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slavemaia -> RE: Maintaining control (11/29/2006 6:17:35 PM)
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If someone has to WORK at being Dom or submissive..maybe they actually are neither. It's something you are born with... just a part of your personality. The only thing one can work at is perfecting techniques.
It's shouldn't be "work".
Perhaps we are saying the same thing, but work is a labor of love for me. Natural abilities do not eliminate the need for focus and practice. For example; i have much natural talent/ability as an artist. i can settle for just that and feel frustrated not being able to draw what i wish to, direct my artistic abilities in a way that is most useful or creative, or i can develop and grow this ability through classes or lessons and practice. i think a D/s relationship is quite similar to this. Knowing who i am does not eliminate the desire or the need to develop myself further. This applies to my submission as much as to anything else i aspire to do well.
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