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The Femdom Lifestyle Live Interview - 12/3/2006 9:10:59 AM

DiannaVesta

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First of all sorry that I haven't been on lately. I see there are lots of great discussions going on. I also see that some things never change! lol I've been brining the candle at both ends, so to speak, the start of winter and holidays is always a really busy time for me.

Ok we finally got to RE-DO the live interview where sub male Chris interviews me this morning. We tired doing it Friday night but the server went down. :( I am going to post the direct download link and hope you'll listen to the show because we talk a lot about the emotional aspects of female domination. There are some very important messages in this interview and questions many of you have asked me.

http://boss.streamos.com/download/blogtalkradio/show_6067.wma

You can download archives or set reminders for upcoming shows at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/goddess I have been hosting the show on Thursday evenings at 8PM EST. This is actually kind of late for me. I wanted your feed back... do you normally listen to a live show or go back and download the archive? If you listened to a live show would you do it in the AM-PM, weekend or during the week?

Ok another question. What types of shows would you like to hear? What types of people do you think I should interview? Do you like listening to experienced professionals or would you prefer more lifestyle people? I'd love to hear what you'd produce if you could write the show. Do you think the show should be serious discussion, lighthearted and fun, erotic and kinky? What would work for you? Thank you for your support! Dianna Vesta

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RE: The Femdom Lifestyle Live Interview - 12/3/2006 2:24:59 PM

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Hey Dianna

I loved the show n I think Chris came up with some very good questions and I think that slave program is gonna proove out to be great. It's gotta be an amazing journey you've been on since I mean like you're one of the first in the lifestyle n actually trying to put femdomination on the map. I gotta agree with Chris I've never heard yahoo used in that way you used it :P I'm so looking forward to the next interviews. I also found it interesting that you say that yanno you don't enjoy this n that fetish like foot fetish unless the slaves/submissive really are into it too, you don't seem to be into then you know like forcing them to like it like I thought many dominas liked..doing. I'm kinda curious what the first "slave" you have actually did to piss you off so badly. You say that like all of the men kind of get the hang of you know..submission but I mean like some ppl here have been talkin about brats n stuff like that sooooo what's your take on brats? Do you count them as not submissive or wannabe somethingsomething

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RE: The Femdom Lifestyle Live Interview - 12/3/2006 2:36:36 PM

DiannaVesta

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ORIGINAL: MissyRane

Hey Dianna
I loved the show n I think Chris came up with some very good questions and I think that slave program is gonna proove out to be great. It's gotta be an amazing journey you've been on since I mean like you're one of the first in the lifestyle n actually trying to put femdomination on the map. I gotta agree with Chris I've never heard yahoo used in that way you used it :P I'm so looking forward to the next interviews. I also found it interesting that you say that yanno you don't enjoy this n that fetish like foot fetish unless the slaves/submissive really are into it too, you don't seem to be into then you know like forcing them to like it like I thought many dominas liked..doing.

Yes I’m from the south and we used the term yahoo a lot.

I want to clarify something… I am into a lot of things but it’s not the particular fetish per se but the effects it brings. Obviously if someone really craves something they are more inclined to work hard to fulfill that need. When I am the holder of that power its all good.

As exciting as the FANTASY of making someone does something against their will is, it’s just not realistic or at least not in the context you or others might think. I don’t really force anyone to do anything. I have options and those options come with consequences. Its only a turn on for me when they accept it ready and willing to move forward even if they *play* at being forced.

Its all about understanding limits and in the very real world we all know that no one can really force you to do anything unless its at gun point and that is a whole other scene I’m not into.

Thanks for tuning in. I think chris did a great job.

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RE: The Femdom Lifestyle Live Interview - 12/3/2006 2:40:51 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

First of all sorry that I haven't been on lately. I see there are lots of great discussions going on. I also see that some things never change! lol I've been brining the candle at both ends, so to speak, the start of winter and holidays is always a really busy time for me.

Ok we finally got to RE-DO the live interview where sub male Chris interviews me this morning. We tired doing it Friday night but the server went down. :( I am going to post the direct download link and hope you'll listen to the show because we talk a lot about the emotional aspects of female domination. There are some very important messages in this interview and questions many of you have asked me.

http://boss.streamos.com/download/blogtalkradio/show_6067.wma

You can download archives or set reminders for upcoming shows at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/goddess I have been hosting the show on Thursday evenings at 8PM EST. This is actually kind of late for me. I wanted your feed back... do you normally listen to a live show or go back and download the archive? If you listened to a live show would you do it in the AM-PM, weekend or during the week?

