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RE: Jealousy - 12/11/2006 8:01:55 PM   
babysburnin


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Status: offline 		"I would like to know where some get this idea that since we actually like knowing that Master is happy with others, that we are somehow hiding our actual feelings."

Because many people strive for that precious "connection", and sharing intimately with another challenges that.

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RE: Jealousy - 12/11/2006 8:47:41 PM   
marieToo


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I really do not experience jealousy and the reason for that is there is only one me.  I cannot be replaced or duplicated, nor can I replace or duplicate someone else.  Therefore, I dont really get that whole competition thing. 

I personally, do not want to be with more than one Dominant.  But if that D has other girls, it doesn't bother me in the least.  I briefly was involved in a poly situation, and felt no jealousy at all.  I was leaning more towards a bond with the other girl than anything else. 

What I dont like however, is being in a situation where a self-proclaimed poly dom gives attention to/or flirts with another female,  and his subbie gets all  inflammed over it and begins to get catty. 
I think it's important to know oneself on this issue, and make decisions accordingly. 


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RE: Jealousy - 12/11/2006 10:43:24 PM   
adaddysgirl


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ORIGINAL: Kalira

I would like to know where some get this idea that since we actually like knowing that Master is happy with others, that we are somehow hiding our actual feelings.


Kalira,
 
i know a couple here have referred to this but i don't think most others feel that way, do you?
 
As a matter of fact, some things on here made me think of the times when subs/slaves would come on and say their partner wanted to involve another and they felt uncomfortable with that and pretty much the first thing most say are 'tell him how you feel' or 'don't hide how you feel about it because it won't work anyway if you do'.  i think if a sub/slave hides anything about it, possible jealousy, insecurities, etc, it's all going to come out in the wash anyway.  So i guess i just take these kind of remarks with a grain of salt.    As i said, nobody's going to be able to hide those kinds of feelings very long.
 
DG

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RE: Jealousy - 12/11/2006 10:48:41 PM   
adaddysgirl


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Status: offline 		Hey marie, nice pic!  (i've never seen one of you before.)  Ya know, you kinda look like what i pictured from reading your posts....lol.
 
Anyhoo....this was way too funny "an alpha beta soupa delta phi capa pooka dooka."
 
i'm still laughing about that 
 
DG

< Message edited by adaddysgirl -- 12/11/2006 11:31:00 PM >

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RE: Jealousy - 12/12/2006 12:29:13 AM   
angaothsi


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ORIGINAL: Naughtygal33

Jealousy is a natural emotion.  If you do not feel it at some point over something (big or small), then I am sorry but you are a robot. 

I believe it comes down to how well a submissive or slave can hide it.



For the most part I agree with this, except the "hide it" part, I see it more as how well you deal with it, Master and I are poly and there are times that one or the other of us has had issues, this is when the line of comunication between us is VERY important. There are very few things that make me jealous, but when it happens I look for the reason why it happened and I correct the problem either within myself or by talking to Him.

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RE: Jealousy - 12/12/2006 5:58:15 AM   
marieToo


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quote:

ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

Anyhoo....this was way too funny "an alpha beta soupa delta phi capa pooka dooka."
 
i'm still laughing about that 
 
DG


see how non-jealous I am ? lmaoooooo

ps: thanks for the compliment. 

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RE: Jealousy - 12/12/2006 8:16:39 AM   
ownedgirlie


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quote:

ORIGINAL: marieToo

quote:

ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

Anyhoo....this was way too funny "an alpha beta soupa delta phi capa pooka dooka."
 
i'm still laughing about that 
 
DG


see how non-jealous I am ? lmaoooooo

ps: thanks for the compliment. 


That killed me too, lol.

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RE: Jealousy - 12/12/2006 3:36:21 PM   
eyesopened


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Status: offline 		Poly will never work for me not because of a self-esteem problem but because i have never experienced real unconditional love or been primary in anyone's life.  i have entered into relationships where i knew up front that it would not be "exclusive" and asked only that during the hours we spend together that i get to have the illusion of being the only one.  To live in a poly household would remove all illusions!  i make a distinction between poly and non-exclusive.  in a non-exlcusive arrangement i don't feel the least bit jealous because i am not more emotionally invested than He is.  Basically, i don't care enough to get jealous.  

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RE: Jealousy - 12/15/2006 5:25:31 PM   
Serenityy


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ORIGINAL: reofbl

Many of my slaves haven't been jealous. To an extreme. Many slaves share their Master with several others. Is there a reason slaves aren't jealous..? Is it simply an emotion I take for granted, that isn't naturally there for everyone?

Jealousy is a natural emotion. It is how a person channels that emotion that will determine whether it is good for a relationship; or destructive.

< Message edited by Serenityy -- 12/15/2006 5:27:00 PM >

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RE: Jealousy - 12/15/2006 7:54:51 PM   
notjustsomesub


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Status: offline 		LA, i have to say... i love reading your posts. Thank you for your insight on so many things. The relationship i am in now has also taught me that when i feel the jealousy growing to simply just stop, look and listen. And it is indeed because of some form of insecurity that i discover, is the culprit. Open communication has indeed shown me, it is not something i desire in my life, and can live without.  *smile*

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