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Being Cruel - 11/29/2006 4:25:27 PM

BigBeautifulDomm

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Hi All,

I am looking for some new ideas, can you help? Looking for ways to be cruel to my slave. He cant take too much pain so looking for more mental cruelty ideas, I enjoy this aspect more too.

Any ideas gratefully accepted.

BBD

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RE: Being Cruel - 11/29/2006 4:31:30 PM

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Hmmm. Joined February 05. I, as Troll Detector In Chief, deem this (likely) genuine.

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RE: Being Cruel - 11/29/2006 5:32:08 PM

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remember what I said about bumming a smoke once before... kind of applies here as well

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RE: Being Cruel - 11/29/2006 5:40:02 PM

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errrrrr..............No?

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RE: Being Cruel - 11/29/2006 11:53:06 PM

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Without knowing you or your relationships quirks, I'd suggest ignoring your slave completely (ie, not acknowledging he exists at all), verbal humiliation (woody size, affecting femdom attitudes, etc.), forcefully feminizing him, have him clean the bathroom with his tongue (assuming you're monogomous)... etc.

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RE: Being Cruel - 11/29/2006 11:58:15 PM

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Hmmm dress him up as George Bush and set him out on the street corner with a sign around his neck "Putting your tax dollars to work!" after all the tossed tomatos and dodging of bullets he should be putty in your hands.

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RE: Being Cruel - 11/30/2006 12:02:35 AM

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Mental cruelty is difficult, you have to learn to push buttons and they can often turn you off as soon as they grow a thick enough skin.
When I have gone this route, Ive often compared the sub in question to toehrs I have ben with. Better lovers, better subs, more attractive, more interesting.... make them question why it is you are even with them when they cannot measure up to just about any of your former interests. Ive always found this to be a good way to put someone off their balance and keep them mentally cowed

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RE: Being Cruel - 11/30/2006 4:53:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion

remember what I said about bumming a smoke once before... kind of applies here as well

Totally. I didn't go buy my own because I'm too (cheap/lazy/uncreative/clueless/cheap.) Shit, just ran out. Would you lend me a smoke? LOL

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RE: Being Cruel - 11/30/2006 12:20:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: BigBeautifulDomm

Hi All,

I am looking for some new ideas, can you help? Looking for ways to be cruel to my slave. He cant take too much pain so looking for more mental cruelty ideas, I enjoy this aspect more too.

Any ideas gratefully accepted.

BBD

Hmmm, nothing physically cruel, eh?

Depending on how cruel you want to go:

How about making him eat larvlets (worms) in cheedar cheese flavor. Mix the worms with his own sperm for a delicious broccoli dip (hopefully he abhors broccoli, if not, pick a veg he really detests lol). You'll have to order it off the internet and wait a little over a week for it to arrive.

If you want something asap and a lot less cruel buy cow balls and tounge and have him eat it off the floor after you stommped on it with your boots or maybe feed it to him after he first is forced to fuck the cow balls and tounge from your hand. May need to mush it a little. lol To add humiliation, have him do it on cam so all your friends can laugh at him too. :)

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RE: Being Cruel - 11/30/2006 12:26:10 PM

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clamp some vicegrips on his nuts and ask him to write an essay on the passing fancy of cruelty, and how it often is something that we desire not, but that we recieve unjustly anyway.

So what he can't take pain?

The quality of cruelty is not strained;
it droppeth as the gentle rain from heaven;
upon the place beneath;
'tis twice blessed...............

a paraphrase from the Merchant of Venice.

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RE: Being Cruel - 11/30/2006 2:41:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BigBeautifulDomm

Hi All,

I am looking for some new ideas, can you help? Looking for ways to be cruel to my slave. He cant take too much pain so looking for more mental cruelty ideas, I enjoy this aspect more too.

Any ideas gratefully accepted.

BBD

Greetings BBD,

The problem with this question is, actually, your longevity in BDSM. You've got 15 years of experience under your belt, so it would be quite difficult to come up with 'new' ideas for you since no one here is going to know what you already know. If this is a new slave to you, just rely on the tried and true which has been working for you all these years and if it's someone with whom you've established and been maintaining a long term relationship, well, I do believe most here will be of even less help for the reasons I stated above. None of us are inside your brain to know what information is already there.

I do wish you good luck on expanding your creativity with your slave though. In the end, you are only limited by your own imagination. Perhaps in seeking the motive you have for wanting to inflict mental cruelty on him, you can come up with some ways to do that very thing .. after all, who knows him better than you?

