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meetings - 11/24/2006 8:48:53 AM

farfalla

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first meeting with someone.....
and initally its for coffee......
how should i be?
should i just be my normal out with mates self?
or should i be attentive and mild?

i have read other posts on this, and searched through,
but i dont want to mess up something that may be the start of something........

thank You all in advance for Your replies,
i just hope i dont trip down the stairs, rip my trousers,
knock my front tooth out, and crack my nose!!

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RE: meetings - 11/24/2006 8:52:20 AM

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Farfalla: Be yourself.

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"It's the same thing," he said.

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RE: meetings - 11/24/2006 9:01:27 AM

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Be yourself - somebody has to, and you're closest.

If there's a hint of your subliness, that's fine - but jumping into sub-mode is something that would set my alarms off - just as your alarms should go off if they insist on being DomlyDom.

First coffee is for finding out if there's any chemestry and initial stages of negotiation - at least, it is when I do it.

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RE: meetings - 11/24/2006 9:04:42 AM

farfalla

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Thank You for that, i think i knew really, but just needed to be told.....
and no i wouldnt want to be crawling on my knees, before i get the coffee!

Phew i can breath now, merry crimbo

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RE: meetings - 11/24/2006 9:06:19 AM

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Dear farfalla, Ladies and Gentlemen;

As a Dominant, I do want those I meet to be their natural self and not alter themselves to suit me.

The reason behind such, is that courting part of the relationship is temporary and isn't something that is maintained throughout the days, weeks, months and or years. Although an analogy, I rather see a person unpackaged from their 'outside sell through advertisement package.' I'm more interested in the contents of someone. In being your normal self, you do not have to maintain a lie or some false picture for a long period of time. For me, I hate surprises--so, I like to meet the person as a person first, instead of someone selling me submission masking the person behind the submission.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: meetings - 11/24/2006 9:51:25 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: farfalla

first meeting with someone.....
and initally its for coffee......
how should i be?
should i just be my normal out with mates self?
or should i be attentive and mild?

i have read other posts on this, and searched through,
but i dont want to mess up something that may be the start of something........

thank You all in advance for Your replies,
i just hope i dont trip down the stairs, rip my trousers,
knock my front tooth out, and crack my nose!!

I'd say be yourself and be willing to look at him without the rose colored eyes and critically. The first meeting is really the first step in getting to know each other, so treat it accordingly.

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RE: meetings - 11/24/2006 10:30:09 AM

LuckyAlbatross

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In the past I used to meet people at restaurants.

Now I usually tell them a public function I'll be at and meet them there. That way I don't lose anything if they flake on me.

And definitely be yourself- sorry you felt you had to ask otherwise.

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RE: meetings - 11/24/2006 10:49:56 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: farfalla

first meeting with someone.....
and initally its for coffee......
how should i be?
should i just be my normal out with mates self?
or should i be attentive and mild?

i have read other posts on this, and searched through,
but i dont want to mess up something that may be the start of something........

thank You all in advance for Your replies,
i just hope i dont trip down the stairs, rip my trousers,
knock my front tooth out, and crack my nose!!

Best advice has already been given. Be yourself

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RE: meetings - 11/24/2006 12:33:18 PM

RedSavageSlave

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Now see... who says there isnt "One True Way" LOL

Be yourself :)

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RE: meetings - 11/24/2006 2:06:08 PM

xBullx

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Tal ye who would be meeting,
Ponder all the myselves and meselves, not to mention all the darned weselves that crowd these dusty old streets of the world. Are yours cobblestone, I do so love the sound of cobblestone under my tires? I'm also of the mind that the vibration could possibly enduce orgasm in a steamy little wench. Anyway, it must have been the yourself that caught his eye or drafted his attention to begin with. I stated as much assuming it is a he. Utilize gender neutral terms if that suits your need. Have fun and be safe.

Serve well,

Bull

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