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Sirseeksslave -> Profile Offending (12/5/2006 8:16:07 AM)
What about my profile seems to turn all the subs or slaves away? How should you approach a sub or slave when trying to learn more about them without offendiing them?

MissyRane -> RE: Profile Offending (12/5/2006 8:20:09 AM)
Personally I can't help but liking your profile so I can't really see how it's supposed to turn somebody away.

hisannabelle -> RE: Profile Offending (12/5/2006 8:23:23 AM)
besides the fact that i am already collared, the only thing that's ever really turned me off from talking to another dominant (because i'm always open to messages) is those types of messages that are all, "you are my slut, kneel NOW and beg to please me!" - messages where the first time someone is talking to me, they assume that just because i am a submissive, i am THEIR submissive. but overall i like your profile :) it seems like you are very worried about finding a submissive...from your posts, which have all kind of went in that direction. it's sort of like dating. it happens when it happens...there's no need to rush it. hugs good luck. my message box is always open if you want to chat :)

mstrjx -> RE: Profile Offending (12/5/2006 8:23:56 AM)
Your profile seems pretty good except for the usual spelling and grammer errors. That's not a slight; most people do the same. Your question probably isn't giving enough information. Do you not get responses to your profile (which is one thing), or do you lose others interest with your first or second emails (another thing)? Jeff

Aileen68 -> RE: Profile Offending (12/5/2006 8:27:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mstrjx Your profile seems pretty good except for the usual spelling and grammer errors. That's not a slight; most people do the same. Jeff grammar [:)] Couldn't resist.

mstrjx -> RE: Profile Offending (12/5/2006 8:29:35 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen68 quote: ORIGINAL: mstrjx Your profile seems pretty good except for the usual spelling and grammer errors. That's not a slight; most people do the same. Jeff grammar [:)] Couldn't resist. Color me ashamed. Want a cookie? Jeff

Aileen68 -> RE: Profile Offending (12/5/2006 8:33:17 AM)
That made me chuckle. Nothing offensive at all about cookies.

SlaveAkasha -> RE: Profile Offending (12/5/2006 8:50:04 AM)
I don't see anything wrong with it. You state what you are looking for and what you expect. Perhaps those you write to read that, and don't feel it's for them. If that is the case, it's better you didn't hear from them. It's hard to tell anything for sure because I don't know what your first email is like, or your personality. Time and patience, that is all I can say. You seem to know what you want and that is always worth waiting for. Kasha

riekanagaki -> RE: Profile Offending (12/5/2006 9:03:33 AM)
It boils down to statistics. Statistically speaking, females with pictures get the most responses, while males get considerably less responses than females. That's just the way the world works, sadly

Kalira -> RE: Profile Offending (12/5/2006 9:11:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sirseeksslave What about my profile seems to turn all the subs or slaves away? How should you approach a sub or slave when trying to learn more about them without offendiing them? Your profile looks fine to me. As for the approach, well, everyone is different. Some like to be approached as you would a vanilla date, some don't. /shrug

damia -> RE: Profile Offending (12/5/2006 9:16:05 AM)
Only think i can see that would help, because i like Your profile too, is to add a picture. The difference between a profile with a picture and a profile without a picture can be HUGE, and some people won't even look at profiles unless they have a picture. Looking...looking...maybe Your location is turning certain types of subs away? Not everyone wants to be in the country (i'd love it, personally, but that's because i was raised in the country). That's all i can see that's possibly affecting replies and such...perhaps You could write a sample message and maybe that would help people help You? A good message should be respectful, considerate, and amiable. It should be at least a few sentences long (most people delete one-word and sometimes one-line messages), and should summarize who You are, and why You were attracted to her profile (this will show that You read her profile). And asking a question or two at the end seems to up the number of replies You will get, as some people are compelled to answer questions (like myself :P) Hope that helps, damia

toservez -> RE: Profile Offending (12/5/2006 9:18:11 AM)
My .02 opinion on your profile is that there is no real information about yourself. It is mostly what you are all about in the M/s aspect of the relationship, which you do very well, but very little in who you are as a person when not playing. I did not get any sense of who I would be eating dinner with or what we would be about in the regular world that still makes up most of the time.

