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kittensangel -> Could you? (11/25/2006 9:33:46 PM)
Would you accept a submissive that was able to lie to her parents? Could you respect her if she did?

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Could you? (11/25/2006 9:41:00 PM)
We all are capable of lying and do lie. For me, I would have to know the circumstances. Master Fire

AquaticSub -> RE: Could you? (11/25/2006 9:41:22 PM)
I imagine it would depend on why she was lying.

DiurnalVampire -> RE: Could you? (11/25/2006 9:48:27 PM)
I probably could accept someone who lied to their parents fora good reason. I have spent my entire life lying to my parents in order to have any sort of life. They didnt approve of my friends, didnt like what I was "into" and in order to be able to maintain my self and not become heir puppet, I had to lie. I let them think what they wanted, did as I pleased and had a few friends who were willing to vouch for me if I should need an excuse for something. Sometimes, parents make it necessary to stretch the truth, or out and out break it. I still have to lie to mine, they would make my life hell if they knew that Angel and I were in a relationship. Circumstance is everything. If the lies are mecessary ones for the sake of sanity then I could deal. If they are frivilous ones, probably not. But then again, my life experience makes that a little bit of a skewed opinion. DV

TopZippy -> RE: Could you? (11/25/2006 9:48:48 PM)
I would have to say yes, simply because I have yet to meet a submissive who was forthcoming about her D/s lifestyle to her parents. A lie of omission is still a lie. And if you have to lie to cover up your relationship, what should you do? We all lie, to some extent, in our lives. Not all lies are malicious, some are intended to prevent further harm or discomfort to the self or others. TopZippy

FelinePersuasion -> RE: Could you? (11/25/2006 10:05:53 PM)
My parents know about my bdsm interests, and they know I call my partner daddy, I do it in front of them too. quote: ORIGINAL: TopZippy I would have to say yes, simply because I have yet to meet a submissive who was forthcoming about her D/s lifestyle to her parents. A lie of omission is still a lie. And if you have to lie to cover up your relationship, what should you do? We all lie, to some extent, in our lives. Not all lies are malicious, some are intended to prevent further harm or discomfort to the self or others. TopZippy

TopZippy -> RE: Could you? (11/25/2006 10:17:38 PM)
Cool! Nice to meet you! I retract my previous statement! <grin> That kind of relationship and openness with your parental-units must be freeing. TopZippy!

emdoub -> RE: Could you? (11/25/2006 10:27:29 PM)
What lie did she tell, and why? I'm pretty seriously insistent upon honesty - but I also recognize the need to make honesty safe. If lying were needful, I'd not get terribly excited about it. I'd need more information before I could give an answer that meant anything. Midnight Writer

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Could you? (11/26/2006 1:58:03 AM)
quote: Would you accept a submissive that was able to lie to her parents? Could you respect her if she did? Absolutely. I keep things from my family and tell them half truths all the time.

Focus50 -> RE: Could you? (11/26/2006 2:38:39 AM)
One of those rare occasions that I'll go with the majority here! I'd want to know her reasons and they'd need to be situation specific because these things can be habit forming.... Lying to me, esp a black lie, is a whole other matter! Focus.

LW3 -> RE: Could you? (11/26/2006 2:47:31 AM)
yes. I don't care if she lied to her parents (we all do) as long as she doesn't lie to me.

iced05 -> RE: Could you? (11/26/2006 3:07:06 AM)
defend u lie for u own good or both party .... or u lie to cover up something u not suppost to be in

happypervert -> RE: Could you? (11/26/2006 5:20:00 AM)
If the lies were the sort where she told her parents she was going shopping when she was really coming over to suck my dick, I could accept that.

Caitriona -> RE: Could you? (11/26/2006 8:13:21 AM)
It would all depend on the nature of her circumstances and what she was lying about. As the other posters have said, there are certain aspects of my life that I choose not to share with my family. I think it's safe to say that's fairly normal.

Renorei -> RE: Could you? (11/26/2006 8:25:22 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: happypervert If the lies were the sort where she told her parents she was going shopping when she was really coming over to suck my dick, I could accept that. LOL [:D]

Celeste43 -> RE: Could you? (11/26/2006 9:02:40 AM)
My father is 80 years old. It is none of his business what I do. So if I say we spent the weekend working on the cars and don't mention being tied up and spanked, so what? This is my relationship, not his. I prefer lies of omission, not comission, but that is not always possible.

subnstudent -> RE: Could you? (11/26/2006 11:47:46 AM)
I definitely agree that some lies are better for the sake of keeping the peace... especially when parents take it upon themselves to 'rescue' you from -your- choices when they find out the truth. Mixing "truth" with "parents" can be bloody dangerous. I am of the opinion that, if a Dom doesn't understand that, he is going to be vastly limiting his ability to find a sub. ~Nicholas

kittensangel -> RE: Could you? (11/26/2006 12:31:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TopZippy Cool! Nice to meet you! I retract my previous statement! <grin> That kind of relationship and openness with your parental-units must be freeing. TopZippy! Oww its real freeing when your parents know and then do anythign they can to make you miserable, becuase they feel you are in "cult". I wish my mother was just fucking clueless. then yhou ahve the guilt trips for me refusing to be their puppet and instead decided to go indepentent so i be happy.

toservez -> RE: Could you? (11/26/2006 1:00:19 PM)
Anybody who says they have never lied to their parents is a liar. Like everyone else here, it depends on the nature of the lie, just like with all lies to all people from all types, genders and roles.

dvart -> RE: Could you? (11/26/2006 1:25:38 PM)
Both my parents are dead, but I have to say I wish I had lied MORE to them when I was your age. They always said "you will feel guilty when we are gone". Now they are gone my only regret is not asserting my independence more than I did. It's YOUR life and you only get one (unless you are a Buddist). Avoid lying if possible, but if lying is the only way to take you chosen path in life then GO FOR IT. GOOD LUCK [:D]

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