ownedgirlie
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ORIGINAL: Driver1961 He enters, dips His lid Well said Owned girlie. You are quite right. I read the thread, the questions, statments of others and yes I naturally made judgements (smiles cos he likes your judging upon himself, do it again and I may put you on my favourites list!) regarding the flow of the thread. I expressed how I felt particularly in my first post, on my judgement that others were expressing concern but receiving little or no reply and of course based upon my own life knowledge. I realize that some were not going to agree with me and I wanted to better understand- so yes I considered it 'best practice' to issue a challenge cos gentle questioning/concern by others wasn't seen or ignored. Your When someone asks me a question but has already judged me, I am not prone to putting forth a lot of energy in my reply, as it seems futile is extremely true and something I too practice however; I'm still of the opinion that questions had been asked prior and were unseen or ignored- so rather than ignore this myself - I wanted to better understand Daddysprop so took the 'look at me' stance. I trust this acknowledges your insightful judgement - He dips His lid admiringly. Driver1961. Thank you for acknowledging my post with the spirit in which it was intended. Since you invited further comment (heh), I will be honest and say that when I initially read the first sentence of your first post on this subject (you were already stating you were saddened), I felt judged and was already shifting toward the "This guy has already made up his mind and just wants to insult us" camp. So I had little interest in reading or responding further. Perhaps that was judgmental and wrong on my own part, but it is part of my conversational dynamic (I'm working on that). Typically, if someone comes to me and starts a conversation with, "I'm really sad that you do such n such..." my likely response would be, "Okay." and not much else. If they were to say "Something you said concerned me...would you mind clarifying?" I would have a seat, lean forward, and say "Sure, let me tell you all about it." In rereading your first post, I can see you did have actual concern and interest. But the first time I read it, I never got that far, because I was put off by my perceived judgment coming from you. It didn't help that two posts before yours were highly judgmental and assuming, which already left me with a particular mood by the time I read your post. Hopefully that explains where I'm coming from, anyway.
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