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Estring -> RE: New sub has questions (2/8/2004 9:06:45 PM)
Very sorry to hear that Rain. My condolences to you.

proudsub -> RE: New sub has questions (2/8/2004 11:54:10 PM)
In response to belongintoyou, I was thoroughly trained online and found it worked very well and prepared me for real life experiences as a sub. We played out scenes in the cyberworld that seemed very real to me because he was very explicit in describing all details and we both have good imaginations. Some of his favorite punishments involved doing certain things in real life, for example I would be told to take myself to the edge 3 or 4 times but not be allowed to cum, or not allowed to cum at all for a week, or one time he had me wear a vib and plug while I was shopping. To make an online D/s relationship work a sub MUST do as she is told and not lie to her Master about it, or it is meaningless. Of course with a webcam Master can have his sub do all kinds of things including spanking or flogging herself. I hope it works out for you . proudsub

MistressDREAD -> RE: New sub has questions (2/9/2004 6:47:25 AM)
[&o][:o]Sorry for your loss and I am glad that you did get to have four days with your new Master but remember belongtoyou both Masters that you had gone thru in one short month are just the beginning and because real life has cut you no slack doesent mean you should isolate your self at this early begining. Take a day, hell,take a week and a breath and then get back in line for the Looking for Master, and Im sure your train will come in.[:o][&o]

belongtoyou -> RE: New sub has questions (2/9/2004 9:01:28 AM)
Mistress Dread, Thank you for your support. However, i am still in shock from losing Him, and i don't know how quickly i want to search for a new dom. Again, i didn't know Him very well, but it's still a loss. i know i should NOT isolate myself, and actually, i've chatted online with a number of people from this website who have been extremely supportive...which i most certainly appreciate...so, i do reach out, as needed, but feel i need more time before seeking a new dom. Respectfully, Rain

raney -> RE: New sub has questions (11/25/2005 3:59:19 PM)
Jan, i felt compelled to reply and share my situation. i apologize to all if this gets longwinded. sometimes i just dont know when to stop lol anyhow, i myself have 2 boys. 11 and 7. they are from my first marriage. Master Ryan has taken to my boys very quickly. He treats them as His own children. ok, that said. we are married, but do not live together at the moment <long story LOL> anyway, Master has a pretty flexible schedule. He does work upwards of 60 hours a week, but it is not a 9-5 job. He works all three shifts. during the week, He is almost always guaranteed to be off from 830 am to 1 pm. lol, today was an exception. most of our "play" time is in the mornings while the boys are in school. GOD i love it when they reach school age lol. we live 24/7. my children are oblivious to our "kink" although i do wonder at times if ive woken them up in the middle of the night lol. i guess what i am trying to say, is we go with the flow. we adjust our behaviours etc to circumstances. we MAKE time for eachother. even if i was working, i am sure, that we would spend just as much time together as we do now. any job that i get in the future <if i do> will work around HIS schedule and the childrens school schedule. we work at our relationship everyday. we are in constant contact while He is at work through text messaging. A lovely little invention lol if i am told to do something before He comes over, and i have not done it, i will be punished. if it will be some time before He comes over again, i will be punished when He does come over. Not necessarily right away either lol.. He likes to see me squirm and worry. i guess what my point is.. is that we MAKE time for eachother. even if it is 2 am and i know He is sleeping, i have permission to call Him at all hours of the day. doesnt mean He will answer, but He will return my call as soon as He can. <like when He wakes up lol> if this is something that the both of you truly want, you will make the time for it. And, even if i only get five minutes with Him in a day, it has made my day just seeing Him and being able to kiss Him. not everything is D/s. and yes, there are the days when He chooses not to visit me. i of course am disappointed, but i know that He needs His time too. but there is not a day that goes by when i dont get a phone call at least every few hours. well.. cept for the one day that He ignored me for 12 hours. man that about killed me. it about killed Him too from what He told me. but it was necessary. i learned a very valuable lesson. a mistake i am not likely to repeat in the future. sorry this got really long lol stephanie

swtnsparkling -> RE: New sub has questions (11/25/2005 4:46:14 PM)
I don't believe in trainers... IMO the only person who can train you is your Dom/Master How would anyone else know what any Dom/Master would want, it is all individual. trainer= horny dude he just wants to get his rocks off -watching on web cam / hearing on phone and he will tell you, your being a very good sub by doing it and not a good sub if you don't.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: New sub has questions (11/25/2005 10:59:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: belongtoyou [:(] Hello again........ so sad. I'm going out of town for a week, leaving tomorrow. Emailed my master this morning...still haven't heard from him. what's a sub to do? Rain Be prepared for a lot of heartbreak and destroyed illusions once you get out of sub-frenzy.

Slaveless1 -> RE: New sub has questions (11/26/2005 11:48:04 PM)
rain, I for one would not want more than one training. As stated in previous posts you would have to guess as to the liking of two different people. This is not fair to you period Second bring it on dear. I love the challange a sub with osme slight back bone. Makes it more interesting and leads to more punishment too.....hehehehe

FelinePersuasion -> RE: New sub has questions (11/27/2005 12:57:03 AM)
You've only known this guy 2 days or so, he's out of state you claim to really like him maybe even fall for him in other threads. And you're already under training? I'd recomend slow down first of all. training is important and not something you give to someone you've only known a "few days" D/s even online is built on trust and you can not begin to trust someone in just " a few days" If you can you need to work on issues with in you cause you give trust way to easy. Have you asked for referances from him from others he's trained, do you know he's not some preditor preying on new people. It brings up the question of his real motives to take on someone as a sub when he don't even know them. Any dom worth their salt with honorable intentions in my opnion would not just jump into training a sub after a few days. It takes alot of work and a lot of comunication and time to even begin to form a bond to do training.

FelinePersuasion -> RE: New sub has questions (11/27/2005 2:52:05 AM)
opps lol sorry it was not belong to you that was asking about masters and liking them it was another person on the same topic area

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