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RE: Raised by a sub - 11/25/2006 2:08:07 PM

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When I was little my mom would wake up before my dad to start his shower wake him up, iron his shirt, make his breakfast and blow dry his hair before getting us and herself ready for the day. This too was in the 70's and 80's. I never really realized how submissive she was. I also remember once that my mom and dad got into an arguement and my dad picked my mom up over his shoulder and carried her off to the room and shut the door. I am sure she was getting a spanking in there. I never really thought that much about it untill recently.

... I want that...

Not always... but when fighting over a small stupid thing... I want that.

I am such a bad feminist.

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We ALL want that. Those of us who don't have a dom want that!!! lol

My mom cared for my dad because he was ill, so I've been really conflicted about where all this comes from for me. I still want it, though. It's just me.

I have a dom but I'm too heavy to be carried. Oh well. He can smack my butt as I run up the stairs though! *grins*

Me too :)

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RE: Raised by a sub - 11/25/2006 3:59:07 PM

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Sometimes, you can analyse yourself into a corner....I know a few people that cannot rest because they have this *need or desire* to find out where this D/s thing stemmed from.

For me...it was pure chance that I stumbled upon anything to DO with M/s and quite honestly, the fact that I found something that works *tolerably well*, is pure chance also.

I have two trains of thought that run at the same time........

Half of the time I think it's utter bollocks..........While I realise that there are many places and experiences that bdsm, with my Master, has taken me and shown me.. if THAT all went *poof*.......... I would STILL respect him and the WAY we relate wouldn't change.

I have had the most strange, exhilerating experiences......... but if bdsm disappeared.......not much would change.

It's not about bdsm...or even M/s, in many ways..............for me, it's a respect. An unusual respect.

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RE: Raised by a sub - 11/25/2006 4:21:04 PM

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I'm convinced that, given a choice, my mom would be submissive. When dad didn't take care of her the way she thought he would, especially later in their marriage, she became a boisterous, domineering woman in sefl-defense. I learned to be independent and to do a hell of a lot of things that the average woman doesn't do (like fixing the coolant leak in my car this holiday). When I came out to her about being Ms, her comment was, "I have to agree that it'd be really nice to know exactly what was expected from you." ;-)

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RE: Raised by a sub - 11/25/2006 4:23:39 PM

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Well, Master Fire, all I can say is ... Go Mom!! (She sounds great.)

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RE: Raised by a sub - 11/25/2006 6:43:09 PM

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My father was utterly submissive. My mother was domineering, and yet, oddly service oriented. Despite her dominance of the household, she totally served my father of her own initiative...i don't think he ever requested it. she just seemed to enjoy doing it. Hmm. maybe that was just another way of controlling him. She picked out his clothes, cut his hair, and ensured he always had balanced meals, breakfast. lunch and dinner.

When i think about it, there's was such a D/s relationship, but most certainly, never one that was negotiated. Rather, it just was. Still, they fought like cats and dogs. Sometimes my dad would have enough of her domineering style, and he would quietly dig in his heels, which infuriated my mom.

In my own observations, i don't think power is really ever equally shared...one tends to have more power than the other, and sometimes they fight over the power. That's one of the things i love about clear cut, negotiated D/s relationships. It cuts through those fights for power by establishing who has it and who doesn't.

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RE: Raised by a sub - 11/25/2006 7:32:53 PM

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Not sure if there was much of a D/s flavor in my home..Mom of course ran the house, the kids, the finances..Dad worked..however this was in the 50's. Mom also organized everything including Dad..:0)....She attempted to raise what she says are responsible, independant,common sense individuals..What she got was a son who is the epitome of yuppyism and a daughter who is of course perfect!..lol...They have been married 55 years......

...Both to me are exceptional in evey way..I was blessed...Tempting

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RE: Raised by a sub - 11/27/2006 7:39:52 AM

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My father is dominant and dominates the whole family. Including his parents. My mother is naturally submissive and was to a degree with my stepfather. Yet at the same time, she was also dominant. My step father and i had control war, starting at about the age of 6 for me. (i thought he was a total retard and a selfish bastard to boot) Growing up in my mothers house it pretty much went like this - stepfather would hollar at me about something stupid - mother would stand up for me - i'd sit there looking stupid - mother would come back later to me and explain that stepfather was immature and jealous. My mother was what everyone thought was waaaaaay too lenient with me. I was treated like a grown adult at the ripe old age of elementry school.

While i could of had free reign (barring my step father - who always had a complaint about my behavior - even if it was the way i ate a tomato) what kept me in line and pretty much a wonderful child was my mother. All the horror stories of her life - made it so i didnt want to add any more "hurt" to her. So i lived doing everything i could to "make her happy" . And she's been ruling me with her emotions ever since.

Now my mother is against submissiveness thinking that its the perfect way to allow others to walk all over you. So she's an absolute control freak now.

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