BitaTruble -> RE: Profile Offending (12/5/2006 9:19:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Sirseeksslave What about my profile seems to turn all the subs or slaves away? How should you approach a sub or slave when trying to learn more about them without offendiing them? You can't please everyone. That profile will appeal to some and not appeal to others. It's such a subjective question with beauty being in the eye of the beholder. Personally, for me, it's a turn off for a variety of reasons, but it's not as bad as a lot of others I've read and there have been enough people who've responded to you already telling you they quite enjoyed your profile, so that's something. The thing is if it's not working, you might want me to expand on why "I" think it's not working as it doesn't work for me for some pretty obvious and glaring reasons, but be prepared for brutal honesty. I won't go there, however, without your permission. Hmm.. maybe it's better if you don't give permission. I've noticed lately the dominants around here have been a little sensitive. I think it's the full moon or somethin'. [8D] Be well, Celeste

gemy -> RE: Profile Offending (12/5/2006 9:30:38 AM)
this one agrees with pretty much everyone here -- Your profile is well written excepting the typos,,, grinz although could use a lil more about Yourself physically ,,,, and if You do not wish to post a pic, which many do not, perhaps a picture in Your first email? in addition, many girls do not wish to relocate so that may hamper Your search/responses also now, not knowing what You write to start, this one can tell You, if she receives an email that says "nice profile" and that's it, my response is "thanks" and the email is deleted good luck in Your seach, gemmie

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Profile Offending (12/5/2006 10:20:06 AM)
Your profile is very specific, which I think is a wonderful thing. In fact, it's a weeding tool. Why are you lamenting that subs/slaves aren't choosing you? This is simply the process that tells you they're not a match; it saves you time. I have a very specific profile, too. I get, perhaps, 1 -2 serious inquiries a month. Most of my mail is generated by people speaking privately about stuff on the boards. The only suggestions I have for you is to check your punctuation and add a picture. Master Fire

AquaticSub -> RE: Profile Offending (12/5/2006 12:23:16 PM)
~Fast Reply~ I like your profile except for these things: 1. You require webcams and pictures but don't have a picture and it doesn't say you are willing to provide that same. That sets off my troll alert. 2. The required work period sets of my troll alarm as well. I want a dominant who is as interested in a commited relationship as I am. 3. The relocation thing will also narrow down your search, but that is very understandable. Not all submissives/slaves are in situations where they can pack up in leave. However, you say with time so I assume you will be understanding about such things. Providing a picture for your profile would help. Otherwise, I thought it was a good profile.

sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Profile Offending (12/5/2006 1:27:37 PM)
I do not think your profile is offensive. It is very upfront and non judgemental. You do not come off as arrogant or presumptious.

poplolly -> RE: Profile Offending (12/5/2006 1:51:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen68 quote: ORIGINAL: mstrjx Your profile seems pretty good except for the usual spelling and grammer errors. That's not a slight; most people do the same. Jeff grammar [:)] Couldn't resist. "grammatical errors". Sorry, neither could I!

juliaoceania -> RE: Profile Offending (12/5/2006 3:46:09 PM)
For me the words "firm" and using pain to punish rather than reward would turn me off. I am a masochist, I enjoy pain, so someone that wanted to punish me physically for infractions of rules would not be someone I would want to get to know on an intimate level. If I was not a masochist I would wonder why you were fixated on physically punishing me instead of striving for a dynamic where punishment was unnecessary. I do not find your profile offensive though.

bandit25 -> RE: Profile Offending (12/5/2006 4:09:45 PM)
Mstrjx...grammar. That's one of the most common misspelled words I see here on the boards.

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