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Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 5:31:29 AM   
reofbl


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Status: offline 		Why do you obey (or would obey) your Master/Dom(me)?

(More specifically.. is it because you chose a lifestyle, and you enjoy living it?  Is it because you feel obligated?  Is being pleasing simply enough in and of itself?  Do you obey, doing as told without even thinking?  Does it turn you on?  Make you feel wanted/needed/appreciated?  Just examples of some ideas.)
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RE: Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 5:39:57 AM   
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ORIGINAL: reofbl

Why do you obey (or would obey) your Master/Dom(me)?

(More specifically.. is it because you chose a lifestyle, and you enjoy living it?  Is it because you feel obligated?  Is being pleasing simply enough in and of itself?  Do you obey, doing as told without even thinking?  Does it turn you on?  Make you feel wanted/needed/appreciated?  Just examples of some ideas.)


I obey because I want to please Master and tend to do so without even thinking about it. And of course I obey because if I dont I get a damn good spanking, LOL, which in itself is sometimes a good reason to disobey

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RE: Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 5:44:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		Why do you want to please the one you love?

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RE: Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 5:44:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		It's easy to obey when it's something pleasing that is being asked.
I obey out of pride when it is something that I find displeasing or painful.

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RE: Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 5:49:09 AM   
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Status: offline 		interesting question...i obey, because it fills a desire for me, yes to also the things you listed.........bottom line tho.....it completes me, i have never experenced this feeling of "whole" before i choose to do so...i need to serve, love to serve, and yearn for it, when nothing else quenches the hunger


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RE: Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 6:16:22 AM   
Kalira


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Simple.

Because I choose to



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RE: Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 6:40:36 AM   
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Status: offline 		I obey because I love Master .If it pleases Him then it pleases me.If Master is displeased then it is emotionally painful .But I would not be truthful if I didn't admit that it has its own intrinsic rewards of feeling right and sweet.

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RE: Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 7:03:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Aileen68

It's easy to obey when it's something pleasing that is being asked.
I obey out of pride when it is something that I find displeasing or painful.



So very true!  Believe me, I chose to obey but it is not always easy.

EDIT:  This is Caitriona, logged into the joint account by accident!


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RE: Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 7:35:54 AM   
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LOL ok sorry will be serious.

I think most people do so because it is thier choice to relinquish controll to another and if you don't obey then what's the point in being in a Power Exchange dynamic relationship?


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RE: Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 7:44:14 AM   
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Status: offline 		to obey there must be someone to obey, for there to be someone to obey it's been a choice made from many factors, if your willing to make that choice, the follow thru is natural.

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RE: Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 9:24:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		I obey because I am his slave, and I would not be true to myself if I did not.

Having said that, I find myself blissful when he is pleased with me, especially when it is the result of accomplishing something extremely difficult that I didn't want to do in the first place. His pride in me puts me on a cloud.  It is his feedback to me which causes me to feel wanted and appreciated. I doubt he "needs" me, however.  And yes, any time he is happy with me I am turned on

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RE: Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 9:35:47 AM   
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Status: offline 		Sometimes I obey because I want too, other because there is no choice. I love my Daddy and when we first got together He made it sure I understood that this was no game to Him. Even on the days I am feeling less than slavely I obey Him, (after a good reminding of what I agreed too) For me there is truly no choice, I must it is that simple, and even if I didn't wantto do it to begin with once it is done I find I have alot of pride in myself in making Him happy and am glad He has the strength to keep me on the path I have chosen.

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RE: Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 9:49:51 AM   
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ORIGINAL: reofbl

Why do you obey (or would obey) your Master/Dom(me)?

(More specifically.. is it because you chose a lifestyle, and you enjoy living it?  Is it because you feel obligated?  Is being pleasing simply enough in and of itself?  Do you obey, doing as told without even thinking?  Does it turn you on?  Make you feel wanted/needed/appreciated?  Just examples of some ideas.)


I'd say there's multiple reasons, that all shift depending on whats going on, the mood I'm in, how difficult the task is, etc.  I obey because I've made a committment to be his, and obeying him is part and parcel of the committment.  I obey him because I love him and want to make him happy/pleased with me.  I obey because it makes me happy to obey him... or sometimes it turns me own to obey him.

