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DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 4:35:35 AM   
trainthisslave


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Status: offline 		what should i do now. somebody please advice me. i need to learn. i have got a master, who kept me online for months. and was always satisfied with my online obedience to his trainning. then after long keeping me, he said i am far and sorry for dissapointing me. i managed to bear the heartbreak and keep on with another Dom who came arround. after another longer months than that of previous, he also decided to laough at me and told me that he was only in need of cam nudity to be satisfying himself for some time. how sweet it was for him. i mentioned not others of less then a month. i have nothing to say, aftar all i am only a sub slave and i have to comply with due respects. but it took me years, electric bills, internet bills,phone call bills, time and energy to satisfy them and i got paid with dissapointments. what should i do now. somebody please advice me. i need to learn.
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RE: DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 4:40:44 AM   
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time and energy to satisfy them and i got paid with dissapointments. what should i do now. somebody please advice me. i need to learn.


Sorry to hear of your disapointments. Many out there do not care.

You might wish to find the support of other women that have a healthy aditude and outlook for guidance.

I am sure there are chapters of BDSM in your area that you might wish to consider.

Meet people in a public place with friends present.

There will be others after this post that I am sure will give you the do's and don't's.

Don't get discouraged. It is worth the effort you put into it.

Ross

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RE: DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 4:43:19 AM   
MsSonnetMarwood


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Status: offline 		If you don't want to be left as an online slave...don't do the online cyber thing in the first place.

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RE: DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 4:52:22 AM   
windchymes


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Status: offline 		And stop satisfying other people until you know you're going to get something in return.  The internet isn't full of wise old Masters who are dying to take slaves under their wing, they're online here looking for cheap and easy fun. 

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RE: DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 4:59:49 AM   
SamKeithsslave


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Status: offline 		Been in the same situation - once! I spent 18 months online with a man who promised to come out to be with me. We had cam sex, phone sex etc I fell in love with him. Then finally out of the blue he tells me he can not get his passport issued because he owes the state of Oregon $8600 in back child support and until that is paid he can not leave etc He told me I should move on etc and dumped me. I learnt from this one major thing - and no I am not going to say dont meet and play with men online, cos I still believe online relationships can work. I am actually again in another online relationship, however this time around I have told my Master I will NOT get into any more long term, long distance relationships and that if we do not meet within 2-3 months then I shall have no choice but to move on again. Many people here will try and tell you not to get involved online etc and that if you do expect disappointment. I'd rather not limit myself by disregarding any opportnity an online Master might be able to offer. All I would say is do what you are comfortable with, set yourself a time frame in which you expect to meet the Master and if he doesnt meet it move on, dont be tied down by promises that may not come to fruition. And most of all good luck!!

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RE: DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 5:01:55 AM   
SamKeithsslave


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And stop satisfying other people until you know you're going to get something in return.  The internet isn't full of wise old Masters who are dying to take slaves under their wing, they're online here looking for cheap and easy fun. 


You make being cheap and easy sound like a bad thing

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RE: DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 5:05:52 AM   
KatyLied


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i am only a sub slave and i have to comply with due respects


You do?  To strangers on-line?  I don't think so.


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RE: DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 5:30:19 AM   
Level


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Status: offline 		How close is Benin to Ghana?

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Fake the heat and scratch the itch
Skinned up knees and salty lips
Let go it's harder holding on
One more trip and I'll be gone

~~ Stone Temple Pilots

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RE: DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 5:32:51 AM   
windchymes


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And stop satisfying other people until you know you're going to get something in return.  The internet isn't full of wise old Masters who are dying to take slaves under their wing, they're online here looking for cheap and easy fun. 


You make being cheap and easy sound like a bad thing


Oh my...I did, didn't I??? 

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RE: DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 5:38:25 AM   
angharad


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Status: offline 		Why do you think you have to comply and have to respect?  He either deserves respect or he doesn't. 

Make yourself a list of rules of what you consider to be unacceptable behaviour and stick to it for a good while, no matter how much you might want to submit.  It defines what you want out of a relationship and your needs in the relationship. It helps protect  you against people who want to use your submissive nature to get their own easy thrills. Perhaps one of the first things you should decide is if you want your D/s relationship to be online or real life.

Dont feel you have to prove you are submissive to anyone by obeying them.  Its your choice to submit in the type of relationship you think you need, and respect has to be earned by both dominant and submissive.

Be a little cyncial, make that list of rules and look at the person's actions more than what is said.  For example, Are they always making you call? Are they always keeping you up late at night to cyber when you have commitments the next day?  See things in black and white a little more.

Be aware.  Read some of the posts on here, other peoples experiences. Get yourself as much knowledge as possible.  Some people quite frankly dont give a damn.  Don't be too sad, its happened, you want to learn from it so you probably will. i'm a believer in until you learn the lesson, the mistake keeps being made.  Change your behaviour by making that list and deciding what you want.

