much out of it....why were you both not willing to scale back while she was so busy? Life happens, no matter what kind of relationship one is in - real life, online - and the amount of time you have to dedicate to it will vary given what else is going on in your life. That's a fact, and being adaptable is key in making a relationship work. What were YOU willing to do to make the relationship easier for her to maintain? Rather than sitting back and waiting for instructions from her, what initiative did YOU take to make her life easier when she had so much going on? Or are you so needy-greedy that if you don't get your daily "wank instructions" you bail to look for it elsewhere?

LadyEllen -> RE: newbie question (11/23/2006 7:32:32 AM)
I'm interested why it has to be online only at this time. Usually it indicates to me an unaccepting wife in the background somewhere, or someone who has an appetite for billy goats who cross bridges. There are other reasons too of course - valid reasons, but I'm interested in why someone would choose online and not state a reason, as when there is a good reason, they often say so. E

ScienceBoy -> RE: newbie question (11/23/2006 7:39:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissyRane I simply find the idea of online training terribly lame in every single aspect of it and can't think of taking part in it I get absolutely nothing out of it, but I guess it works for some people sooooo I guess it doesn't hurt trying I mean some dominants are only looking for online training so I guess it must work for them too then. Phonesex by any other name, would smell as sweet? [;)] Not that phone sex is a bad thing either. I've shagged some lovely rotary dials...

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