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RE: Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 9:59:29 AM   
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ORIGINAL: reofbl

Why do you obey (or would obey) your Master/Dom(me)?

(More specifically.. is it because you chose a lifestyle, and you enjoy living it?  Is it because you feel obligated?  Is being pleasing simply enough in and of itself?  Do you obey, doing as told without even thinking?  Does it turn you on?  Make you feel wanted/needed/appreciated?  Just examples of some ideas.)



Sometimes I obey because he asks me to do what I desire to do.  Sometimes because I feel it is my responsibility to obey.  Sometimes because I know it will give him pleasure if I obey.  Sometimes it turns me on; sometimes not in the moment, but later on, I will think about what he had me do, and it will excite me.  Sometimes I obey to "prove" my devotion to him; or to "prove" I am better than the other slaves he trains. 

I think though, that for me, the answer to your question is I obey because I am a slave and obedience centers me.  It is my yoga.  My meditation. 

I need it.

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RE: Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 10:08:51 AM   
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Status: offline 		It is who I am in that relationship.  It makes me fulfilled in myself. 

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RE: Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 10:12:14 AM   
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I obey because I’m a pleaser.  I like to please for the pleasure of my partner; but also because I like how I feel when I do.  I’m submissive; I enjoy being submissive…
 
I don’t ever feel obligated to please…I just enjoy behaving that way.  I do not obey without even thinking.  I ask a LOT of ‘why’s and ‘how comes’.  Though, I’m learning that my initial thoughts are quite often NOT the reasoning behind the request.  I sure do learn a lot about me these days!
 
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RE: Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 10:25:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		I know for me I grew up without a father & I feel an overwhelming urge to belong entirely to a male. I'm fasinated by men & can be content to just watch a man's behavior & etc from a distance. It's the male presence in general I think ....The stronger personality you have the more dominant your presence is felt by me. Thus making me want to reward you for your presence alone creating the submissive/ pleasing woman. (Just my two cents)

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RE: Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 10:52:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: reofbl

Why do you obey (or would obey) your Master/Dom(me)?

(More specifically.. is it because you chose a lifestyle, and you enjoy living it?  Is it because you feel obligated?  Is being pleasing simply enough in and of itself?  Do you obey, doing as told without even thinking?  Does it turn you on?  Make you feel wanted/needed/appreciated?  Just examples of some ideas.)

Sometimes because I truly want to, sometimes because I know that I have to, and sometimes because it's a hell of alot easier than fighting against the wanting to.

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RE: Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 10:55:05 AM   
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ORIGINAL: shedreamz

Sometimes I obey because he asks me to do what I desire to do.  Sometimes because I feel it is my responsibility to obey.  Sometimes because I know it will give him pleasure if I obey.  Sometimes it turns me on; sometimes not in the moment, but later on, I will think about what he had me do, and it will excite me.  Sometimes I obey to "prove" my devotion to him; or to "prove" I am better than the other slaves he trains. 

I think though, that for me, the answer to your question is I obey because I am a slave and obedience centers me.  It is my yoga.  My meditation. 

I need it. 


What a lovely, elegant response; I understand completely!  Thank you...

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RE: Why do you obey? - 11/24/2006 11:42:54 PM   
reofbl


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Status: offline 		Wonderful and heartfelt responses!  I appreciate them.

Several have said that they obey because it's their choice.  I'd just like to ask these to be more specific, as to why they chose to do it?

For most, I'd like to ask what started this obidience, or where did it begin?  The contributing factors that caused the factors which contribute to your obidience into being? (For instance, for those who are obidient because they'd be in trouble if they weren't, why get in this position in the first place?  Random chance, decision, some path led to it?  If it's pleasure to obey, what do you believe causes this to be?  Is it a base level response, or is there some other reason obeying causes you to feel pleasure?)

I'm very interested in the developmental qualities of this mind frame, so any insight that could be afforded would also be appreciated.  :)

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