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jblack -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 1:33:11 PM)
I don't really get annoyed when someone calls me "little girl" or some variation; however, I am often amused, especially as a BBW, because I wouldn't use the word "little" to describe any part of myself. But it doesn't really get on my nerves. However, as empresschaos pointed out, I hate the capitalization nonsense, especially the whole W/we business. The "This slave" phrasing also makes me want to puke. I mean, sincerely, people. When you're trying that hard to show that you're submissive or are in a M/s relationship, then I can't help but doubt you. I haven't heard this point yet, and I hope I don't incur anyone's wrath. But I have a problem with the way the word "Master" is often used, too. I don't know why, but it always seems so cheesy to me to address someone as "Master," even if he earns it. I don't know if I can say it without feeling the cheese factor more than I feel my sense of respect. And when subs write about something that happened with a "Master and I were at dinner the other night" or a "Master went out on a business trip" type phrasing, I just want to puke. For me, it's like the "This slave" phrase. Protocol like that leaves me wondering if the relationship is genuine. Again, it seems like someone is trying too damn hard to denote their role. But that's just my $.02.

LotusSong -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 1:34:30 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Squeakers I hate it when people talk in 3rd person. This girl...this slave...this one...if it's a conversation between her and her one---that's fine but otherwise---for me it's annoying as hell I call it "Tonto-speak"

LotusSong -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 1:40:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LTRsubNW quote: ORIGINAL: LotusSong quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst I will admit this tends to be a pet peeve of mine but I can feel my teeth cringe when I see those words typed from strangers. "How are you little one?" "How're you doing baby?" "Sweet dreams, little one." Egads. These people don't even know me! I know this is my own personal bias, but it just ticks me off as manufactured closeness. Do you all have words or phrases that just irritate you when said by a stranger? Or.. do I need another cup of coffee? Kyst "hon" arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh Ya know...a Domme I dated briefly used to get red in the face on that one. I used that word long before she and I started seeing each other and it never even crossed my mind that was an issue...I actually saw it as a term of affection. Suffice it to say a) I don't use that woid around her now, even as we don't date anymore, b) I try really hard not to use it at all, and c) I can now see why it upset her. Coming out of my keyboard, it sounded loving, coming out on her monitor it sounded demeaning. Like a nice little pat on her hayud. (She does gots a purdy lil hayud though). Maybe I should say I find it more offensive coming from a female stranger... I don't mind it from Men. Go figure. If I call another female I don't know personally "hon".. she'd better know I think she is lower than a snake's belly in a wagon rut.

MmakeMme -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 1:41:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ShreveportMaster Chuckles, Hon, luv, etc is a Southern thing, we use it all the time, and most of our girls (I'm talking those who were raised here, or who moved and adopted the customs, etc) love it. Of course it also helps that Southerners by and large will help any female who needs assistance, it's again part and parcel of the culture. Perhaps that's why the gals don't mind, they know they really are seen as something special. Or not. Mayhaps that's one of those things that only The Shadow knows. MMMMMmuuuuahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaaaaa...... [:D] I wish you well, Shreve Ya just gotta love southern men (and since I am a southern woman, I do)! ~smiling at Master Shreve~ Using pet names doesn't disturb me in the least as long as the intent is not derogatory. If it is a natural part of speech, as it is to many southerners, it is like warm water or comforting music.

MmakeMme -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 1:43:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LotusSong I call it "Tonto-speak" You go fight that band of murderous train thieves, Tonto, and I'll stand here behind this rock! ~~ Lone Ranger

LotusSong -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 1:46:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MmakeMme quote: ORIGINAL: LotusSong I call it "Tonto-speak" You go fight that band of murderous train thieves, Tonto, and I'll stand here behind this rock! ~~ Lone Ranger "You betchum, Keemosabe!.. Tonto go now!" (with apologies to Jay Silverheels, RIP)

ownedgirlie -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 1:47:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: jblack And when subs write about something that happened with a "Master and I were at dinner the other night" or a "Master went out on a business trip" type phrasing, I just want to puke. For me, it's like the "This slave" phrase. Protocol like that leaves me wondering if the relationship is genuine. Again, it seems like someone is trying too damn hard to denote their role. No wrath here, just wondering...Did you call your parents Mom and Dad? What do you call your doctor? If in court, what do you call a judge? How do you address a poilice officer? I dunno...I've called my Master "Master" since he became my Master and owner. Calling him by name puts me on par to his equal, which I am not. It's not so much "protocol" as he and I don't have much in the way of defined formal "protocal," but it's who he is and what I call him. That's odd to me, that someone would think as you do about it. Never dawned on me, in fact. In fact, it is odd to me that anyone would think anything about how others speak. Whether speaking in third person or how others refer to their owners or property...I think, why and how could that possibly affect me? It has nothing to do with me, so why would I have an emotional reaction to it at all? Some of the posts with such negative reactions in this thread are curious to me...

