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RE: Mommy - 11/30/2006 3:30:46 PM

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I just saw the daddy comment.....I don't think of a girl as my child......it's hard to explain, but no, it's not like incest.

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RE: Mommy - 11/30/2006 7:49:38 PM

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I just saw the daddy comment.....I don't think of a girl as my child......it's hard to explain, but no, it's not like incest.

No, I wasn't even thinking about the incest part. I am just saying that once I mothered my own children and had all those experiences, I couldn't see how the mothering experience could be sexy. And diapers?? Been there, done that :)

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RE: Mommy - 11/30/2006 7:59:31 PM

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I'm chiming in as another who this doesn't suit... I can't get into the idea or role of mommy to someone. Nor could I be comfortable with a daddy or mommy.

For me, the idea of that interaction is distasteful. While I'm often in a leading and caring-for role with vanilla friends, I never in vanilla or bdsm situations can take that further dynamic on. I've no wish to breed and don't have an interest in adult children (age play or no age play). Just not in my personal comfort zone.

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RE: Mommy - 11/30/2006 11:27:26 PM

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I personally don't like relationships with people younger than me. One of my quirks. Age play is a hard limit, but I don't think that's what's being asked... older Dommes will like you (some anyways) as will younger ones when you age abit...

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RE: Mommy - 12/1/2006 11:10:17 AM

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quote:

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ORIGINAL: Daddy4Princess4

I just saw the daddy comment.....I don't think of a girl as my child......it's hard to explain, but no, it's not like incest.

Well, that's why fetishes are considered weird....it's hard to imagine why someone would like something we don't. I don't get the whole diaper thing either (yuck), and the whole "regression" concept gets me a little squeamish too.

I guess it's pretty hard to explain.

No, I wasn't even thinking about the incest part. I am just saying that once I mothered my own children and had all those experiences, I couldn't see how the mothering experience could be sexy. And diapers?? Been there, done that :)

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RE: Mommy - 12/2/2006 10:57:39 AM

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I think I fall naturally into a "Momma" Domme role. I have always been the caretaker, but Domme type caretaker. The problem I have experienced with the guys wanting to be Momma's boys, is they want to be taken care of. No working outside of home and to be totally spoiled. In my home the Momma's boy spoils Momma......lol. Son come here seems to come out of my mouth so naturally...hehe.

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RE: Mommy - 10/12/2008 7:04:40 PM

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The leap for women or men if that's what they want to experience is probably just another step in life. For the one's that can't see it, it's probably a Grand Canyon of life!

Personally, I know that as I get older, my boundaries are harder than they were when I was 20 and hormones were raging. I think it's like that for everyone, so if it's a hard line, then everyone enjoy their own. If it's something you wish to explore and enjoy with your sub, then I wish all the best and I wish you all the success and happiness.

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RE: Mommy - 10/12/2008 10:50:15 PM

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Well crap.

This threads so old she's a grandmommy now.

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RE: Mommy - 10/13/2008 2:45:12 AM

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It depends if you are looking for warmer, more maternal domination, or are heading into infantilism and nappies and stuff. Try to be more specific about what you want. I'm told some women are into the former, but the latter would be hard to find and be more likely to be found among the professionals.

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RE: Mommy - 10/13/2008 7:05:57 AM

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I think the maternal nature of women comes out in their play.. they are the caregivers, nuturers, and teachers by nature. So I think the mothering instinct is somewhat a natural development btwn submissive and Dominant. How many of us have been the stern governess to the naughty boy, the much maligned teacher to the recalcitrant schoolboy.. its a single step to Mommy/son.. really its the same with different names..and personally I am open to the relationships developing as nature/nuture takes them. SD

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RE: Mommy - 10/13/2008 2:16:28 PM

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Mommy/son/ adult baby roleplay can be extremely helpful in certain situations. In my own experince, Mistress had me regress in age somewhat to help me with my trust issues. It was more the extremely loving, nurturing thing then the full out diaper thing. Long story short, it has worked.

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RE: Mommy - 10/14/2008 7:05:31 AM

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quote:

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I think the maternal nature of women comes out in their play.. they are the caregivers, nuturers, and teachers by nature. So I think the mothering instinct is somewhat a natural development btwn submissive and Dominant. How many of us have been the stern governess to the naughty boy, the much maligned teacher to the recalcitrant schoolboy.. its a single step to Mommy/son.. really its the same with different names..and personally I am open to the relationships developing as nature/nuture takes them. SD

I think this is how I would view this. At te same time I believe many subs are too demanding and don't contribute anything. Nothing is better than getting it done at work all day and come home to a domme to be babied and nutured. Talk about a stress reliever.

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RE: Mommy - 10/14/2008 9:28:07 AM

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nurturing is something everyone needs, some more than others. nothing wrong with that.
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RE: Mommy - 10/14/2008 8:16:43 PM

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With the right sub I could be the warm motherly kind of Domme but I'm not into the whole diaper thing (there was a good reason why I didn't have kids of My own!). Years ago one of My subs called Me Mistress Mommy and I liked that, about the most sexual it got in that role was him suckling My breasts while I stroked his face or hair and that felt cool with Me. However, it's not a role I'd want permanently.

