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The first time - 11/30/2006 3:47:20 AM   
tinacd


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Status: offline 		I a slave and I'm going to meet a Master to if we will be good together on Saturday. I have never had a master or Mistress before is there any thing I should do or wear? Should I wear a bra , panties and  stocking because I crosdress at home and he knows thats or just wear normal stuff?.......tina
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RE: The first time - 11/30/2006 4:16:23 AM   
semasssub


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Status: offline 		If he knows and wants a crossdresser, by all means dress up for him! It will show you are serious about your fetish and wish to serve

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RE: The first time - 11/30/2006 5:37:59 AM   
sleazy


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Status: offline 		Personally speaking I would expect anybody I was meeting to dress in a way that they felt comfortable and relaxed. No need to dress up to impress or please me, if I wasnt already interested in the person there wouldnt be any meeting. I would prefer them to feel comfortable so that we could both talk in a relaxed manner. As an aside to this, I never ever play first date, usually not even 2nd or 3rd, so dressing to impress and please me is in many respects pointless

Occasionally someone I am meeting would ask me how to dress and that is the answer they would get.

It could depend on what you are both expecting from the relationship/meeting in which case it may be appropriate to ask him how he would expect/like you to dress

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RE: The first time - 11/30/2006 5:48:24 AM   
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Status: offline 		I'm sure a lot would depend on where you are meeting and what you are planning to do.  But you could always just ask him if he'd like to see you wearing anything in particular.  That way, you'll know for certain. 

Oh and good luck to you!

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RE: The first time - 11/30/2006 5:51:30 AM   
hardboy


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Status: offline 		Thank yopu,love u in pic angel.

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RE: The first time - 11/30/2006 5:57:19 AM   
RUpainsmith


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Status: offline 		I'd have to agree with the prior poster, dress to impress however you feel that may be, and if you are uncertain, ask.  Cheers

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RE: The first time - 11/30/2006 5:58:19 AM   
BRNaughtyAngel


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ORIGINAL: hardboy

Thank yopu,love u in pic angel.


Thank you.

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RE: The first time - 11/30/2006 6:15:38 AM   
emdoub


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Status: offline 		That would depend on so many things -

Is this a "let's chat over coffee and see if there's any chemistry" meeting, or a "we've done enough in chat and email, and it's going grand - so let's get together on Saturday and make a night of it" date?

Is this "he's local, and we're just doing the first meet", or is this "he lives 5 hours away, and this time we're investing enough into the relationship to get together"?

I like to meet over coffee, and I like to do it very early in negotiations - and someone will generally make a much better impression on me if they dress casual.  On the other hand, if I'm meeting someone for the first time after much chat/email, and we already know there's chemistry, and that first meet is at a leather bar - then dressing to the nines will impress me.

Just to make things more complex, this would be the rule if you were meeting me - his tastes may be entirely different.

For the right answer, you may have to do the really hard, scary thing - and ask him what he'd like.

Good luck to both of you - I hope you both grin all day Sunday.

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RE: The first time - 11/30/2006 7:32:40 AM   
MasterFireMaam


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Status: offline 		I highly recommend that this be a simple "meet for coffee" type thing...not play. Going that route, I'd dress "business casual"...something more than jeans, less than a business suit...just so long as you're comfortable. If you normally wear the stocking and what-not during the day, then do so...otherwise, leave them at home. You don't need to be futzing with them 'cause you'll already be nervous enough.

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RE: The first time - 11/30/2006 4:57:55 PM   
AGORANTE


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Status: offline 		Not that I know anything about male subs but:
  • Never meet for coffee. Wine yes. Coffee never.
  • I expect women I meet to not wear underwear. That only seems considerate.
  • There's much to be said for meeting your Master at his house. Its safer and you can get down to business quicker.


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RE: The first time - 11/30/2006 7:38:07 PM   
RedSavageSlave


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ORIGINAL: AGORANTE

Not that I know anything about male subs but:
  • Never meet for coffee. Wine yes. Coffee never.
  • I expect women I meet to not wear underwear. That only seems considerate.
  • There's much to be said for meeting your Master at his house. Its safer and you can get down to business quicker.





This WAS meant to be funny.... RIGHT?



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RE: The first time - 11/30/2006 7:46:43 PM   
kc692


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Status: offline 		Scary enough, I'm guessing he wasn't.  To the OP, I hope you have saftey measures in place, and you have a wonderful meet.

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RE: The first time - 11/30/2006 8:40:34 PM   
maybemaybenot


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quote:

ORIGINAL: AGORANTE

Not that I know anything about male subs but:
  • Never meet for coffee. Wine yes. Coffee never.

