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sprite67 -> Changing dynamics (2/17/2005 9:31:27 AM)
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My husband and I have been in a mostly vanila relationship for a number of years. He's known my interest in D/s from the begining and we've often played around with it for sexual encounters, for short periods of other "game" situations...but following an unrelated near-crisis in our relationship, we have reached a new level of trust and honesty and for whatever happy reason, one of his responses to that has been to have a much deeper interest in the D/s lifestyle, in making that a bigger part of our relationship, and in exploring how to expand it to include more of our real lives. YAY....
We do have 4 children living in the house, so our playtime must be discrete, and we've found ways to build into our lives in a very non-dramatic way the things that make us think about eachother that way. We know the basics... have no worries about safety, honesty, trust. We're looking for fun ideas to enhance the process as we slowly transition from occasional to most-of-the time D/s roles.
Our questions are this:
1) Have other people made similar transitions, and have tips, cautions, etc?
2) Favorite "rules" that work in your relationship, etc? We're playing with what to formalize and what not to. We think it would be good to do some things more formally than we have in the past, make some written rules, some sort of contract, or rituals.
3) Anything else you want to say that might be helpful?
Thanks! I think the people here are smart and loving, and I'm looking forward to your feedback.
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