Master's 15 years younger than me and We have a tendency to have fun play with age play ... whenever there's something i can't manage eg a top on a bottle or jar i can't open, i tend to ask "Dadda" and He does it for "bubba". But it's more fun than serious and usually gets Us laughing a lot which is all good. And just every now and then, if i am trying to be stern about something, He says "Yes Mum!" and off We go on that tangent for a bit. We have fun with it all!

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RE: Mommy - 10/29/2008 2:46:14 PM

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IMHO, I think men and women both are mother/father types in the right situation, with the right partner, as we are all protective of our loved ones. I also think that mommy/daddy types are made, not just there. It takes a lot of nurturing and time to develop a mommy type or daddy type as most submissives will probably agree. It takes a lot of open communication and dedication to the relationship, as well as surrender on the part of the submissive. This submission is so complete for some, that diapers are required as you have no control even over your most basic bodily functions. Some that's too much and they're just nurturing and caring for the submissive as a dominant. For others, it extends into their daily lives and the submissive is required to live, act and dress according to the dominant's desires or whims.

Each person chooses the extent of submission into Age Play they go, unless they state they have no limits. Most will find that they do, when their mommy or daddy has them strapped down and is applying lotion, powder and finally a thick absorbent diaper that will be used as intended, as demonstrated by the comments in some of the other Age Play posts.

I personally, would enjoy the time with a mommy type and opportunity to educate any woman to the sensual aspect of caring for an adult age player or adult baby or diaper lover. I hereby extend an open invitation to anyone that wishes to intelligently discuss this aspect of this fetish to converse with me and I will be open and honest with you. Please be courteous and respectful, and I shall extend the same courtesies!

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RE: Mommy - 10/29/2008 4:51:43 PM

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There's often a sort of mother/child interaction between Ma'am and i, when you consider the caring and nurturing and the love between us; but the line has to be drawn somewhere for me. She can hold me and comfort me and make me feel safe, but i simply could never think of her as "Mommy", just that She fills a sometimes maternal role for me.

I can't speak for Daddy Doms, but in vanilla i've several times had a woman call me "Daddy" during intimate moments; that puts me in so the wrong headspace and seriously creeps me out. I've always considered that if i were dominant it would be of the daddy-type variety, but it would have to be something never verbalized.

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RE: Mommy - 10/29/2008 6:17:07 PM

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I like some aspects of this because I am fairly nurturing, must be obeyed, and totally into the discipline thing.
I am not however into mommy/baby (diapering) thing at all. M

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RE: Mommy - 11/8/2008 3:29:04 PM

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The so called "diaper thing" is trusting enough to give up even the most basic control to the mommy/daddy figure. It also takes away any ability to be macho as a guy I can tell you that. It's difficult to win an argument when you're in a soaked or soiled diaper with a partner.

The breastfeeding and cuddling is a natural thing that most adult babies and diaper lovers like about the fetish and scene. I know I do. As far as being kept, and not working, I don't think I could ever be a 24/7 bABy and totally dependent on someone for everything. I like most men, get their self worth from the jobs they perform and not the relationships they form like most women. So for me to lay around all day in a diaper would get really old really quick. I have to keep my house clean. I do the dishes, laundry, make the beds, vacuum the floors and carpet and cook.

Being a single parent of a child with developmental disabilities, I had to do something. I know there are very needy men and women out here that would just give up all responsibility and wet and mess their diapers contently for their mommy/daddy, but I'm not one of them. I want a relationship where the diapers do play a part, but they won't be everything in life. Diversity and communication will make the relationship stronger and if the mommy/Domme wants me in diapers, then I'm sure I'll be waddling around, but I won't allow her to do all the work in the relationship. It will burn anyone out to be 24/7 ON all the time!

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RE: Mommy - 11/8/2008 9:20:56 PM

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I'm in a D/S relationship with a much younger man at the moment. I do not do a lot of ageplay per se, but the difference in age between us is certainly a locus of power and I am willing to work with it at times.

I think the role of Mommy has the same purpose for male submissives that Daddy does for female submissives. It's an issue of sheer physical attraction to some degree--some guys will always be more attracted to a woman over 30. Such men are attracted to older women all their lives, whether they are 15 or 50, and they will always tend to eroticize women in Mother or Crone roles more than women in Maiden roles.

Obviously there's an emotional component there as well. Impossible to put it all in a single box, but it usually has something to do with how Mommy makes a small boy or girl feel. When a mother cradles her child, the child feels tiny, safe, warm, overwhelmed/overpowered, and absolutely adored. He is close to Her heart, beautiful in Her eyes, worthy of Her attention, receiving Her loving discipline when he is a bad boy and inspiring Her joy and pride when he is good. (I'm assuming there's some of the same energy happening in "Daddy" play as well.)

I can easily see how working within those roles could be a deeply healing and/or deeply erotic experience. "Mother Goddess" is probably the most ancient archetype of female dominance known to humankind. So...no, don't think there's anything "weird" about it per se. Certainly it's no weirder than any other roleplay that people do in BDSM...

Just as an aside, on that subject...I realize that some people have some serious issues about real-life child abuse, but I think the idea that ageplay is analogous to real incest or child abuse is...pretty much insane. It's the exact same sort of thinking that holds that any BDSM game between consenting adults is somehow analogous to any real non-consensual criminal act, be it kidnapping, rape, blackmail, interrogation, torture, medical malpractice or slavery. I wish people would stop talking about it in threads like this--real child abuse is what squicks me out, not ageplay between consenting adults!