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tom99boy -> what is a tribute (11/29/2006 11:02:16 AM)
what does a tribute mean in profiles and messages?

RibbonsAndCurls -> RE: what is a tribute (11/29/2006 11:03:11 AM)
usually it means money or presents.. something like that

mnottertail -> RE: what is a tribute (11/29/2006 11:03:40 AM)
a gift, a lavishment, money for women.... blowjobs for men... Ron

gemy -> RE: what is a tribute (11/29/2006 11:11:36 AM)
"blowjobs for men" is that true??

KatyLied -> RE: what is a tribute (11/29/2006 11:12:24 AM)
It means: pay to play

crouchingtigress -> RE: what is a tribute (11/29/2006 11:12:38 AM)
frankincense, myrrh, gold dabloons....also a tribute could be a TV show. I would think something with showgirls and William Shatner hosting would go a long way to win a mistresses heart. i know it would do it for me.

cyberdude611 -> RE: what is a tribute (11/29/2006 11:13:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tom99boy what does a tribute mean in profiles and messages? It's a codeword for "keep looking" unless throwing your money away is your kink.

mnottertail -> RE: what is a tribute (11/29/2006 11:17:52 AM)
a response would require some form of tribute........... Tiberius Caesar

Elegant -> RE: what is a tribute (11/29/2006 11:19:45 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: crouchingtigress I would think something with showgirls and William Shatner hosting would go a long way to win a mistresses heart. i know it would do it for me. With William Shatner singing??????? Wait...is this deja vu or from a hijacked post last week.

stef -> RE: what is a tribute (11/29/2006 11:27:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied It means: pay to play Not always. I know several non-pros who use a tribute request as a show of intent and sincerity. They've been jerked around by so many guys who just want to send email and get off on the responses that they ask for something small, and it's not always monetary. The ones who are in it for the free thrill almost never comply so it acts as a pretty effective litmus test to screen out the less than sincere. Most often than not, however, it's just as you describe. ~stef

Tslaveboy -> RE: what is a tribute (11/29/2006 5:11:40 PM)
It's money in return for the fantasy of somehow being involved with a Mistress.

LTRsubNW -> RE: what is a tribute (11/29/2006 5:56:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tom99boy what does a tribute mean in profiles and messages? She wants you to stand in a public place and profess fealty to her forevermore.

mp072004 -> RE: what is a tribute (11/29/2006 7:34:37 PM)
Tom, RibbonsAndCurls offered a good description. Tribute typically means something of value, usually a material object but sometimes a service, rendered to a dominant. It most often appears with submissive men and dominant women. It's occasionally a euphemism for the fee of a professional dominant--you might also see "donation," or "offering" for this--but a good professional will clearly identify herself as a professional, so you won't have trouble discerning that. If the idea of rendering tribute to a non-professional dominant seems uncomfortable or difficult to understand, think about the exchanges that take place in all relationships. When you give time to someone, he or she is gaining something from you, and you are gaining something from him or her. Sometimes one end or the other is monetary, like when you pay for a doctor to examine your body or for a barber to cut your hair. Sometimes it's not hard cash, but something with material value. Have you ever given a gift acquired on a trip to the person who cared for your pet while you were away? Taken a friend to lunch in order for him or her to advise you? If, in the most subtle version of this, I like talking to you because you tell me things I didn't know, and you like talking to me because I make you laugh, then we've each gained something from the other, too. So, if I want a scarf that you can give me, and you want a spanking that I can give you, and we agree to trade a scarf for a spanking, we both win. Monica

Hercuckslave -> RE: what is a tribute (11/29/2006 8:09:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stef quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied It means: pay to play Not always. I know several non-pros who use a tribute request as a show of intent and sincerity. They've been jerked around by so many guys who just want to send email and get off on the responses that they ask for something small, and it's not always monetary. The ones who are in it for the free thrill almost never comply so it acts as a pretty effective litmus test to screen out the less than sincere. ~stef on the other side of that coin, i think that would immediately eliminate any truly sincere submissive. i know that back when, before i was owned, i had "dommes" tell me that one tribute was necessary to "prove sincerity". SEEYA. one who is truly sincere and pure of intentions would more than likely click right on past such a request. M's m

stef -> RE: what is a tribute (11/29/2006 9:42:39 PM)
That's entirely possible, but it seems to have worked well for the three women I know that went that route. Two have since married the ones they found in this manner and one the other is in a long term relationship. I think a lot of it has to do with how you put the terms out there. If you were to say "I'm not even going to talk to you unless you pay a tribute," that would certainly make people turn away. ~stef

LadyTY2Uall -> RE: what is a tribute (11/29/2006 9:55:33 PM)
" if I want a scarf that you can give me, and you want a spanking that I can give you, and we agree to trade a scarf for a spanking, we both win. " Awesome analogy, ummmm there's this really awesome watch I want,,,,anyone want a spanking????? ;)

cyberdude611 -> RE: what is a tribute (11/30/2006 9:43:04 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: stef That's entirely possible, but it seems to have worked well for the three women I know that went that route. Two have since married the ones they found in this manner and one the other is in a long term relationship. I think a lot of it has to do with how you put the terms out there. If you were to say "I'm not even going to talk to you unless you pay a tribute," that would certainly make people turn away. ~stef That's very true. I think it works fine after the initial contact. But to say tribute is required up front to get any kind of response, I think 95% of subs are going to pass. And the big reason why most subs will pass is because of scams. There is no gurantee that the person on the other end is who they say they are. The golden rule on the interent is to NEVER give money or personal information to anybody if you don't know who it is. PERIOD! Now if you get to know that person and you are sure they are geninue, then go have fun. But to just throw money away to someone who you don't even know is real...that's just stupidity with all the identity theft and scams that go on in the realm of cyberspace. With professional dommes it is a bit different situation. You are basically paying them for a service. And they make it clear up front how much is required for what activity. It is more of a business transaction. You also know if they are real or not before you pay.

lovetokissnylons -> RE: what is a tribute (11/30/2006 1:04:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mp072004 . So, if I want a scarf that you can give me, and you want a spanking that I can give you, and we agree to trade a scarf for a spanking, we both win. Monica Ms. Monica, your logic and answer were both great. Though I don't live near Boston, I'd be proud to give you a scarf in return for a spanking, if we can figure out a way to accomplish this, please.

QuietDom -> RE: what is a tribute (11/30/2006 1:29:21 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KatyLied It means: pay to play A pro-Domme friend demands tributes from her customers, and considers it entirely separate from her fee. Her fees are purely a business transaction, while the customer giving her the 'tribute' at the beginning of a scene is a part of his submission. Her typical (and suggested) tribute is flowers, but clients have brought her all sorts of odd stuff. I think I understand her thinking in this. Within his scene, the customer doesn't want to think of himself as a paying customer receiving a service, but as a feeble submissive under the heels of a demanding dominatrix. So the real fee can't enter the psychological space of the scene. Demanding that the client give her something (even if of token value) within the confines of her scene, though, helps to set up her character as demanding, fickle, and hard to please, as well as suggesting that the client isn't worthy of her attention in himself, but must earn it through gifts and flattery and grovelling and such. [edited to add] On reflection, I suspect that the tribute serves another purpose as well. Since the client has to choose/purchase/make the tribute item beforehand, it probably serves to push him into the proper headspace before he even arrives at the dungeon.

Jasmyn -> RE: what is a tribute (12/1/2006 4:35:03 AM)
QuietDom nicely said ...

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