Ok another question. What types of shows would you like to hear? What types of people do you think I should interview? Do you like listening to experienced professionals or would you prefer more lifestyle people? I'd love to hear what you'd produce if you could write the show. Do you think the show should be serious discussion, lighthearted and fun, erotic and kinky? What would work for you? Thank you for your support! Dianna Vesta

I have to tell you, when I first found out about this whole online thing (which, by the way, we all think has been going on forever...but it hasn't), I found, among others, your (web site). Of course, I was searching for not only information...but myself.

I actually can't tell you what I remember most about yours (then), only that it intrigued me. You have a very good name on the web. You've always carried yourself well. It's fun actually, being able, in a way, to converse with you. When I first saw your web site (I'm sure, along with 11 babillion other sub men) I thought "here's a chic that I could never speak to"...and here you are.

I occasionally read your comments. They're always captivating.

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RE: The Femdom Lifestyle Live Interview - 12/3/2006 2:48:26 PM

DiannaVesta

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ORIGINAL: LTRsubNW

I have to tell you, when I first found out about this whole online thing (which, by the way, we all think has been going on forever...but it hasn't), I found, among others, your (web site). Of course, I was searching for not only information...but myself.

I actually can't tell you what I remember most about yours (then), only that it intrigued me. You have a very good name on the web. You've always carried yourself well. It's fun actually, being able, in a way, to converse with you. When I first saw your web site (I'm sure, along with 11 babillion other sub men) I thought "here's a chic that I could never speak to"...and here you are.

I occasionally read your comments. They're always captivating.

Thank you. People are always amazed how approachable I am. I’ve always been that way and totally upfront. When people email me they are like “wow, I didn’t expect such an answer in person!” Then when I go to a party or event its like fingers pointing and people telling me what an honor, etc etc. After all these years I just don’t see what the big deal is. I mean I enjoy the attention and compliments but a lot of people forget that I do this because I enjoy it.

Did you listen to the show? I’d like to know what you think.
Thanks again. GDV

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RE: The Femdom Lifestyle Live Interview - 12/3/2006 3:21:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

As exciting as the FANTASY of making someone does something against their will is, it’s just not realistic or at least not in the context you or others might think. I don’t really force anyone to do anything. I have options and those options come with consequences. Its only a turn on for me when they accept it ready and willing to move forward even if they *play* at being forced.

Dianna --
I'm really glad you said that. If I hit the end of the thread and didn't see a reply to Missy's comment, I was going to say something to the same effect.

The reality is far more cruel and harsh than the fantasy, in the end, especially when they've bitten off so very much. I fondly remember a fellow who "double-dog-dared" me to make him eat horrible things and that I couldn't squick him out. He was retching before he was even locked in the cage with the gross mess (served up in an old fashioned bedpan.) He later told me that the fantasy is always better than the reality, but it's a good domina who can turn into reality the gist of the fantasy safely, sanely and effectively without putting him in actual harm's way.

Do you ever find that gentlemen are disappointed with finding out the reality of their fantasies, especially when their image of "the dominatrix" is so very different from the reality of being a dominant woman?

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RE: The Femdom Lifestyle Live Interview - 12/3/2006 3:37:22 PM

DiannaVesta

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MisPandora

Do you ever find that gentlemen are disappointed with finding out the reality of their fantasies, especially when their image of "the dominatrix" is so very different from the reality of being a dominant woman?

Oh yeah. Especially the more extreme scenes but I've had guys who dreamed of being on their knees just to find out in reality it's not as easy or as fun as it was in fantasy.

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RE: The Femdom Lifestyle Live Interview - 12/3/2006 3:46:59 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

quote:

ORIGINAL: MisPandora

Do you ever find that gentlemen are disappointed with finding out the reality of their fantasies, especially when their image of "the dominatrix" is so very different from the reality of being a dominant woman?

Oh yeah. Especially the more extreme scenes but I've had guys who dreamed of being on their knees just to find out in reality it's not as easy or as fun as it was in fantasy.

Yeah well...what is (for a guy)?

(The fun is, that you allow it).

