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drawntothedark -> RE: Help!!! (11/30/2006 10:28:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse I just ditched a submissive poofer after a 3rd and final poof. I am sick of the excuses, sick of pretty words, and sick of the mind fucks. If someone wants to be a part of your life, they need to be a part of your life. You are not a convenience, to be picked up and toyed with whenever in the mood. You are a human being with feelings and deserve to be treated as such. NO ONE should be treated like that, dominant or sub/slave. Raise glass.........HERE HERE.....Well done!

acctonthelook -> RE: Help!!! (11/30/2006 1:22:09 PM)
I would not take him back into my life period. There is a bond, respect, and tolerance can only go so far. Since he lacks the core eliment of respect then you have no bond. Without bond, trust, respect - why bother?

desoutter -> RE: Help!!! (11/30/2006 4:44:46 PM)
How does that old saying go? poof on me once... shame on you.... poof on me twice... shame on me... something like that... desoutter

AGORANTE -> RE: Help!!! (11/30/2006 6:19:21 PM)
I know this one. I saw it on the X-Files. Its called Spontaneous Human Combustion. People just go Poof!

juliaoceania -> RE: Help!!! (11/30/2006 6:27:01 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: natasha66 We had a very intense Dom/sub relationship for over a year, and suddenly all communication ceased. I have YET to get a really sound explanation, but he keeps calling....I have seen him, but not for more than coffee. If I do resume this, and that is a BIG if, it will be on my terms....PERIOD. Then is it a dom/sub relationship? I would feel as though the very structure of the D/s dynamic was utterly ruined if a dom had to crawl back to me under my terms... but that is just me.

natasha66 -> RE: Help!!! (12/4/2006 7:34:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania quote: ORIGINAL: natasha66 We had a very intense Dom/sub relationship for over a year, and suddenly all communication ceased. I have YET to get a really sound explanation, but he keeps calling....I have seen him, but not for more than coffee. If I do resume this, and that is a BIG if, it will be on my terms....PERIOD. Then is it a dom/sub relationship? I would feel as though the very structure of the D/s dynamic was utterly ruined if a dom had to crawl back to me under my terms... but that is just me. I may be a sub, but this experience has taught me NOT to be a doormat. The trust has to be rebuilt, and I am NOT willing to let him walk all over me. PERIOD. I'm giving this a shot....if he blows it again, I'm done.

MstrssPassion -> RE: Help!!! (12/4/2006 7:51:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: natasha66 quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania quote: ORIGINAL: natasha66 We had a very intense Dom/sub relationship for over a year, and suddenly all communication ceased. I have YET to get a really sound explanation, but he keeps calling....I have seen him, but not for more than coffee. If I do resume this, and that is a BIG if, it will be on my terms....PERIOD. Then is it a dom/sub relationship? I would feel as though the very structure of the D/s dynamic was utterly ruined if a dom had to crawl back to me under my terms... but that is just me. I may be a sub, but this experience has taught me NOT to be a doormat. The trust has to be rebuilt, and I am NOT willing to let him walk all over me. PERIOD. I'm giving this a shot....if he blows it again, I'm done. I have to wholeheartedly agree with Julia here... if you are going to call the shots & get together with this guy on your terms & he has to follow the set guidelines you lay out for him then you well completely flip the dynamics of the relationship & there won't be a way in the world for it to flourish. If you really identify as submissive then you need to find someone you can truly surrender to so that you can submit. If you are constantly having to run checks & balances against someone because of his inconsistency how the heck are you going to grow to depend on this person to guide you?

natasha66 -> RE: Help!!! (1/9/2007 9:12:54 AM)
UPDATE: i called it quits with him for good. Moving on.....

corsetgirl -> RE: Help!!! (1/9/2007 9:52:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse I just ditched a submissive poofer after a 3rd and final poof. I am sick of the excuses, sick of pretty words, and sick of the mind fucks. If someone wants to be a part of your life, they need to be a part of your life. You are not a convenience, to be picked up and toyed with whenever in the mood. You are a human being with feelings and deserve to be treated as such. NO ONE should be treated like that, dominant or sub/slave. What she said! My ex-husband would say, "either you are with me or you are not with me and if you are not with me, then get out." Those who pull disappearing acts would not be worth my time!

