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FelinePersuasion -> Exprinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 12:09:00 PM)
ok while at paddles in october I got my butt beat really well, it was all done by hand and over a peruid of 2 plus hours, I turned bright red radiated tons of heat and sitting was difficult I had some slight bruising, I loved it, but Daddy saw the pics yesterday and he was angry, he felt the guy spanking me was irresponcible, said it looked like he had drawn blood, because my globes were mottled red, and honestly does look a lil like blood if you didn't know, and had broke my skin in places. Daddy says there was no cause to scratch me like the guy did, I can conceed that there is one area that there is a small scratch but I don't see other obvious scratches, and I am showing some little spots of bruising, but overall I loved it and had hoped to do it again, I am begining to develope heavy masochistic tendancies. Daddy says he thinks the spanking was extream, was abusive, and the guy total mishandled me, and he never wants my ass to look like that again. He says he'd like an experinced spankers opnion, see what they say, So here's the pic, and I'd like it if others could give feed back opnions, any comments that are not rude, and are pertinant? http://www.imagestation.com/5607172/3956239526 If that didn't w*ork http://www.imagestation.com/picture/sraid220/pfe17e33d06d7f549bdebfc4e01ab610d/ebcf6ca6.jpg

thetammyjo -> RE: Exprinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 12:17:12 PM)
First, let me say that using a hand is unlikely to cause nearly as much potential or real damage as using any other tool. Second, unless your daddy has the negotiated right to say how hard you play when you are with someone else, I don't think he can call it abuse or off-limits. You consented, if you had said your safeword would this spanker have stopped? Third, I looked at the picture and while I know it was very intense for you, FelinePersuasion, that is almost nothing compared to what I can routinely do to Fox who is not a masochist. Of course your skin and your flesh is your own and will mark and heal at your body's rate not at any other person's. One can certainly make large bruises on the buttocks without ever breaking the skin especially if one knows what to do. Do you think this is an area touching on more your playing with others than the actually results of the spanking itself? Even when we think we'll be cool with our partners playing with others it is likely to bring up stuff; safety is one of these things but it is often colored by insecurity. You just have to keep talking through things.

FelinePersuasion -> RE: Exprinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 12:23:50 PM)
My spanking would have stoped if I called an end to it yes. I think daddy was alarmed at how intense it looked. He distrusts other un knowns to take good care of me, but trusts my judgment to play safely, and the picture might just startled him maybe, he did say well a s long as you enjoyed it I guess it's ok. I find myself craveing markings and pushing endurance* safely mind you* and it's a bit disapointing he didn't like the looks of my butt after it. I was rather proud of the evening and how roasted my ass felt. and I was proud of the marks, and I was sorry it was not Daddy who produced them, as it's an incredibly wonderful rush, and quite right, very intense.

amaidiamond -> RE: Exprinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 12:29:39 PM)
I think a lot of it is down to the dynamic between you and your Daddy however I would say that from the photo I would not state that as abusive in the slightest, I understand it pushed your physical limits but as tammyjo said, for me a spanking that left marks like that would be a warm up and I have never ever been damaged from having my ass beat. So id say, no - not abusive, some folks mark up easy, some hardly colour at all and I'm sure you would have called a halt if you were not enjoying it. And yes I'd agree with you, I do rather enjoy the look of my ass after a good beating, I enjoy the bruises and they are almost like a badge of pride for me, and as I only see my Dom at weekends I love having something that stays around a few days after he has left...

mnottertail -> RE: Exprinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 12:31:38 PM)
there is a Dom thing about that, I know what the fuck I am doing when I beat the shit outta you, but that fucker over there is abusive and uncaring........ I have that all the time, myself...........he's young, he'll get over it. Ron

mistoferin -> RE: Exprinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 12:31:39 PM)
Feline, I think that you will get quite a bit of commentary to show him that will alleviate his concerns. I believe those pictures were definitely on the very mild side.

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Exprinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 12:33:34 PM)
I think this is mainly two thing, but this is certainly my own opinion. 1) Somewhere, there's been a lack of communication between you and your Daddy about what is and isn't acceptable. There's nothing wrong in this; it happens all the time. What you need to do is sit and talk about exactly what picture each of you have in your head about what is and isn't acceptable results. 2) Jealousy. Now that you've actually played with someone else, your Daddy might be jealous when he sees the marks. I get jealous if I see marks that will last for more than a few days, too, even though I've agreed with outside play. My only limit, other than my slaves personal play limits, is no permanent marks. The way to handle this one is the same way to handle #1. Master Fire

FelinePersuasion -> RE: Exprinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 12:36:11 PM)
Ron yeah, doms are protective of their girls. I wanted him to mark me this last week but we ran out of time before he had to go, so maybe in 2 weeks I'll bear marks from him. Does any one else see where it appears to be scratched? I know I see one small one but, I don't see any of the others he see's