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RE: Being Cruel - 12/1/2006 11:57:55 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

When I have gone this route, I've often compared the sub in question to others I have been with. Better lovers, better subs, more attractive, more interesting.... make them question why it is you are even with them when they cannot measure up to just about any of your former interests. I've always found this to be a good way to put someone off their balance and keep them mentally cowed.
DV

I can imagine that's quite effective. The truth may hurt, but an honest, blunt and objective assessment of his shortcomings may challenge him to improve where he can, and accept where he cannot. It may be cruel in a way but it should also be refreshing to him to know that you aren't pandering to his ego.

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RE: Being Cruel - 12/1/2006 12:46:58 PM

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ORIGINAL: MstrssPassion

remember what I said about bumming a smoke once before... kind of applies here as well

Totally. I didn't go buy my own because I'm too (cheap/lazy/uncreative/clueless/cheap.) Shit, just ran out. Would you lend me a smoke? LOL

yeah... & then you usually get the "got a light?" line & with that I say should I kick you in the ass to get your lungs started too...

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RE: Being Cruel - 12/1/2006 12:56:02 PM

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The problem with this question is, actually, your longevity in BDSM. You've got 15 years of experience under your belt, so it would be quite difficult to come up with 'new' ideas for you since no one here is going to know what you already know.

Errrr, ummm.... I've got a tad over 20 yrs.

Maybe that extra 5yrs learned me enough to know that every toy is different & the way I play with my toys may not be the way you should play with your toy.

Ya know how it is with all these toys these days... some require two AA batteries & some you just got to plug in to make them work right... let's not even get into upgrades or optional features "not included".

ok... I'm just rambling now... backing away slowly

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RE: Being Cruel - 12/1/2006 2:13:16 PM

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Force feed him thick peanut butter sandwiches with no milk and make him recite Mary Had a Little Lamb over the intercom at the local grocery store.

Cruel and humiliating- two for one!

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RE: Being Cruel - 12/1/2006 2:16:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lashra

Hmmm dress him up as George Bush and set him out on the street corner with a sign around his neck "Putting your tax dollars to work!" after all the tossed tomatos and dodging of bullets he should be putty in your hands.

~Lashra

Lashra,

Can we have him service the glory hole afterward??

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RE: Being Cruel - 12/1/2006 2:53:45 PM

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Hmmm dress him up as George Bush and set him out on the street corner with a sign around his neck "Putting your tax dollars to work!" after all the tossed tomatos and dodging of bullets he should be putty in your hands.

~Lashra

Lashra,

Can we have him service the glory hole afterward??

(Bill, Ted and Al want to know)

LOL!!! Sure why not? and we can take pics to send to Colbert.

~Lashra

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RE: Being Cruel - 12/1/2006 2:59:07 PM

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Wow! Domme's ARE much crueler then Doms...

Which of course i blurted out loud as i was reading about the cow balls.....

My Dom looks over at me and says "you're just figuring that out?"

He doesnt know why that is..... does anyone else?

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RE: Being Cruel - 12/1/2006 3:14:45 PM

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Dear RiotGirl, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I can only ponder on the question, as to why female dominants are much more cruel than male dominants.

I do joke about being a frustrated executioner/torturer from the Inquisition period reincarnated.

I do not have facts, research and data to support what I say but, wonder out loud if you will; if it comes to women's pain tolerances as being something to which translates easily to wanting to export the pain to other willing 'victims.' Just as women are known to be those to nurture others--it can easily be the other side of the coin, to where women can easily starve the victim as well. Perhaps women are more tactful in the Sadism aspects, in torture and delivering pain; where women aren't always known (in a very general and very broad view) as being muscles and strength so, other means are necessary.

Now...back to cow balls--mmmmmmmmwhahahaha... they just are larger models for what can be done to men with..err nebbermind; I'm starting to feel the Christmas spirit--Nutcracker... tie'm nuts up with holly or pine, bows and bells...roasting 'chest 'n nuts' over an open fire...[Fans self hard getting excited..sorta..]

Respectfully submitted with a bit of Christmas humor,
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RE: Being Cruel - 12/2/2006 3:24:03 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

clamp some vicegrips on his nuts and ask him to write an essay on the passing fancy of cruelty, and how it often is something that we desire not, but that we recieve unjustly anyway.

So what he can't take pain?

The quality of cruelty is not strained;
it droppeth as the gentle rain from heaven;
upon the place beneath;
'tis twice blessed...............

a paraphrase from the Merchant of Venice.

Ron
fixed a line I left out.