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Small Admission - 11/28/2006 1:57:25 PM   
BlueStripe


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Status: offline 		Is admitting to a domme that I am not very well-endowed something that I should do or avoid?  Are there dommes out there that would actually prefer a guy with a really small penis? 
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RE: Small Admission - 11/28/2006 2:15:33 PM   
LadyEllen


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Status: offline 		Hi Blue

I wouldnt worry about it. The Jack Sparrow look more than makes up for any lack elsewhere!

And are you lacking anyway? Or you just think (or want to think) you are?

E

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RE: Small Admission - 11/28/2006 3:02:06 PM   
DiamondOrchid


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Status: offline 		I don't see why it should matter. Afterall, are you interested in a woman telling you her exact cleavage size & whether or not she uses enhancements?
 
Rather shallow in my opinion. So long as you know how to use it, or your tongue, it's all good in my books!

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RE: Small Admission - 11/28/2006 3:03:52 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		You shouldn't until you start to seriously discuss sex.  Then you should calmly and without a lot of bluster say that you think you aren't very well endowed but definitely want to try to enjoy things.  Then move from there.

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RE: Small Admission - 11/28/2006 3:13:14 PM   
AuburnLady40


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Status: offline 		There are to many implements available to assist in whatever is lacking in "size".  I am curious, do you speak to length or girth? If you are ten inches long and have the circumference of a pencil, I'd consider that to be a size issue.  IMO, it's not the length, but the girth; when angled correctly, a two inch cock with achieve a "G" spot orgasm and provide satisfaction in the ass as well.

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RE: Small Admission - 11/28/2006 3:26:16 PM   
BitaTruble


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Status: offline 		I'd discuss it when you're comfortable, whether you plan to engage in sex or not. (Not in a first email though!!)

A lot of people don't have sex with submissives but they adore CBT (like me!) and I don't want to go out and spend money on a really nice, oh, gates-of-hell for instance, if it's not going to fit. Even better, purchase your own toys which you know will fit you and you can share that knowledge as well. I always appreciate a submissive who comes equipped with their own toy bag. If you are speaking with a dominant who is strictly D/s without any sexual activities or S/m involved, then it won't matter to her anyway.

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RE: Small Admission - 11/28/2006 3:39:07 PM   
LadyEllen


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BitaTruble
I don't want to go out and spend money on a really nice, oh, gates-of-hell for instance, if it's not going to fit.
Celeste


I made this mistake already - not a gates of hell but something similar with fully adjustable parts. It wouldnt stay on him. I wouldnt have believed it, but there it was.
E

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RE: Small Admission - 11/28/2006 3:41:43 PM   
LadyEllen


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BlueStripe

Is admitting to a domme that I am not very well-endowed something that I should do or avoid?  Are there dommes out there that would actually prefer a guy with a really small penis? 


Hi Blue

Still love the Jack Sparrow thing you got going on!

I looked at your profile - youre interested also in TS dommes? If you really are small then thats ideal for many post op TS women; the neo vagina formed by surgery is often not that deep by comparison to a natural one.

E

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RE: Small Admission - 11/28/2006 6:40:03 PM   
ladylexington


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Status: offline 		I've played with nine inches and four, and often paid more attention to how well (or poorly) the sub shaved his balls.

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RE: Small Admission - 11/28/2006 6:50:24 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		Unless you are one of those who are into being humiliated for not being well endowed, it doesnt have to be brought up at all.  Unless, of course, she asks...
I know I dont ask about these things, since if somoene is lacking in one department, they can usually learn to make it up elsewhere.  Size isnt all that matters, its how well you use what you've got.

DV

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RE: Small Admission - 11/28/2006 7:47:30 PM   
mp072004


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Status: offline 		Unless your penis is exceptional in size, which, in my experience, means two inches or less or eight inches or more erect, I wouldn't care to know, and I might find a declaration of size rude. If I had begun to discuss playing with you, I would want to know whether your penis had been circumcised, and I would certainly want you to tell me of piercings or other actual irregularities. If a new playmate's penis was found to be uncommonly small (sub-two inches) the worst thing that could happen on my end is that I would have a surfeit of clothespins. No great tragedy, that.

Monica


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RE: Small Admission - 11/29/2006 5:53:47 AM   
thetammyjo


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ORIGINAL: BlueStripe

Is admitting to a domme that I am not very well-endowed something that I should do or avoid? Are there dommes out there that would actually prefer a guy with a really small penis?


Fox told me this about himself before I saw him naked for the first time.

He was incorrect about his self assessment -- he's perfectly averaged sized down there.

I think a lot of men worry about this who frankly shouldn't. If you are comparing yourself to porn and magazines of porn stars please remember that camera tricks can be used to make things seem bigger and that cock size is a factor for male porn stars. They should not be your standard -- consult some medical texts if you want to know what "normal" really is.

It was the only thing he did that turned me off when we began his training because it assumed I'd care about that. If I'd cared, I would have asked.

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RE: Small Admission - 11/29/2006 7:59:04 AM   
MisPandora


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ORIGINAL: BlueStripe

Is admitting to a domme that I am not very well-endowed something that I should do or avoid? 

You just DID.....so was there some other question you wanted to ask, or was this just your means of publicly humiliating yourself at our expense?

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Are there dommes out there that would actually prefer a guy with a really small penis? 