desoutter -> RE: Help!!! (1/9/2007 11:36:19 AM)
get involved again! If you dont mind his poofing from time to time... for no apparent reason.... or explanation.... poof on me once... shame on you poof on me twice... shame on me... desoutter

natasha66 -> RE: Help!!! (1/9/2007 12:46:22 PM)
I heard this on the radio today...it seemed to fit LOL I Will Survive Lyrics by Gloria Gaynor First I was afraid I was petrified Kept thinking I could never live without you by my side But I spent so many nights thinking how you did me wrong I grew strong I learned how to carry on and so you're back from outer space I just walked in to find you here with that sad look upon your face I should have changed my stupid lock I should have made you leave your key If I had known for just one second You'd be back to bother me Well now go walk out the door just turn around now 'cause you're not welcome anymore weren't you the one who tried to hurt me with goodbye you think I'd crumble you think I'd lay down and die Oh no, not I I will survive as long as i know how to love I know I will stay alive I've got all my life to live I've got all my love to give and I'll survive I will survive It took all the strength I had not to fall apart kept trying hard to mend the pieces of my broken heart and I spent oh so many nights just feeling sorry for myself I used to cry Now I hold my head up high and you see me somebody new I'm not that chained up little person still in love with you and so you felt like dropping in and just expect me to be free now I'm saving all my loving for someone who's loving me

Totalmaster4you -> RE: Help!!! (1/20/2007 2:35:33 PM)
NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

MzMia -> RE: Help!!! (1/20/2007 3:44:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: natasha66 I was involved with a Master for a year and a half. Then suddenly, POOF, He was gone. He called on my birthday out of the blue a few weeks ago. I want to get involved with Him again, but I am scared. Any suggestions would be appreciated!!! Sweetheart, you deserve a lot better treatment than that Master. Move on.

Miraculix -> RE: Help!!! (1/20/2007 5:20:55 PM)
* say "nay", and make sure that he/she understands the Constitution has to be ammended for the "poofer" to be allowed back...

ckattchaser -> RE: Help!!! (1/21/2007 3:05:12 AM)
what never was can't be lost

natasha66 -> RE: Help!!! (6/30/2007 6:52:51 AM)
I'm NOT going back to that hell.....

kittensmailbox -> RE: Help!!! (6/30/2007 6:57:34 AM)
i say walk away with class.... if you wanted to go back to him, you would have without posting here looking for help.. You know in your heart that would be a huge mistake to go back... Take pride in yourself and walk away...

Domspaintoy -> RE: Help!!! (6/30/2007 7:18:00 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: natasha66 We had a very intense Dom/sub relationship for over a year, and suddenly all communication ceased. I have YET to get a really sound explanation, but he keeps calling....I have seen him, but not for more than coffee. If I do resume this, and that is a BIG if, it will be on my terms....PERIOD. Sounds to me like you have already made the decision that you will resume the relationship. Did i miss the part where you answered a previous question from another poster about how long he 'poofed' for? Could be something medical he was embarassed about? or worse if he only 'poofed' for a short period of time perhaps an STD or some such similar thing? Just a thought anyway. i hope you can trust him again and be happy in your decision. dpt. [:D]

CitizenCane -> RE: Help!!! (6/30/2007 7:41:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: raiken quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania I have never had someone outright poof on me, it does seem like an internet thing to be honest. If it is he probably poofed because he was going to have to take it to the next level and he is married or something, that is the way internet relationships are. I would just remember this, if he is married and using you to live some sort of fantasy life over the internet, when you start to get too close again, he will poof again, that is the way I have seen these things play out with other people anyways. On further thought....there are really those married folks who seriously are looking to fill a void or need in their life in real time. While not wanting to break from or hurt their sig other in the process. In that case, a poof may happen if the sig other found out...and the poof may be very instantaneous and without warning in some cases. Unless discovery lead to being murdered by one's spouse, I can't see how it justifies simply disappearing. How hard is it to send an e-mail?

zindyslave -> RE: Help!!! (6/30/2007 11:11:49 AM)
I am glad you finally left him for good. Didn't seem like a good idea to stay with him since he was a known poofer.

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