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experiences... - 12/9/2006 10:31:26 AM

atendersoul

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In emails I have recieved, they request to know of my experiences....37 years is a long time to write about. Any suggestions to how to do this without it sounding like some type of resume.....

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RE: experiences... - 12/9/2006 10:35:37 AM

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First, I would decide if the question comes at a point in the relationship where you feel comfortable discussing that. I would then keep it very general and not get into juicy details....unless it is of course with someone you are either in a committed relationship with or at a point where that is a serious possibility. I find most men wanting the juicy details have an ulterior motive....most likely it has to do with morning wood.

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RE: experiences... - 12/9/2006 10:45:25 AM

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Probably just say i have 37 yrs experience and leave it at that until i wanted to share more info.

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RE: experiences... - 12/9/2006 11:37:01 AM

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I'd say, "I have 37 years of experience and that's a lot to write about as an open-ended question. I'd be happy to answer specific questions."

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RE: experiences... - 12/9/2006 1:12:02 PM

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I can only imagine 37 yrs lifestyle experience doesn't actually translate into a lot of Net experience? Most newbies take less than a year to figger out that the authors of such personal and open-ended questions fall into at least two catagories:
They're either wank monsters looking for some titillation (at your expense) or predators who are probably more interested in what you don't know - how else can they manipulate you?

In what is all too often a shadowy atmosphere of lifestyle protocol, I sometimes find it helpful to revert to a vanilla situation to answer these sorta questions. Like myself, you have 52 yrs *life* experience, so would you consider it appropriate to answer a virtual stranger's questions of your sexual experience?

The long answer is to start sending your resume....

Focus.

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RE: experiences... - 12/9/2006 6:28:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: atendersoul

In emails I have recieved, they request to know of my experiences....37 years is a long time to write about. Any suggestions to how to do this without it sounding like some type of resume.....

Greetings tender,

You can't. To the point. I have been in the lifestyle for many a years, since 14-16, but have not gone to a munch, and play very rarely. I am a very private person, so when people ask for references, I think of bank loans...LOL.

They take me for whom I am, like it or lump it, simple. If we bounce off each over, then we do, if we don't, no skin off my nose, just move along.

Be well and take care.

Master Frank Ar.

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RE: experiences... - 12/10/2006 9:25:07 AM

Archer

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So select the one relationship that worked the best for you and write about that one relationship, boil it down to the essance of what made it the best.

ie fictitional, I spent 10 years with Master X starting off in service to them then as their submissive, then as their slave. This worked well because the trust nessisary to give myself over to Master X was built on over 5 years service before it became an M/s relationship..............
Master X believed in the core values of 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8, and instilled into me these as a basis to live by. I still use these values every day. Probalably the hardest value to internalize for me was 5, but over time through methods a,b,c,d I came to find that 5 really was that important.

Just a practicle answer, worth what you paid me for it.

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RE: experiences... - 12/10/2006 9:31:31 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Archer

I spent 10 years with Master X starting off in service to them then as their submissive, then as their slave.

I never would have suspected....

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RE: experiences... - 12/10/2006 10:03:22 AM

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Outline it. What was the most important events? I agree telling him about a specific relationship is a good way to handle it. For me, I ask the question to find out how thoughtful (or not) a new submissive might be. Keep in mind this is only an interview at this point. Be honest and say what comes naturally.

I have my subbies start blog or diaries when we start. All of them have kept them.

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