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RE: The Femdom Lifestyle Live Interview - 12/3/2006 3:57:49 PM

MissyRane

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Thank you for the answers

I've never found that being forced to do something like that completely against my will something appealing so I think it's great that you ladies prove it to be wrong. Ok this question just popped into my head when speaking of fantasies..have you ladies, as a dominatrix, ever had someone literally run out of a session because it was so far away from their fantasy? ha I've been watching these shows..called "casino" ..I've only watched it twice, it's a little bit of a reality tv show.. I think, I'm too lazy to look it up right now, and there was this guy, Tommy, he's like 5'4 feet tall or something lol and he just got this promotion and there was this lady who had a bday and invited him to celebrate his promotion with her at da b-day party at her house. Well he arrives there n rings the doorbell n the lady comes in this outfit lol n he's like WTF and that lady tells him that she kinda lied a bit and that he was her bday gift and pulls him in and then they put him in diaper n shit like that n he was like WTF n gets out of it but then they drag him into this dungeon and well ye eventually he runs out as fast as he can n is like omyfuckingawd! it was hillarious :P but yeah..the question is have you had a client run out because the fantasy was so different from reality?

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RE: The Femdom Lifestyle Live Interview - 12/3/2006 4:02:56 PM

DiannaVesta

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ORIGINAL: MissyRane

Thank you for the answers I've never found that being forced to do something like that completely against my will something appealing so I think it's great that you ladies prove it to be wrong. Ok this question just popped into my head when speaking of fantasies..have you ladies, as a dominatrix, ever had someone literally run out of a session because it was so far away from their fantasy? ha I've been watching these shows..called "casino" ..I've only watched it twice, it's a little bit of a reality tv show.. I think, I'm too lazy to look it up right now, and there was this guy, Tommy, he's like 5'4 feet tall or something lol and he just got this promotion and there was this lady who had a bday and invited him to celebrate his promotion with her at da b-day party at her house. Well he arrives there n rings the doorbell n the lady comes in this outfit lol n he's like WTF and that lady tells him that she kinda lied a bit and that he was her bday gift and pulls him in and then they put him in diaper n shit like that n he was like WTF n gets out of it but then they drag him into this dungeon and well ye eventually he runs out as fast as he can n is like omyfuckingawd! it was hillarious :P but yeah..the question is have you had a client run out because the fantasy was so different from reality?

Maybe not literally run but they asked to leave.

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RE: The Femdom Lifestyle Live Interview - 12/3/2006 6:05:50 PM

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ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

Maybe not literally run but they asked to leave.

Yeah. My biggest "disaster" was back when I was working professionally, I'd say about 8 years ago. A client booked with me on the road in DC at a friend's dungeon, saying that he was this "extreme" slave, into heavy CBT, electroplay, suspension, torture, etc. I had a 2-3 hour block squared away with him. We'd been communicating for a few weeks, and I thought I had him pretty well figured out, to the point that he knew what was going to happen to him and was totally down with it. How wrong I was. I got him in there, and on my dial setting, I was at like a 2-3 intensity in the first 10 minutes. He was reading already at an 8-9. I got him on his toes, blindfolded and introduced a violet wand. He went to overload and called out of the session. As it turned out, he was this sensual sub that fantasized that he could take all of this torture and stuff. In the end, he couldn't even take the whimpiest clothespins on his nipples, let alone anything else. It was a tie and tease session from there on out. And I was miffed -- here I was really looking forward to dishing out all that I'd orchestrated!

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RE: The Femdom Lifestyle Live Interview - 12/4/2006 4:36:13 AM

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Hi Dianna,

I am listening to the archived interview right now. I have to tell you, I do really enjoy your radio program

If your still looking for a few ideas I had a couple.

1) If you could interview a Femdom lifestyle couple, non pro, who had been involved in a relationship for several years to give us some insight into what a realtime 24/7 live in arrangement is like

2) A sub male who is new to the submissive scene, or perhaps a submale who can relate his experiences over the years. How he felt he has changed or grown as a person etc. I'd be particularly interested in this one myself as my sub is very new to the scene.

3) Perhaps interview a Domme who also enjoys bottoming occasionally.

I don't think that these have been done yet, but they could be interesting.

~Lashra

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RE: The Femdom Lifestyle Live Interview - 12/4/2006 8:06:40 AM

DiannaVesta

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ORIGINAL: Lashra

Hi Dianna,

I am listening to the archived interview right now. I have to tell you, I do really enjoy your radio program

If your still looking for a few ideas I had a couple.

1) If you could interview a Femdom lifestyle couple, non pro, who had been involved in a relationship for several years to give us some insight into what a realtime 24/7 live in arrangement is like

2) A sub male who is new to the submissive scene, or perhaps a submale who can relate his experiences over the years. How he felt he has changed or grown as a person etc. I'd be particularly interested in this one myself as my sub is very new to the scene.

