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Aine -> RE: Switch women (12/7/2006 8:52:34 AM)
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dom·i·na·trix [image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/luna/thinsp.png[/image]/ˌdɒm[image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/luna/thinsp.png[/image]əˈneɪ[image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/luna/thinsp.png[/image]trɪks/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[dom-uh-ney-triks] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation [image]http://cache.lexico.com/g/d/speaker.gif[/image] [image]http://cache.lexico.com/g/d/premium.gif[/image] –noun, plural -na·tri·ces [image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/luna/thinsp.png[/image]/-ˈneɪ[image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/luna/thinsp.png[/image]trəˌsiz, -nəˈtraɪ[image]http://cache.lexico.com/dictionary/graphics/luna/thinsp.png[/image]siz/ Pronunciation Key - Show Spelled Pronunciation[-ney-truh-seez, -nuh-trahy-seez] Pronunciation Key - Show IPA Pronunciation. 1.a woman who plays the dominant role in a sado-masochistic sexual relationship or encounter. 2.a woman who dominates.
A sadist is not always a Dominant. A masochist isn't always a submissive.
So....to maybe better phrase an answer, I'm going to venture to replace the word Dominatrix.
For those that are in a Femdomme/male sub relationship....
There are some other threads on the same general subject, so in case this one does not get a lot of replies and if LuckyAlbatross doesn't pop in for a link fest, do a search on this subject up in the right hand corner of the top of the forum.
As for an answer...the best I can do is from my perspective as a switch dating a switch.
No, I do not think that switching makes us any less one or the other. Personally, both of us might not be exactly 50% Dom/me and 50% sub...but that doesn't lessen him in my eyes or me in his.
For some it does....for some they can't be with someone who switches. That's a personal thing and I have nothing against it. That's the kind of security they need, they need to see that person and know that person is strictly Dom/me or sub, I don't believe that they think necessarily less of people who do, it's just a preference for their own reality.
To me it comes down to the mental. Some have to be 100% dominated, no questions to seep into their heads about the nature of their dominant. It has to be cut and dry. And visa versa. For them to feel secure in their dynamics, there can't be anything to challenge that dynamic. No second guessing.
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