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RE: bed time rituals - 12/15/2006 5:50:39 AM   
behindmirrors


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Status: offline 		He tells me when it is time for bed, and I accompany him. We arrange blankets, snuggle up, whatever (I'm cold most of the time!), and I fall asleep with his hand placed somewhere on my body- it makes me feel secure and content to be under his hand and under his control.

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RE: bed time rituals - 12/15/2006 6:59:16 AM   
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Usually i go around turning the lights off then I go and turn down the covers and brush my teeth while master takes care of His things and then I undress and crawl into his side of the bed to warm it.  He comes in and I scoot to my side and he gets in, I turn off the Iguana's heat lamp and the over head light and then snuggle next to him.  He says I love you Slave, and I reply I love you too Master.  That's pretty much it.  Our morning routine is to get up at 6 am and for me to cook breakfast and lay out his clothes while he's showering then pack his lunch and make sure he has everything he needs then to kiss him good bye and see him out the door...


Pretty exciting huh? lol

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RE: bed time rituals - 12/15/2006 11:14:46 AM   
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Status: offline 		When I have a sub or a slave that stays the night who is chained or locked anywhere, I always ensure that there is a key within their reach. They know the key is there and they also know the punishment for using the key in a non emergency. God forbid, I were to die in my sleep, fall down and hit my head, there was a fire, or here in SF more likely an earthquake, I care enough about my bottom to keep them safe. Now granted the key is not always the same as I'll frequently change locks to prevent them from stealing the key and duplicating it. But, I also follow the belief that if they truly wish to serve me they won't touch anything unless absolutely needed. Should they use the key to unlock and go to the bathroom, there is a severe punishment, and depending on the case, possibly even being let free. I would encourage everyone to do the same or similiar. As long as your slave/sub understands the rules for it's use and that it's use any other time will truly lead to FREEDOM, you shouldn't have any problems. It is the same with the lock on my boys cockring. God forbid he needs to go to the hospital, doctor, airport, or anything else of the sort at the last minute, he has a spare key. It's a just in case thing...

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RE: bed time rituals - 12/15/2006 12:53:17 PM   
SoquilisGirl


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Status: offline 		Daddy and I both get up early for work, so we try to go to bed as near to 9:00 PM as we can (some nights it's later). Usually I get ready first (shower etc.) then he does, or sometimes we'll shower together. Usually he turns on the electric blanket (this time of year) and lays out my pajamas. Lately he has also turned on the heat in the bathroom (the only room upstairs that has heat!) so that it's warm when I go to take my shower.

Most nights I write in my journal while he showers. Sometimes he reads it right away although lately he's been reading it when I'm not home. We cuddle and he says, "Goodnight angel" (or whatever the endearment of the moment is). I like when he changes it or uses something silly. I say, "Goodnight Daddy," and we kiss. We don't always fall asleep right after that. Sometimes we'll talk for minutes or hours afterwards, but we always say it so we won't forget. It is usually followed by "I love yous".

We generally fall asleep spooned with his arm around me, but I can't sleep like that for very long, so at some point I turn over, nudge him over and spoon against him and fall asleep.

This will likely change a bit soon as we just adopted a cat and I'm sure that once we let her into the bedroom at night she'll be all over us purring and kneading!

Soquili's Girl

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RE: bed time rituals - 12/15/2006 1:05:52 PM   
pinkkeith


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Status: offline 		I'm amazed at the number who sleep in the same bed. I know that when I was with Mistress she would have me either sleep on the floor or on the futon. It was only during special times that I was allowed to sleep with her.

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RE: bed time rituals - 12/15/2006 1:15:28 PM   
LordIncantatore


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Status: offline 		One of the things I try to practice with all my submissives is to have a time of the night, usually bedtime for "talk time". It is a time, generally 15-30 minutes where my submissive is free to talk to me about anything. Concerns, wishes, unfufilled desires, or anything. No matter what the topic, she is free to talk openly with out fear of punishment. I believe communication with any sub is crucial and have found that even if "talk time" is done in a structured environment they will not always feel free to talk openly. I have been criticzed before for this as some consider it a weakness. Well i probably wouldnt be in this lifestyle if I worried much about what others think lol.