3) Perhaps interview a Domme who also enjoys bottoming occasionally.

I don't think that these have been done yet, but they could be interesting.

~Lashra

Thank you. I do plan on having lifestyle couples, for sure. I brought chris in to interview me because he is submissive and taking the journey as a novice. I thought that was important. I do have some people that are 24/7 and some that are just couples that do this part time. If anyone here wants to be interviewed and contribute to this project then please contact me. I can’t even begin to tell you how many emails I get from couples, singles, all types of people that find the show helpful. Its one thing to read an article but to listen to the spontaneous responses of real people is another thing all together. I often go back and listen to past shows and always hear something different.

The other thing I am planning now is panels of people that are into a certain kink like soon I hope to have a sissy panel, then a few guys on bull busting, foot fetish, etc. I’d like to get a more in-depth feel for the sexual, emotional and psychological mind-set.

I honestly believe that female domination is grossly misunderstood. Not just the women that are involved but the men that seek out this as a lifestyle only to come up empty handed. There needs to be a meeting of hearts and minds. Stigmas need to be wiped away and there needs to be more tolerance for discovery. As you may have heard in my interview it’s been an evolution for me and I’ve had to keep an open mind. Things I love today scared the hell out of me 10 years ago. I am hoping to present the loving free aspects of alternative expression through female domination. This is very dear to my heart.

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RE: The Femdom Lifestyle Live Interview - 12/4/2006 3:04:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

Ok another question. What types of shows would you like to hear? What types of people do you think I should interview? Do you like listening to experienced professionals or would you prefer more lifestyle people? I'd love to hear what you'd produce if you could write the show. Do you think the show should be serious discussion, lighthearted and fun, erotic and kinky? What would work for you? Thank you for your support! Dianna Vesta

My suggestion would be to have a show on how a D/s relationship can be synergistic; on how the interaction of the Domme with the sub helps a man become more than he otherwise would on his own. There is something about the mentoring, encouragement, and discipline that comes from being with certain women who are Dommes that brings the extra capabilities out within a man. It is more than just providing motivation. It is more than just helping him to learn self-discipline. It is truly more than encouraging him to believe in himself or to help him to have a vision that he shares with his Domme. I don't know how to describe it any other way than to say that it is truly something that is a combination, that when a Dominant woman works with her sub, it creates a synergy that is far beyond the sum of just the two of them, particularly in terms of the sub!

- pixel

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RE: The Femdom Lifestyle Live Interview - 12/6/2006 5:56:04 AM

DiannaVesta

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave

quote:

ORIGINAL: DiannaVesta

Ok another question. What types of shows would you like to hear? What types of people do you think I should interview? Do you like listening to experienced professionals or would you prefer more lifestyle people? I'd love to hear what you'd produce if you could write the show. Do you think the show should be serious discussion, lighthearted and fun, erotic and kinky? What would work for you? Thank you for your support! Dianna Vesta

My suggestion would be to have a show on how a D/s relationship can be synergistic; on how the interaction of the Domme with the sub helps a man become more than he otherwise would on his own. There is something about the mentoring, encouragement, and discipline that comes from being with certain women who are Dommes that brings the extra capabilities out within a man. It is more than just providing motivation. It is more than just helping him to learn self-discipline. It is truly more than encouraging him to believe in himself or to help him to have a vision that he shares with his Domme. I don't know how to describe it any other way than to say that it is truly something that is a combination, that when a Dominant woman works with her sub, it creates a synergy that is far beyond the sum of just the two of them, particularly in terms of the sub!

- pixel

Thank you. We will indeed be interviewing lifestyle women and exploring all aspects of relationships from different angles.
I received a lot of email and good suggestions. Thank you all. I am going to do some exciting new things thanks to your ideas. One major change is that we are going host the live show at different times. It seems that most people download it so I’ll be able to have more shows and at convenient times for the people I am interviewing. The only draw back is callers might find it more difficult to call in so I’m going to send out an email to our newsletter list from Femsupreme so people can email me their questions.
The shows tend to carry on past the hour and have been 1 ½ hours I’m going to let them go as long as needed and to avoid any dead space have a list of questions and femdom news, so if anyone has news or something interesting please email me.

We’re going to have some contest too! These are combined with our forum so I don’t know if I can post them here or not. I’m contacting Stockroom and various companies to sponsor prizes. These will be big prizes not small, like a 100.00 or more! I LOVE games and was hoping to hear some ideas on good contest we can have.

Thanks again. You’ve all been wonderful!

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