Hell, I just show up drunk. Doms seem to appreceiate that a little more. Saves them a few bucks on the wine.

  • I expect women I meet to not wear underwear. That only seems considerate.

Agreed, I never wear undies on the first meet. Nor do I wash my couchie for a few days before. Doms find it really considerate if you give them a good strong wiff of your scent.
  • There's much to be said for meeting your Master at his house. Its safer and you can get down to business quicker.

There is much to be said about it, but I am usually to inibriated to speak.  And it IS safer, very bad idea to drink and drive. I just have the Dom lock me in a cage until I have slept it off.





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RE: The first time - 12/1/2006 2:18:51 AM   
Focus50


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quote:

ORIGINAL: AGORANTE

Not that I know anything about male subs but:
  • Never meet for coffee. Wine yes. Coffee never.
  • I expect women I meet to not wear underwear. That only seems considerate.
  • There's much to be said for meeting your Master at his house. Its safer and you can get down to business quicker.

Just supposing the OP were your own inexperienced daughter finding her way in the lifestyle - you'd still give the same advice?  <sheesh>
 
Focus.

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RE: The first time - 12/1/2006 2:30:38 AM   
Focus50


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quote:

ORIGINAL: tinacd

I a slave and I'm going to meet a Master to if we will be good together on Saturday. I have never had a master or Mistress before is there any thing I should do or wear? Should I wear a bra , panties and  stocking because I crosdress at home and he knows thats or just wear normal stuff?.......tina

You're a mature adult not obligated to anyone you meet for the first time.  And you should be wary of anyone who sees things differently! 
 
My general advice to subs who have asked me in the past has been simply to treat it as a first date with some vanilla - to wear what *you* feel comfortable and confident in.  And don't do or agree to *anything* your own conscience, intelligence or commonsense advises against.  Meet as friends; it's uncomplicated and will tell you much about the other - esp if they wanna be more demanding than friendly....
 
Focus.

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RE: The first time - 12/1/2006 2:01:08 PM   
tinacd


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Status: offline 		Thank you all for your addive. I'm meetting with him on Saturday morning for breckfast I will keep you posted................tina

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RE: The first time - 12/4/2006 2:17:45 PM   
tinacd


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Status: offline 		Hi
Here is the update it went great. I took a chance and met him at his place and the first thing he did is blindfolded me right when I walked in. He then striped me down to my underwear and put a collar on. Then lead me over to a spot on the floor and made me lay down. He chain my wrists to my waist and then chained my ankles together . He talked to me the whole time to see if I was alrightand I said I was fine. He then picked my nipples a couple of times and then put a rope around my cock and balls. He then put I think it was closepins on my balls and he ficked them with his finger and men that hurt. Then he round me over and tried to fuck me but I was not loose. He undid the chains and took me to the bed room and he made love to me and I was loose for him. He said He might make me a dress something like a hobble dress I like.

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RE: The first time - 12/4/2006 2:26:48 PM   
LotusSong


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quote:

ORIGINAL: tinacd

I a slave and I'm going to meet a Master to if we will be good together on Saturday. I have never had a master or Mistress before is there any thing I should do or wear? Should I wear a bra , panties and  stocking because I crosdress at home and he knows thats or just wear normal stuff?.......tina


Ask the Dominant how they want you to dress.

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RE: The first time - 12/4/2006 3:06:18 PM   
MstrssPassion


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quote:

Thank you all for your addive. I'm meetting with him on Saturday morning for breckfast I will keep you posted................tina
quote:

Hi
Here is the update it went great. I took a chance and met him at his place and the first thing he did is blindfolded me right when I walked in. He then striped me down to my underwear and put a collar on...<snip>


so did you actually work breakfast in at some point or were you sent home hungry & loosened up?

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RE: The first time - 12/4/2006 4:36:20 PM   
theRose4U


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quote:

I like to meet over coffee, and I like to do it very early in negotiations - and someone will generally make a much better impression on me if they dress casual. 

Be careful with casual, people's definitions vary. I said casual and arrived in jeans a cute top and jacket. He arrived straight from the gym in sweat pants, a stained t-shirt and I smelled him coming in the door (not in a good way). When a potential dominant sees what they believe to be you out the window you want them to be pleased and interested not thinking to themselves oh dear god please don't let that be him.

quote:

I took a chance and met him at his place and the first thing he did is blindfolded me right when I walked in. He then striped me down to my underwear and put a collar on. Then lead me over to a spot on the floor and made me lay down. He chain my wrists to my waist and then chained my ankles together .

OK you do realize this goes against everything sane? You're damned lucky you walked out of there in one piece, many with this exact same scenario haven't. What would you have done if he walked up behind you blindfolded & hog tied you then took something perminant to your neck?



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