Other women might not care about their slave's equipment, but I mind, that's for damn sure.  It's hard enough wrangling the amazing disappearing balls into a harness, and dealing with your wet noodle as it's dribbling and being all rebellious as I'm aiming at it with needles.  Why would I want a smaller target? I'm getting older, and I don't want to have to deal with bifocals just yet in my life.  Coloring the gray away is traumatic enough. 

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RE: Small Admission - 11/29/2006 8:45:22 AM   
Renorei


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quote:

ORIGINAL: BlueStripe

Is admitting to a domme that I am not very well-endowed something that I should do or avoid?  Are there dommes out there that would actually prefer a guy with a really small penis? 


Some women get offended if you tell them you have a small penis because they think it's an insult that they would even care, while others would get offended if you don't because they don't want a tiny guy and they feel you should tell them earlier. 

Perhaps ask her:  "Is a really small penis or a really big penis a problem for you?"

Or maybe:  "What size penis do you consider too small, and what size do you consider too big?"

Or, even more vague:  "Are there any physical characteristics that you consider a complete turnoff?"

Or something along those lines...test the water carefully first before you just blurt out your size. 


Are there some women who would prefer a smaller guy?  Yes, there are some.  Many women seem to enjoy humiliating men with small penises (if you also enjoy humilitiation, that would be helpful).  Also, some women seem to like small penises because they find it better for G-Spot stimulation. 

Oh and FYI average penis size is actually 5 inches (erect).  Pornos aren't accurate at all, and neither is the 6 inch average that everyone has been believing for years.  The 5 inch measurement came from the Wessels study, which is one of the only studies to date that has actually measured guys' penises instead of letting them report their own results.  It's a pretty safe bet that in any study where guys can report their own measurement, a handful will surely lie.

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RE: Small Admission - 11/29/2006 8:54:19 AM   
LadyEllen


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Status: offline 		If you Google "Wessels Study penis" there is a Wikipedia link to the data!

E

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RE: Small Admission - 11/29/2006 9:09:42 AM   
pixelslave


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ORIGINAL: mp072004

Unless your penis is exceptional in size, which, in my experience, means two inches or less or eight inches or more erect, I wouldn't care to know, and I might find a declaration of size rude. If I had begun to discuss playing with you, I would want to know whether your penis had been circumcised, and I would certainly want you to tell me of piercings or other actual irregularities. If a new playmate's penis was found to be uncommonly small (sub-two inches) the worst thing that could happen on my end is that I would have a surfeit of clothespins. No great tragedy, that.

Monica



Monica,
I can understand your wanting to know about piercings or say if he had peyronies disease (sp? penis bends to one side).  But if I may ask, why would it matter to you whether or not a man's penis has been circumcised? 

- pixel

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RE: Small Admission - 11/29/2006 10:17:02 AM   
DiamondOrchid


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Status: offline 		Pixel, not to answer for Monica, but for me personaly... I prefer uncircumsized men. More skin to play with  and from my experience, uncut men seem to have more sensitivity in that region than cut men. Not that I've played sooooooooooo much to know this as a fact, but so far, this seems to be the case.
 
Any guys or Dommes care to comment on their experiences with un/cut men?
 
D.

Edited because the space bar decided to stick...

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RE: Small Admission - 11/29/2006 10:35:04 AM   
Renorei


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Status: offline 		It's true about the sensitivity.  I saw a webpage once that had comments from men who got circumsized as adults because of medical reasons.  The general consensus was that sex without a foreskin is like sight without color, and they severely regretted losing their foreskins.  Men who are uncut don't have to thrust as hard during sex to enjoy it because they are so sensitive, therefore their female partners don't feel like they're getting "banged" and so they enjoy sex more too. 

Routine infant circumcisions is one of the greatest evils in this country that goes completely unnoticed.  Nobody should have a choice like that made for them when they're just an infant...particularly when it's a choice that has such a great effect on one's sexual pleasure.   If I was a guy and my parents had gotten me circumsized, I'd be furious.  When I got older and had money, I'd get it restored. 

Sorry for going off on such a weird tangent, but routine infant circumcision just makes me so mad. 

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RE: Small Admission - 11/29/2006 11:10:02 AM   
undergroundsea


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ORIGINAL: Renorei
The 5 inch measurement came from the Wessels study, which is one of the only studies to date that has actually measured guys' penises instead of letting them report their own results.  It's a pretty safe bet that in any study where guys can report their own measurement, a handful will surely lie.


And it's complicated stuff! It's like before they had the metric system. It was hard to know how a person 175 centimeters tall in one country compared to a height that measured 19 palm widths in another country. I mean, do you measure from the base from the side of the penis that faces up or down? And what if it has a curve? Do you measure the arc, or just a straight line from the base to the tip? And every measurement is made to a certain resolution. What resolution do you use, and do you round up or down? An inch resolution seems reasonable, right? We need to have a training video from National Institute of Standards and Technology to standardize this measurement is what we need.

;-)

I did not about the Wessels study and its basis makes sense. Thank you for mentioning it.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: Small Admission - 11/30/2006 2:00:24 AM   
sydneypig


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Status: offline 		Renori
Men can restore their foreskin by stretching the skin over a long period of time.Surgery is not the only method.
(this could be a thread on its own)

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