SirDiscipliner69 -> RE: Experinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 12:37:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion . He says he'd like an experinced spankers opnion, see what they say, I found the pic to show normal wear of being hand spanked. If you did not use a safeword then your top would not have any inclination as to your disastifaction. I am personally use to women who have a higher threshold so it does not concern Me. It is good that your dom cares the way he does but remember: What is one person's ceiling is another erson's floor. Always rememember consent and honor limits. Communicate. Ross Bon D' Age' : BDSM http://tinyurl.com/ygblqt Designermite : http://tinyurl.com/ueov5 Soul of Motorcycle Art http://tinyurl.com/ybg73a

Fitznicely -> RE: Exprinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 12:43:57 PM)
Yep, they're not too bad. Given my girl worse. I can see where someone might say there's a scratch, but for the rest, it's obvious it's just broken capillaries, which will heal up soon enough. Looks like there'll be some decent bruising eventually, too. Would never call that extreme though. To put your Daddy's worries to rest, I suggest He does a bit of ass-bruising Himself so He can experience it firsthand.

Najakcharmer -> RE: Exprinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 12:44:47 PM)
Mild. Definitely mild. I routinely do much more than that to.....um, just about everyone I play with. Even the non-masochists. And it's not necessarily even pushing their limits. Some people mark like that if you look at them cross-eyed. With others, it takes a lot more to mark them. I don't see anything unsafe or damaging here, but everyone's individual body is different. If you have a serious medical condition that affects your ability to heal from minor petechiations such as those shown in the picture, then it would not be safe for you to engage in any form of play that leaves marks or bruises. But if you don't have such a condition, then what is shown in the photo is not of medical concern to a healthy person. Athletes and martial artists routinely get worse than that on muscle groups that are much smaller than the gluteals. I come back from every LARP weekend with much more bruising than that. And my doctor just laughs at me when she happens to see it. Fortunately it's not on my ass. [;)]

FelinePersuasion -> RE: Exprinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 12:50:55 PM)
Fitz,, I thought they were broken capalaries and not scratches, Najak I don't have any conditions that would make bruising out, lucky me cause I want marks marks and more marks, I enjoy signs of my submission and my limits and abilities streaching and growing.

marieToo -> RE: Exprinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 12:54:51 PM)
To answer your question: Relatively speaking...that beating/spanking left pretty mild marks. But...it seems to me....(and Im really nobody)...but it seems to me that measuring against what other people consider to be mild or extreme is completely irrelevant to your issue. The issue is that your dom feels its too extreme.... and...well....you don't. In assuming this is a new relationship... I would suggest just letting him start off at what he thinks is appropriate. Then maybe in time, as he gets more comfortable with himself and your reactions etc, he will feel more confident and/or more desirous of turning up the heat. Just like a new submissive kinda gets a taste then ends up wanting more and more than she ever imagined. I think once this fella gets started on that ass, you will soon be begging him for mercy. :)

SirDiscipliner69 -> RE: Exprinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 12:55:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FelinePersuasion lucky me cause I want marks marks and more marks, I enjoy signs of my submission and my limits and abilities streaching and growing. The more you do the more you become use to it. Drink lots of water, vitamin E and proper breathing while being spanked. Enjoy. Ross Bon D' Age' : BDSM http://tinyurl.com/ygblqt Designermite : http://tinyurl.com/ueov5 Soul of Motorcycle Art http://tinyurl.com/ybg73a

BitaTruble -> RE: Exprinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 1:27:02 PM)
The smacks look well placed and in a great strike zone, you had a good time (loved it in fact) so it sounds like an issue with your Daddy and not the dominant who was kind enough to bring you so much fun and attention. Celeste

SweetSarijane -> RE: Exprinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 1:58:47 PM)
Those are actually pretty mild. I have pics of myself after a beating and let's just say I'm very colorful lol. It looks and sounds like you had fun. If you'd like to see more extreme to compare email me on the other side. I think really you just have to talk straight up about what does it for you with your Daddy and help him understand how it is for you. <smile>.

LotusSong -> RE: Exprinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 2:02:05 PM)
botton line....don't play at clubs with strangers.

Zensee -> RE: Exprinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 2:05:04 PM)
Nice warm up. When does the spanking start?

LotusSong -> RE: Exprinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 2:06:07 PM)
Feline... were there any unusual smells, flaking skin or unidentifiable fluids? :) (I'm teasing because this thread doesn't have your usual sensory query in it :) I couldn't resist. (well I could have, but what fun would that have been?)

slavejali -> RE: Exprinced spankers comments needed (12/1/2006 2:17:31 PM)
I'm with everyone else, its very mild and the problem is with your daddy. If he doesn't want that for you, he needs to set boundaries before you play with others, so really when it comes down to it if he is going to point a finger of irresponsibility towards someone, it should be towards himself.

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