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Aine -> RE: On Deception (11/22/2006 11:03:21 AM)
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I guess another way to look at things, I'm wondering if a person is upfront and honest about themselves and their situations, how does that person set themselves up for disappointment/failure? We have absolutely no control over who lies to us, about what, and why.
Some people aren't quite so social savvy, and while meaning well and are earnest in their attempts to be open and communicate with others, they might not see that person for who they are, if, in fact that person is of a less than savory flavor.
I don't consider those people as people that set themselves up for failure. I see them as perhaps a little misguided. And generally those people are very sensitive, and tend to be vocal about things, not always fully understanding why it seems that people "target" them, or that they feel like they are hurt more often than others. I see it as a lack of foresight. It's a lack of "worldliness" as some might call it.
Not all of those people are self-sheltered. Not all of those people are the ones that for some odd reason seek out those less than savory characters. Whether consciously or subconsciously.
I for one during my younger years was one of those that was sheltered by her surroundings, her upbringings. I always felt as though I understood what was going on around me, when in reality, I had no flaming clue. I wasn't as insightful as I've become (and I wouldn't consider myself over insightful nowadays, just more than I was when I was younger).
I didn't intentionally set myself up for bad relationships, bad friendships and bad situations. I was just naieve and rather short-sighted when it came to those I surrounded myself with and it took a lot of time and a lot of mis-steps for me to start to see things the way I was supposed to rather than becoming even more....I guess introverted in my views of people and perhaps bitter. Nowadays I take a step back to assess people and situations more than I used to and have found myself much more careful, less overly-trusting, and to be honest, a little more sane these days. But it didn't change my level of overall friendliness or cheerful outlook. I'm still rather optimistic and open. Just not quite so...blind. *adjusts her glasses* The new prescription helps too lol
Hopefully that didn't wander around too much and still made some sort of sense in relation to the OP.
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