marieToo -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 1:48:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst I will admit this tends to be a pet peeve of mine but I can feel my teeth cringe when I see those words typed from strangers. "How are you little one?" "How're you doing baby?" "Sweet dreams, little one." Egads. These people don't even know me! I know this is my own personal bias, but it just ticks me off as manufactured closeness. Do you all have words or phrases that just irritate you when said by a stranger? Or.. do I need another cup of coffee? Kyst LoL. Ok I was in a CM chatroom the other night and some guy IMs me and says "Hello Slut. Are you seeking a Master"? Now THIS kind of thing bugs me. Needless to say, I didnt answer, BUT....if someone Im talking to or getting to know calls me 'girl', it absolutely melts me. There is nothing that turns me on more than being called girl. Even if I dont know the man well, even if he is not a prospect for myself, I just love it. On the other hand, I wouldnt speak with someone who addressed me as cunt, bitch, whore, slut etcetc...Unless of course I was in submission to him....then I'd be ok with it. It doesnt bother me at all. Im not crazy about whore, but I can deal with it....the rest....eh...It just cant be too dirty for me as long as it's coming from the right person.

MmakeMme -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 1:49:35 PM)
I call Sir "Sir" because He asks it of me. Occasionally I call Him by His first name, but it is not often.

Daddysgirljenna -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 1:50:45 PM)
The one that irks me the most is complete strangers (who obviously haven't taken the time to read my profile first) message me and start addressing me as baby, or babygirl and referring to themselves as my Daddy and saying things like "Come to Daddy" or "Daddy's here". Granted, i know i'm a babygirl, but i'm only one man's babygirl. If they took the time to read my profile first, they'd see that.

marieToo -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 1:51:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie quote: ORIGINAL: jblack And when subs write about something that happened with a "Master and I were at dinner the other night" or a "Master went out on a business trip" type phrasing, I just want to puke. For me, it's like the "This slave" phrase. Protocol like that leaves me wondering if the relationship is genuine. Again, it seems like someone is trying too damn hard to denote their role. No wrath here, just wondering...Did you call your parents Mom and Dad? What do you call your doctor? If in court, what do you call a judge? How do you address a poilice officer? I dunno...I've called my Master "Master" since he became my Master and owner. Calling him by name puts me on par to his equal, which I am not. It's not so much "protocol" as he and I don't have much in the way of defined formal "protocal," but it's who he is and what I call him. That's odd to me, that someone would think as you do about it. Never dawned on me, in fact. In fact, it is odd to me that anyone would think anything about how others speak. Whether speaking in third person or how others refer to their owners or property...I think, why and how could that possibly affect me? It has nothing to do with me, so why would I have an emotional reaction to it at all? Some of the posts with such negative reactions in this thread are curious to me... This girl always thinks you have something smart to say, Ma'am. hee he

ownedgirlie -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 1:52:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marieToo quote: ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie quote: ORIGINAL: jblack And when subs write about something that happened with a "Master and I were at dinner the other night" or a "Master went out on a business trip" type phrasing, I just want to puke. For me, it's like the "This slave" phrase. Protocol like that leaves me wondering if the relationship is genuine. Again, it seems like someone is trying too damn hard to denote their role. No wrath here, just wondering...Did you call your parents Mom and Dad? What do you call your doctor? If in court, what do you call a judge? How do you address a poilice officer? I dunno...I've called my Master "Master" since he became my Master and owner. Calling him by name puts me on par to his equal, which I am not. It's not so much "protocol" as he and I don't have much in the way of defined formal "protocal," but it's who he is and what I call him. That's odd to me, that someone would think as you do about it. Never dawned on me, in fact. In fact, it is odd to me that anyone would think anything about how others speak. Whether speaking in third person or how others refer to their owners or property...I think, why and how could that possibly affect me? It has nothing to do with me, so why would I have an emotional reaction to it at all? Some of the posts with such negative reactions in this thread are curious to me... This girl always thinks you have something smart to say, Ma'am. hee he Why thank you, little one. [;)] LOL PS: I noticed our first posts to this thread are really similar! I was reading yours thinking, FINALLY someone else who thinks like me!

