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AquaticSub -> RE: Oh, This Makes Me So Mad!!! (11/26/2006 7:46:37 PM)
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ORIGINAL: LadyJulieAnn
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ORIGINAL: marieToo
Aw Krissi, I doubt everyone looks at adoption that way. It isnt something Id be able to do, but I can understand someone completely alone, broke and destitute who feels they have no means to care for a baby the way the baby deserves and needs to be cared for. So they place it in a good home, with parents who can raise the child properly.
Im not saying there shouldn't be education on birth control and people taking responsibility for their actions, but I dont think adoption is neccessarily a negative resolution to an unwanted pregnancy.
I know this isnt the ideal thing to say, but sometimes the natural mother and/or father are not always the best candidates to be parents.
If someone is "completely alone, broke and destitute, who feels they have no means to care for a baby the way a baby deserves and needs to be cared for", why are they having a child in the first place?
Birth control failed. It happens. Or rape. That happens too.
Yes, those are possibilities, but I would guess if you looked at the statistics, the majority of babies are not products of failed birth control or rape.
I would guess that the majority of "unwanted" babies happen because of a lack of education. Scoff if you will, but some still think two condoms are better then one (the latex rubs against each other and breaks, ensuring the little swimers get out), many women don't know that taking an antibotic makes your BC not work, and pulling out? Sorry bros, it dun work. The little dubes are in your pre-cum too.
Add to that the abusive relationships where a woman feels if she insists on a condom she will lose her man, or a young girl whose partner is convincing her that the rhyhmn and pull-out methods are really really awesome and really work, honest sweetie!
Add to that: Young teenagers who don't know what they are doing, think they can handle a baby and then once it's here "Oh dear God, what the hell am I supposed to be doing?" Sure, you could make them take care of it and possibly resent it. Or you could send it to a loving family who adores it. I'd rather go the adoring loving family, thank you very much.
Add to that: Abusive relationships where the woman is pretty much raped and they don't want to bring the child up in that situation.
Add to that: Women who had been told they can't have babies who suddenly get preggers at 40 without a reason other then "damn fate hates you".
Children are a blessing. But sometimes they are blessing to another family and life lesson to the mother. Birth control fails and basically, shit happens, more then people would like to admit. I use birth control. I have already discussed with my dominant that if I have a child I definately going to have it. I don't know if I will keep it or give it up to a family that is better able to raise it.
Honestly, I think giving your child up to a family who can raise it better then is a mark of a far better and loving parent then one who keeps it restained in bad circumstances. I think you should look at actual stats, and not just ones from any particular side. It is very easy to skew stats. Look at those from Planned Parenthood, adoption websites and those from conservative sites. Take it all with a grain of salt.
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