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RE: bed time rituals - 12/17/2006 12:40:32 AM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		Daddy is usualy the one falling sleep on me, but one time I was super stressed and I couldn't sleep and he talked to me for about 4 hours and at the end he just talked softly and calmly and really about nothing at all just so I could hear his voice and damn sure enough I went to sleep hehe.

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

Angel and I sort of have a bedtime ritual when we are on the phone together. I sing to him while he snuggles up, and he has dozed off on the phone more than once.  Its very cute.

DV

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RE: bed time rituals - 12/17/2006 1:14:49 AM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		I am looking very much forward to being able to add a new bedtime ritual to the list in a few weeks.  I have taken some ideas from some of the posts here and incorprated them into conversations I had with Angel.. and the reactions were wonderful.  I might have to experiment :)

DV

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RE: bed time rituals - 12/17/2006 1:20:01 AM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		rubbing my back or some good sex will also makeme go to sleep lol.

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RE: bed time rituals - 12/17/2006 4:39:14 AM   
sunnydays


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Status: offline 		wow.. thank you all for your wonderful responces...Master had read t hem and i'll let you all know waht he has decidied for me... personally.. the idea of havign my ankle chained to the bed makes my skin tingle... mmm

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RE: bed time rituals - 12/18/2006 4:03:22 PM   
SoquilisGirl


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Status: offline 		I think sleeping arrangements vary as much as any other aspect of a relationship.

When I have to go away (on a business trip, vacation etc.) Daddy finds it impossible to sleep in the bed alone. He usually stays up until he passes out on the couch. When I come home from wherever I've been he's always very happy to cuddle up in the bed again.

Soquili'sGirl

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ORIGINAL: pinkkeith

I'm amazed at the number who sleep in the same bed. I know that when I was with Mistress she would have me either sleep on the floor or on the futon. It was only during special times that I was allowed to sleep with her.

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RE: bed time rituals - 12/18/2006 4:40:30 PM   
blushingflower


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Status: offline 		what I like is when he has me get him ready for bed- I undress him- taking off his cufflinks, unbuttoning his shirt, etc.  And then I put his pajamas on him.  Then I take his clothes into the bedroom and put them in their proper places in the laundry. 
But what winds up happening a lot is that we're watching tv and I fall asleep on the couch and he wakes me up and tells me to go to bed.  I sleep naked normally (and have for years), but I wear his collar while I sleep.  Sometimes he gets in bed with me and we snuggle up together, but sometimes he's not tired and so he tucks me in.

We have more of a morning ritual- usually he fucks my ass and then we get in the shower together.  He bought a double-headed shower for us so that neither of us would be cold.



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RE: bed time rituals - 12/18/2006 4:47:14 PM   
blushingflower


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ORIGINAL: SoquilisGirl

I think sleeping arrangements vary as much as any other aspect of a relationship.

When I have to go away (on a business trip, vacation etc.) Daddy finds it impossible to sleep in the bed alone. He usually stays up until he passes out on the couch. When I come home from wherever I've been he's always very happy to cuddle up in the bed again.

Soquili'sGirl

Daddy once left me alone with another couple (he was having issues, he apologized profusely, and he realized that night that he was in love with me).  When he got home, all he could think about was me, and he came back.  And he told them that he realized he just couldn't sleep without his little girl.  And that makes me happy.

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RE: bed time rituals - 12/18/2006 5:30:13 PM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear BootBlackBlast, Ladies and Gentlemen;

I have to echo that same advice.  It really is wise to make sure that 'in case' [insert circumstances] there is a means to escape, no matter what manner the slave is bound to and or cage into.

I also am a fan of baby monitors or intercom systems, to which you can hear the slaves in trouble or vice versa.  Cell phones and or pagers may also be wise to have handy.

To add to your post BootBlackBlast, I've put my keys into a glass canning jar and seal the lid with wax.  If they open it, the wax seal will be broken.  Or, I've had it waxed onto the cage.  But, I will also add, that I have put a glow in the dark item on the key fob as to find it no matter what.  The same with door keys, there will be a glow in the dark item attached to it so if they drop it they can find it.  Panic, fear and the like in a crisis--they'll be able to see that key.

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RE: bed time rituals - 12/18/2006 7:44:28 PM   
Zsuzsanna


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Status: offline 		All of these are very interesting. i can't wait to have my own bedtime ritual... although i dont know when that will be. But my time will come. ..

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