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safecall network - 12/9/2006 10:15:25 AM   
ADomlesssub


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hey all...

a US friend of mine and i were chatting the other day about the perils of "cyber" world.... particularly if you are a newcomer just venturing into this bizarelly wonderful world - but know that your "vanilla" friends would just not understand or even worse consider you to be a "freak"...

anyway, we were talking about that first meeting with someone that you have just met online - even if you have been chatting online for a while, spoken on the phone, exchanged pics and webcams, it is hard to "know" someone... of course you should follow the usual common sense stuff, meet in a public place, have an escape plan etc etc - but what about if you get carried away, or are persuaded/manipulated to carry the evening on - you may have of course had a few dates and are now moving on to the next stage - but still you should have safety in mind...
when i first started on this adventure i had nobody to call upon and would have appreciated having someone to call/talk to....

so... we are setting up 2 safecall networks, one in the US and one here in the UK - if you would be interested in helping us figure out the logistics, point out some flaws or indeed need to call upon a "safecaller" then please either reply to this post or drop me an email

it would be subs/slaves being there for subs/slaves and Masters/Doms being there for Masters/Doms (i've heard there are some psycho subs out there)

take care all - and if you can't be good, don't get caught!!
snarf
xxx

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RE: safecall network - 12/9/2006 10:42:44 AM   
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oops - didnt realise email addys weren't allowed....

drop me a post or a message here then instead....

;O)

snarf
xxx

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RE: safecall network - 12/9/2006 11:40:20 AM   
cjenny


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Status: offline 		i think it is a great idea, so long as those on the 'safe call list' can provide some sort of reference. it is easy to get complacent when you are having a fun time with someone, it is easy to forget you do not truly know them until you are in a dangerous spot. even those that are not newbies can be distracted until safety is needed.
luckily all the folks i have met from online turned out to be great people despite my lack of street smarts in the beginning!

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RE: safecall network - 12/9/2006 12:15:55 PM   
Lorelei115


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Status: offline 		... You're not from "The International Core" are you?

In any regards, a safe call network sounds like a great idea, much luck to you. :)

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RE: safecall network - 12/9/2006 12:19:07 PM   
cjenny


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Status: offline 		yikes, what pray tell is the International Core? yesyes i am too lazy to google.

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RE: safecall network - 12/9/2006 12:30:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		Don't mean to sound negative but it's been done more than a few times with very little success. I know lots of folks think safecalls are a great idea but they really don't do much beyond leading the police to your body. A safe call network is probably less likely to increase your safety than relying on a friend for the same. Do you really want people to think that relying on perfect strangers is going to keep them safe? Say you are having a great evening...you make your safecalls and tell them things are going well. The moment you hang up your date turns into Ted Bundy. Even if you have to make calls at regular intervals or have people call you....how long does it take to become a victim?

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RE: safecall network - 12/9/2006 12:34:29 PM   
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Status: offline 		Just to add....if you do a search on the internet you will find that there are quite a number of them already in existence.

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RE: safecall network - 12/9/2006 12:56:11 PM   
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Status: offline 		No offense, but I find it much more beneficial to have a friend as a safe call then a stranger.  If you don't have a friend to be your safe call then perhaps getting to know others in your community that are into this lifestyle would be a good idea.  For more reasons then just a safe call, but also, they may actually know the person you are planning on meeting.  Someone in your area, that is close is going to have more potential information to give to the authorities then someone who isn't. 

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RE: safecall network - 12/9/2006 2:11:49 PM   
DreamyLadySnow


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Status: offline 		We set up a safecall network in Alberta, as a resource.
We don't do safecalls for strangers. You want a safecall, meet with us first.
Yes, I do see the irony in that but we are all members of our local community. A person doesn't have to meet a safecall stranger at a coffee shop to arrange a safecall for a meet with a stranger at a coffee shop.
Oy, I think I strained myself saying that.
I prefer to meet strangers at munches. For one thing there are a lot of people, so if I don't like him I can wander off..heh heh.
Another, if he absolutely refuses to ever go to any bdsm function, ever, he's not a match for me. Better to find that out early.

LS

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RE: safecall network - 12/9/2006 2:24:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		I think the best safecalls are those between you and those you all ready know in meatlife. Be up front with having one and if the person you are wish doesn't like the idea, turn around and leave, do not even put yourself in that situation.

I always ask someone when they first come to do a trial scene with me if they have a safecall set up. If they say know, I thank them for their time and we don't scene.

I only have an interest in someone of value. Someone who can't think far enough ahead to plan a safecall or who doesn't think it is necessary is not protecting himself and probably couldn't handle what I require in service.

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RE: safecall network - 12/9/2006 3:33:50 PM   
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Status: offline 		i can certainly tell you and your friend had your hearts in the right place with this idea. But, as some others have said, i am concerned that it may be more important to be able to turn to someone locally and/or known to you as a person. An "anonymous" safe call may not recognize the strain in your voice, or the unusual way of speaking, regardless of safe words being said or not.

And, has also been said, and as i have experienced, safe calls are just one step in protecting yourself. It doesn't completely eliminate risk, but are better than not having it place. If you don't have friends you can turn to (and vanilla would do if you explain that it is a first date), hat about references for the person you spoke to regarding the potential Dom or sub? what about those involved or recommended by those in the local munches or groups?

Keep searching for your answers and truths. And., good (and safe) luck to everyone on their journey!

Regards,
David Dream Wizard and his dream girl, joy

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