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Profile review please - 12/8/2006 6:09:12 AM

enigmaslave

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i awoke this morning to, what i felt were, harsh critisims of my profle.
Would any of you care to glance it over and give me some feed back.

All assitance is greatly apreciated.

Thank You in advance.
enigmaslave

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RE: Profile review please - 12/8/2006 6:15:47 AM

MmakeMme

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Mm. I think the list of "Musts" is what does it. Better to save those for a conversation, and tempered a bit. You are giving orders to potential Mistresses. The criticism, while blunt, was not overly harsh (in my opinion).

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RE: Profile review please - 12/8/2006 6:16:32 AM

LaTigresse

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Dave, call me crazy but aside from not having a photo I think it is one of the best profiles I have ever read.

You give so much important information that I would wish to know. You do NOT focus on kink which I simply LOVE.

I am gonna say whomever wrote you is, in my opinion, a putz.

Edited to add, actually I prefer the "musts". Why, because having them there saves time. If I were seriously seeking a male slave, spent several days worth of email/chat/whatever getting to know you and started to become really interested only to learn in conversation that something on that list was a hard limit for you, it would suck! Of course I do like intelligent mentally and emotionally strong sub/slaves also. I have never been interested in someone that does the "crawl to my shoes" approach.

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My twisted, self deprecating, sense of humour, finds alot to laugh about, in your lack of one!

Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: Profile review please - 12/8/2006 6:38:38 AM

MisPandora

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Random observations and quick reactions:

"Please do not be presumptuous."
Don't tell me to be anything. 'Please' doesn't soften it.

"willing to locate"
That'd be RElocate. And where? Somewhere else in CN? The US? Guam? No restrictions?

The lower case i thing is really freaking annoying, especially when later in the document you jump back and forth between lc and caps.

*Good list of skills*

"i see myself as an administrative assistant and a facilitator for my mistress' needs,"
It reads like majordomo to me.

Spell check, and edit yourself for formatting errors. You've got a few words spelled wrong. There are a few words that run together that should be spaced, and another few lines that should not be separated with punctuation, etc. They weren't bad enough to make me chuckle, but for someone wanting to be an admin asst to someone else, they'd be enough to knock you down a rung or three of consideration to a candidate who had their i's dotted and their t's crossed.

Note: By the time I got to the end, I felt barraged with a bunch of lines drawn in the sand, demands or whathaveyou, and wanted to stop reading, and the word that was on the tip of my tongue was "obsessive". The red text was unnecessary. If you have health concerns, there's a more sensitive way to say that you need to be in an allergen-free environment. You can also say that you "have a preference for" something because of health concerns....and stop with the repeating over and over and over again about "deal breakers."

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RE: Profile review please - 12/8/2006 6:46:01 AM

MzTlaz

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Well...here I go agreeing with LaTigresse again.

I think your repeated rule of no drugs may come across as demanding to some....but probably only to the people who do them.....maybe that touched a nerve of the person who wrote you.

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Dave, call me crazy but aside from not having a photo I think it is one of the best profiles I have ever read.

You give so much important information that I would wish to know. You do NOT focus on kink which I simply LOVE.

I am gonna say whomever wrote you is, in my opinion, a putz.

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RE: Profile review please - 12/8/2006 6:48:25 AM

ShiftedJewel

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Personally I liked it. Straight forward and to the point. For a professed novice you seem to know yourself and what you are seeking... that's a wonderful thing.

You are going to find those that don't like or appreciate what you have to say in your profile... that's because we are all individuals with our own likes and dislikes so just look at it this way... if they don't like it then chances are pretty good that they aren't the one for you. Be yourself, if you try to be someone different, if you bend to trying to please everyone then you need to ask yourself how long you can hold on to that mindset? Could you pretend to be someone you aren't for a lifetime relationship?

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RE: Profile review please - 12/8/2006 6:58:10 AM

enigmaslave

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Thank Y/you for the all the feed back thus far, i am so very apreciative of all the information Y/you have givin me.
For those who responded so quickly to this point, Y/your points were delievred at a perfect moment. I really needed to hear the good and the not so good.

Thank You for the support, it meant more then Y/you'll ever know.
(BTW the photo is "collar me's" 72 hour rule )

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RE: Profile review please - 12/8/2006 7:24:41 AM

pinkkeith

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quote:

ORIGINAL: enigmaslave

(BTW the photo is "collar me's" 72 hour rule )

Don't be surprised if it takes longer then 72 hours. I put mine up on Saturday and it is still not there.

I do have to agree with everyone that opinons will vary, so don't worry about what one person feels about what your profile says or doesn't say.

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RE: Profile review please - 12/8/2006 7:25:47 AM

Morrigel

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*shrug* I wouldn't respond to this profile for a number of reasons, but that's because I would never willingly enter into any relationship with a man who thought he could dictate my lifestyle, appearance, or diet-fitness habits--much less enter into a relationship that requires as much work, commitment and time spent together as a 24/7 power-exchange. A man who professes a desire to be a "slave" and then has an endlessly long list of things a woman has to be and do to be "worthy" of collaring him is just...tiresome. One can only imagine how unbearable his constant petty judgments would be in person.

That being said, I do not troll for subs--I let them come to me. And I would never look at someone's profile and then send them a nasty comment if I found it unattractive. I would just move on to the next profile, with the assumption that somewhere in the world, the control-freak animal-hating fitness Nazi of this man's dreams is looking for her beloved majordomo.

In other words, I agree with the opinion of the person who wrote that email--but I don't agree with her behavior. I think if you don't want to interact positively with someone--leave him alone. Life is too short.

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RE: Profile review please - 12/8/2006 9:16:20 AM

Mikal

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If that is you, then it's you. While I personally am not drawn to your profile, the reasons are mostly due to the feeling of no personal connection. *shrugs* But everyone is different and you can't be interesting to all people. I would however suggest, as others have, that you fix the spelling errors, and sentence construction (ie the two separate sentences that should be one).

Just an aside, you say that you enjoy art exhibits, but you list art galleries as tolerable. To me, this says it's an activity you'll engage in to make your partner happy, but it does nothing for you.

My $0.02 worth.

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RE: Profile review please - 12/9/2006 10:15:04 AM

MistressYlwa

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Not sure that you have revised at this time, or not.

Personally, I liked it. Very informative, not demanding, open and honest. I am sure someone will be more than happy with you.

Good luck.

Mistress Ylwa

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RE: Profile review please - 12/9/2006 9:53:46 PM

imtempting

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I think threads like this should be banned as self you let one person self advertise then you must let everyone

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RE: Profile review please - 12/10/2006 3:02:00 AM

enigmaslave

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Perhaps your right, "imtempting", but then one day, you will have something happen to you that requires you to rethink and re-evaluate your approach to life. I hope you're humble enough to seek guidance from your peers at that time.

However, I suspect you already have all the answeres. I wish I knew all the answere when I was 25.

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