MmakeMme -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 1:53:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marieToo LoL. Ok I was in a CM chatroom the other night and some guy IMs me and says "Hello Slut. Are you seeking a Master"? Now THIS kind of thing bugs me. Needless to say, I didnt answer, BUT....if someone Im talking to or getting to know calls me 'girl', it absolutely melts me. There is nothing that turns me on more than being called girl. Even if I dont know the man well, even if he is not a prospect for myself, I just love it. On the other hand, I wouldnt speak with someone who addressed me as cunt, bitch, whore, slut etcetc...Unless of course I was in submission to him....then I'd be ok with it. It doesnt bother me at all. Im not crazy about whore, but I can deal with it....the rest....eh...It just cant be too dirty for me as long as it's coming from the right person. In total agreement, marie. Someone addressing me as "slut" before any sort of introduction brings visions of bloody noses to mind - his, not mine. I do love the non-debasing ones from anyone, and I adore the base address from the One to whom I submit.

marieToo -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 1:54:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MmakeMme I call Sir "Sir" because He asks it of me. Occasionally I call Him by His first name, but it is not often. I kinda like the whole "Sir" thing once I am in the mindset of feeling submissive to someone. It's quite sexy.

texancutie -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 2:10:53 PM)
I call my Dom, Sir, as well. Just comes naturally I guess. It just fits him. I can't imagine calling him by his first name, but am sure there will be a time and place when I do. There are appropriate times and places for everything. Just as there are inappropiate times and places as well. To be honest, I love it when he calls me certain things in private. And due to the nature of our relationship...he can call me lil one...lol. Or whatever he wants for that matter. But when strangers do it...I find it amusing to say the least.

findmedaddy -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 2:24:07 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Daddysgirljenna The one that irks me the most is complete strangers (who obviously haven't taken the time to read my profile first) message me and start addressing me as baby, or babygirl and referring to themselves as my Daddy and saying things like "Come to Daddy" or "Daddy's here". Granted, i know i'm a babygirl, but i'm only one man's babygirl. If they took the time to read my profile first, they'd see that. I don't have a daddy and want one very much. Those who write "come to Daddy" about break my heart, because the little girl inside so wants it to be real. I just wish we could be kinder to one another here and not play with real needs and emotions. I know, I know: "You're on the Internet, where everyone is a liar." I just hope that someday a real daddy calls, and I wish the fake ones would stop being cruel.

TemptingNviceSub -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 2:34:12 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressDolly quote: ORIGINAL: Missokyst I will admit this tends to be a pet peeve of mine but I can feel my teeth cringe when I see those words typed from strangers. "How are you little one?" "How're you doing baby?" "Sweet dreams, little one." Egads. These people don't even know me! I know this is my own personal bias, but it just ticks me off as manufactured closeness. Do you all have words or phrases that just irritate you when said by a stranger? Or.. do I need another cup of coffee? Kyst I don't find it offensive or annoying that some call me dear, lil one, babe, etc because I dont internalize it and take it personally: in my eyes those terms have nothing to do with "me" -- I figure it's just the type of person they are and if not me--they'll be saying it to the next person they speak to. Imo I think they are just trying to be pleasant and really mean no disrespect. I have to agree here,I do not see it as personal, just a simple mannerism inherent in some of the population.I feel there is too many others things to get your panties into a wad other than what a stranger may or may not call me...Tempting

MmakeMme -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 2:57:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marieToo quote: ORIGINAL: MmakeMme I call Sir "Sir" because He asks it of me. Occasionally I call Him by His first name, but it is not often. I kinda like the whole "Sir" thing once I am in the mindset of feeling submissive to someone. It's quite sexy. ~grrrrrrrrrrrrrrowling in pleased agreement~ Sexy indeed, especially when They wear it well.

Missokyst -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 3:24:34 PM)
My panties are rarely bunched... but I am thinking a knot in the right spot might be quiet thrilling. Most of what people do around me has much impact on my life. But, I (and apparently others) do find it irksome that someone who has not taken the time to get to know us, claims a term of familarity. While it isn't enough to send me into a white heat, it is enough to dismiss any future conversations with that person. Not because I find them clueless, but because I can see that mannerism would grow wearing over time. It is like my ex always calling women baby, rather than take the chance he might get their name wrong. It is both too familar, and not familar enough. Call me kyst, miss, or my name, and might look at you like someone who wants to see who I might be. Call me anything less and I am likely to look beyond you. I love pet names when spoken out of knowlege. I still glow inside when the former slips and says poohbear. For me, there must be a connection, or the name is dust. 25 cents worth. Kyst quote: .I feel there is too many others things to get your panties into a wad other than what a stranger may or may not call me...

texancutie -> RE: "My dear" "Little one" (11/25/2006 3:31:05 PM)
I love pet names as well, when spoken by someone that knows me. On second thought...pet names are fine with me as long as he does not call me Pepper or Jacque. Jacque is his dog's name and Pepper was my family's poodle. My mom would get all confused and I would wind up being referred to as Pepper a lot. Very hard when you are going through your teen years...[:D]

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