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match2u -> Manners (2/17/2005 9:12:51 AM)
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in observing the conversation here on the board and also my experience i have with people exchanging notes, i would like to post some points - smile -
... it seems like the world is full of people never learned or may refused to practise good manners taught in kindergarten....
- do as you say you will
your word, typed or spoken is valuable until you make it worthless
there is no need for pretenders, posers and thats far beyond the point to say No. this is
a right to use freely
- do not let you bully by others
none is the sub/ slave, Master/Mistress/Dom, switch - whatever as long this is not given
none can take it or assume without permission
if some say otherwise - they are wrong, wrong, wrong.....
- give an explanation
just to end a conversation by refusing, avoiding isn't fair at all.
if the conversation will not lead to anything - say so! tell the truth - if you say nothing
the other person may think she/he has done something wrong
- follow up
a simple thank you, no thanks, to busy, no interest - whatever gives us the impression
all is fine and at least you are not staying in hospital and try to survive - smile -
- do not forget "shit happens"
sometimes things going wrong - in case they do - tell the truth
- its nothing wrong to change your mind
do we need a permission to change our mind? no....
if happen - let the other know ( oh we come back to the point tell the truth)
- make your position, your state clear
its not always easy, especially people have their own imagination and way to decode
language, but be sure yes means yes and no means no. in building trust and earning
respect its necessary. if there is no answer yet - there is no answer...
- try to think of the other side
how would you feel if you were in her/his shoes? do not to others as you would have
them do unto you. thats simple
... sorry, but it was a need for me to point that out - smile -
all comments are welcome
petra
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