Best of luck


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RE: DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 5:54:17 AM   
MmakeMme


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Status: offline 		Sweet Pea, just because you are a slave does not mean you are not worthy of a strong man who is worthy of ~you~. You set your own boundaries, whatever works for you, whatever makes you feel like the woman you were born to be. Own your own power, and f*ck the ones who use you to make themselves feel better at your expense.

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RE: DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 5:56:55 AM   
trainthisslave


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Status: offline 		my first language is french, english comes second. so if you can write in french, i will appreciate it much. kiss. yet i am still seeking for true master who can be different from others i have met.

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RE: DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 6:06:07 AM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		A slave always has the right to choose Who will be her Master.  There may be a reason why you are engaged in online and cyber/phone relationships and it's none of my business.  Understand that NO Master should expect His slave to go into debt to serve Him, especially online.  i would suggest what was already said that you, too, should have some input as to how you want the relationship to be defined.  If you honestly believe you have absolutely no rights to the definition of the dynamic you will in fact be stuck with the dynamic someone else wants. 

ALL human disappointment is the result of other people not doing what we wanted or expected them to do.  By letting others know what we want or expect, we greatly reduce our disappointments.

i'm sorry you've had to have these experiences.  Take what lessons you can from them.  It may be for the best that you have not met these guys in person.... maybe there is a reason to be happy about that.  Best of luck to you.




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RE: DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 6:06:10 AM   
angharad


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Status: offline 		I had thoughts along these lines.  Am I too cynical?

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RE: DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 6:08:30 AM   
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ORIGINAL: trainthisslave

my first language is french, english comes second. so if you can write in french, i will appreciate it much. kiss. yet i am still seeking for true master who can be different from others i have met.


So, you're wanting to leave Benin?

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Fake the heat and scratch the itch
Skinned up knees and salty lips
Let go it's harder holding on
One more trip and I'll be gone

~~ Stone Temple Pilots

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RE: DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 6:12:21 AM   
angharad


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Status: offline 		faites une liste de ce qui est comportement inacceptable et collez a lui. - make a list of what is unacceptable behaviour and stick to it.


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RE: DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 9:38:41 AM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: trainthisslave

what should i do now. somebody please advice me. i need to learn. i have got a master, who kept me online for months. and was always satisfied with my online obedience to his trainning. then after long keeping me, he said i am far and sorry for dissapointing me. i managed to bear the heartbreak and keep on with another Dom who came arround. after another longer months than that of previous, he also decided to laough at me and told me that he was only in need of cam nudity to be satisfying himself for some time. how sweet it was for him. i mentioned not others of less then a month. i have nothing to say, aftar all i am only a sub slave and i have to comply with due respects. but it took me years, electric bills, internet bills,phone call bills, time and energy to satisfy them and i got paid with dissapointments. what should i do now. somebody please advice me. i need to learn.


Heh.. hon there is a large difference between submission and being a doormat. I understand the desire to submit but something you should do is make sure that this man you are submitting it is worth what you are giving him. These men weren't.
These relationships are straining you, both emotionally and finically it sounds. Be more strict in your screening process before you give your everything. If you can not do it for yourself, do it to preserve yourself for the man who will someday actually care, love, guide, and dominate you as life partner.

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Without my dominance you cannot submit. Without your submission I cannot dominate. You are my equal in this, though our roles are different.-Val

It was ok for him to beat me but then he tried to cuddle me! - Me

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RE: DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 9:46:09 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Level

quote:

ORIGINAL: trainthisslave

my first language is french, english comes second. so if you can write in french, i will appreciate it much. kiss. yet i am still seeking for true master who can be different from others i have met.


So, you're wanting to leave Benin?


Level...  mon ami,
tu me fait rire comme un idiote!  

~ "Rouge"


Level...  my friend,
you make me laugh like an idiot! 

~ "Red" 

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RE: DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 9:51:18 AM   
MisPandora


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i need to learn.

You do need to learn from your experiences and try not to repeat them again.  Your submission is not something to give lightly to those who will not respect it.  You will unfortunately continue down this pathway of disappointment if you keep that line of thinking that "i have nothing to say, aftar all i am only a sub slave and i have to comply with due respects" -- that's completely and totally bullshit.  You're a human being first.  Treat yourself with respect, make them work for your trust and respect and submission, and you'll attract more people who will treat you respectfully.

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RE: DISSAPOINTMENTS AND HEARTBREAK. WHO PAYS FOR IT. - 11/26/2006 10:00:15 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Level

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ORIGINAL: trainthisslave

my first language is french, english comes second. so if you can write in french, i will appreciate it much. kiss. yet i am still seeking for true master who can be different from others i have met.


So, you're wanting to leave Benin?


Level...  mon ami,
tu me fait rire comme un idiote!  

~ "Rouge"




Level...  my friend,
you make me laugh like an idiot! 

~ "Red" 


Mon cheval est coincé en cire, m'apportent un tabouret!  Hi lovely lady. Hey, I was just asking if she wanted to relocate LOL..... and how close Benin was to Ghana. *smiles innocently*

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Fake the heat and scratch the itch
Skinned up knees and salty lips
Let go it's harder holding on
One more trip and I'll be gone

~~ Stone Temple Pilots

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