MissBabydoll
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Goodness, clown--
What a lot of anger you are carrying towards women! Despite what some have said here about statistics, the figures are pretty lopsided: more than 80% of cases of child sexual abuse and rape are of girls and women by men, and a higher percentage than that of domestic violence. (At least half the women I know have been raped, most often by a date or a boyfriend, rarely by a stranger.) Women are still making 83 cents on the dollar of what men make for comparable work. They still do the bulk of domestic chores in most households as well as more of the child care, and their right to an abortion is once again under threat. What's more, the notion that women are full human beings who should have the same rights as men is under severe cultural assault from the religious right--as for instance with the vote of the Southern Baptist Convention (which only recently feebly apologized for its active support of slavery and segregation) that males must be the head of the household and women should obey their fathers and husbands, or the fact that more Americans now share these views than did a decade ago.
This does not make women saints. On the contrary, oppression and discrimination are not good for anyone's moral character as a rule. Women get driven to nasty underhanded tactics and to emotional abuse, as well as to rationalize bad behavior by the fact of their second-class status. As a Pro Domme I see the results of this all the time with submissive men, who marry emotionally damaged, vindictive, and even sociopathic women who are seductive and "dominant" in courtship but who thereafter become just nasty, bullying exploiters (and in some cases blackmailers)--or just plain crazy and even violent.
There is an imperfect analogy between this situation and race in this country. Women now have the same legal rights (more or less) as men do. However, subtler forms of discrimination persist everywhere, as do the kinds of brutality I have just summarized. To be a young woman and reasonably attractive in the streets even in daytime can be seriously unpleasant, and at night still plenty dangerous. And yet a woman who flips out behind what has been done to her is a "Monster" (to quote the title of the movie about serial man-killler Eileen Wuornos), while the thousands of men who get away with "soft" rape every day (forcing "their" woman into intercourse via emotional violence and menace or just keeping on going when she says No repeatedly and holding her down) are just "being men." A woman who enjoys sex with multiple partners is a slut, a bitch, and a whore, while a man who does the same is a stud and a bull and a mack daddy. Do I really need to go on? You know all this stuff, clown. You remind me of a friend of my dad's who stubbornly refuses to use his seat belty because there are cases when people ould have survived a crash if they had been thrown clear of the vehicle. There are, but the cases in which they survive because they were buckled up outnumber those by hundreds to one. The same is true of violent abuse of men by women.
So, clown, I'm not a feminut, nor a fembot, nor (a term you thankfully did not use) a feminazi. (As a Jew I find that last one particularly grotesque. Excuse me--can you show me any women's rights organization in this country that advocates the extermination of men?) I am a FEMINIST. By which I mean that I think women and girls are human beings just like you and entitled to the same respect and rights and freedoms. If you help to bring this about--and also help to bring this society closer to social and economic justice--I guarantee you that you will see less mean, nasty, or otherwise destructive behavior by women towards men.
I don't really expect you to understand what I'm saying, clown, because your emotions won't let you. For the record, I'm sorry you suffered at the hands of a woman. A lot of basically OK and decent men do. That's because, as with racism, what we're dealing with here is not just individual prejudices but an entire instititutionalized system, which fucks up both men and women--but men are the dominant agents in that system.
Incidentally, I find it seriously depressing that more women on here don't stand up and point this stuff out in a more forceful way. I guess I still expect the DSSM community to have more progressive attitudes than the general population. More and more often I am having that expectation defeated.
Miss Sarah aka Miss Babydoll
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