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Dinner - 12/1/2006 1:27:31 PM   
lilsinnergirl


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Status: offline 		i am going on vacation, some place i have never been and i do not know anyone that lives there...there are things in the area i want to do that i have never done. i will be there for 7 days...i do not want to eat alone. is it so wrong for a girl to ask local Masters to dinner.  Why do 90% of them just want in my pants?  is JUST dinner to much to ask...i am just wondering how wrong my thinking is.
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RE: Dinner - 12/1/2006 1:30:15 PM   
SirDiscipliner69


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ORIGINAL: lilsinnergirlis JUST dinner to much to ask


If the time allows you may wish to strike up a repore via online / phone. No it is not unrealistic but why a dom unless you wish for something that might possibly develop if the chemistry is there?

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RE: Dinner - 12/1/2006 1:42:19 PM   
lilsinnergirl


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Status: offline 		good question...why a Dom...
well besides not thinking it out too well first,
i do not really get along with women. i have no female friends so i only thought of the male side of the coin....now i guess i should do some rethinking?

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RE: Dinner - 12/1/2006 1:45:53 PM   
Najakcharmer


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Status: offline 		Sure, I'd have a friendly dinner with a visitor, and definitely not want to get into your pants.  Might be worth considering folks who don't happen to be male doms if you're just looking for socializing and chat about the lifestyle over dinner.  

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RE: Dinner - 12/1/2006 1:47:08 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Yeah, frankly if a sub was coming into town and just wanted me to have dinner with him just for anight, I'd think he had alterior motives also.

Try and see if a munch is going on that night, or go to meetup.com and see if other groups that share an interest will be meeting.

Frankly, dinner with a perfect stranger JUST for a night would be asking a bit much for me, I'd find it very weird and suspicious and not a valuable use of my time.

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RE: Dinner - 12/1/2006 1:49:02 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		I'd be ok with it if she was buying.

Ron 

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RE: Dinner - 12/1/2006 1:54:50 PM   
lilsinnergirl


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Status: offline 		if i offer dinner, then yes i am buying...

but i will give up, i had never intended my behavior to be weird or suspicious...that is the last thing i would want anyone to think of me...

that is why i asked, thank You for the answers...

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RE: Dinner - 12/1/2006 1:56:14 PM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		WTF?  Hold on there.........where we going?  7ish sound ok?



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RE: Dinner - 12/1/2006 2:04:59 PM   
MasterKalif


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Status: offline 		LOL  mnottertail....
lilsinnergirl, it is not wrong to ask a stranger for dinner, it can be a random fun time....hey if you are coming to my area, look me up

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RE: Dinner - 12/1/2006 4:47:42 PM   
BRNaughtyAngel


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

WTF?  Hold on there.........where we going?  7ish sound ok?



Awwwwwwwww poor Ron.  No dinner.  No pecan pie.

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RE: Dinner - 12/1/2006 4:49:08 PM   
RedSavageSlave


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Status: offline 		If you read her journal it shows where she posted about deciding not to ask Doms for dinner and then states..she thinks she will never find someone..

Maybe its NOT really just dinner she is looking for after all?

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RE: Dinner - 12/1/2006 5:30:34 PM   
xBullx


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Status: offline 		Tal Good people of Ask a Master,

I seen that Red and thought the same thing and then noticed the poor girls in Montana, hell the civil population is against her to begin with. Way more females than males there. Though I would bet that branding of pretty sluts is still a polished skill there. It still falls within the brand inspection area. Wait that's for livestock. Wait again, slaves are livestock.(ok, so Ron's funnier than me, I'm doin' my best here) As far as getting into her pants over dinner, she better wear some big britches I eat alot and we will rip the seams if we both try and squeeze into the same pair.

Do something well, anything, just get busy doing it,

Bull

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RE: Dinner - 12/1/2006 8:45:23 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: RedSavageSlave

If you read her journal it shows where she posted about deciding not to ask Doms for dinner and then states..she thinks she will never find someone..

Maybe its NOT really just dinner she is looking for after all?

As I said, I wouldn't think so if it was offered to me. 

But perhaps she's taking this form of rejection and making into a bigger deal of self-esteem.

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RE: Dinner - 12/2/2006 4:39:54 AM   
Celeste43


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Status: offline 		If all you're looking for is friends, then write other sub females and ask them to meet you for shopping and lunch.

Find a munch, have dinner with like minded people and maybe make an acquaintance who would care to go to the zoo with you come the weekend or join you for dinner. Be charming, be a little self deprecating. Ask where is the best "favorite type of restaurant" and then confess you hate dining alone, would they be interested in joining you at 7:00. Of course, if you invite them you should buy the meal.

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RE: Dinner - 12/2/2006 4:47:08 AM   
RedSavageSlave


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Status: offline 		If its just a matter of not enjoying female company..why  not ask the male subs..

They can be quite charming and accommodating when asked nicely and would probably LOVE the opportunity to "serve" as an escort whether you be dom or sub.

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RE: Dinner - 12/2/2006 6:19:19 AM   
SawahPuppy


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ORIGINAL: RedSavageSlave

If its just a matter of not enjoying female company..why  not ask the male subs..

They can be quite charming and accommodating when asked nicely and would probably LOVE the opportunity to "serve" as an escort whether you be dom or sub.



I agree completely. It may be like having a dinner with someone you can relate to :)

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RE: Dinner - 12/2/2006 7:58:49 AM   
mp072004


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Status: offline 		Lilsinnergirl, if you tend to have male friends, and you want to make male friends in BDSM, you should look to both dominant men and submissive men. It's fine for you to have not-sexy, not-romantic relationships with people who fit your gender and orientation compatibility criteria (dominant men, it appears) but if you can broaden your friend pool, I imagine it would be advantageous to do so.

Of course, if you do want casual play while on your visit, you could probably find that. Just say that that's what you're looking for.

Monica

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