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RE: love Him...hate Him - 2/14/2005 12:47:56 PM

ruffnecksbabygir

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If you don't want to change him, and you accept that he is married etc...what's the problem? If you want him to be more expressive maybe you can tell him this, in a respectful manner, maybe if you have a journal or free time with him you can explain your frustrations to him, supposing you haven't already.....other than that, there isn't much else you can do....and keep in mind you are after all his slave, and you serve him as he sees fit, not as you see fit.

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RE: love Him...hate Him - 2/17/2005 12:30:26 AM

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thank you all for your responses, i appreciate then very much.
Since first posting, i have requested that we sit down and talk, with permission i did voice again concerns that i have. we talked openly and freely about many things. i do not expect "change" as some might say. our relationship evolves everyday, as would any relationship. i do not wish to get out or top from the bottom.
i agree with what some have said, i am his slave, not just a sub, i chose that, i wish to continue this. he has always told me that if i request, i may speak freely, although his decision is bottom line. i respect that.
he has agreed that he does not show me enough that he loves me, "its a guy thing". he apologizes and says he will try harder to take in account my emotions and feelings. he says it is his job to protect me, care for me, and love me and he does all of these but in his own way. we both agree to better communication. as far as impossible tasks, he doesn't believe they are, he says he believes that i can do anything that i set my mind to and he is trying to give me higher goals. guess i am not used to anyone expecting anything of me. i agree to try harder to meet these goals.

i love my Master as he loves me, although we show it in different ways. i will do better on my part to communicate my needs. D/s relationships are supposed to be one of mutual respect. A master/Dom should at least listen to what his sub/slave needs are, wether he choses to do anything about it, is his decision, but he should at least listen. isn't he supposed be protect and care for his property

i apologize to all of you for posting, i should not have discussed this openly and will not again. since i am new to my area i do not have a support system and was looking for support and advice not to be judged.

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RE: love Him...hate Him - 2/17/2005 5:42:56 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: submissive71
he has agreed that he does not show me enough that he loves me, "its a guy thing".

I know several guys who know how to show love in a way that is clear.

It's nice to know that you both are going to work on things, but ultimately it will come down to whether you feel your needs are being met, and how much you wish to tolerate in your life.

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RE: love Him...hate Him - 2/17/2005 5:52:49 AM

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does not show me enough that he loves me, "its a guy thing".

Midear '71-

That's wrong. I wouldn't disagree if he said 'it a delayed adolesence thing' or 'it's a childish behavior born out of fear and weakness' but to blame it on his gender and expect that to serve as apology?

BAH! Pish and Bah!

Good luck in your situtation. I hope that you find a resolution that will not cuase you any lasting damage.

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RE: love Him...hate Him - 2/17/2005 9:04:23 AM

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dont play the victim and you wont be one. i have a hard time feeling sympathy for someone who has all of the answers. just keep this in mind you will always be second to his children, and his first life. i had the experience of being w/ someone that was married for 2 yrs. although he didnt have children , he still was never w/ me on holidays ect. the best way to come first is to take care of you . i think you may be "too close to see clear" take a step back let him come to you .

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