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What did I really ???? - 12/11/2006 7:37:57 PM   
delust666


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Status: offline 		Today was my first day for school and I was running a little late. I grab my collar and went to put it with my things when I relized I forgot something else. So I just tossed my collar onto the coffee table but it fell, to the floor it went. I seen it and didnt pick it up right away.
After class I could tell my Master was upset, he felt that I didnt care for him cause of the way I treated my collar, but he also understood the stress I was under about my first day back at class. He said it wasnt major and not to worry but I am cause he may have let it go but now I truely feel bad and dont know what to do.

Any reply will be helpful, Thanks DeLust666
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RE: What did I really ???? - 12/11/2006 7:40:53 PM   
Kalira


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quote:

ORIGINAL: delust666

Today was my first day for school and I was running a little late. I grab my collar and went to put it with my things when I relized I forgot something else. So I just tossed my collar onto the coffee table but it fell, to the floor it went. I seen it and didnt pick it up right away.
After class I could tell my Master was upset, he felt that I didnt care for him cause of the way I treated my collar, but he also understood the stress I was under about my first day back at class. He said it wasnt major and not to worry but I am cause he may have let it go but now I truely feel bad and dont know what to do.

Any reply will be helpful, Thanks DeLust666

If he said it was not major and not to worry; then don't worry.

/shrug



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RE: What did I really ???? - 12/11/2006 7:53:07 PM   
syreena


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Status: offline 		W/we all make mistakes.  Perhaps though you feel that you need more to resolve this issue.  Talk with you Master and discuss that you are having a hard time letting this incident go.  Ask Him for what He feels you need to do to resolve this issue. Communication is key to Y/your relationship and this is something that could be key in helping your journey of submission.

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RE: What did I really ???? - 12/11/2006 8:01:59 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		Make it up to him.  I think he'll forgive you if you show him how you feel.

quote:

ORIGINAL: delust666

Any reply will be helpful, Thanks DeLust666

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RE: What did I really ???? - 12/11/2006 8:12:51 PM   
sweetnurseBBW


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Status: offline 		Talk with him and tell him how you feel. Sometimes the worst discipline is knowing what you did.  He did not say it was a big deal. Just think about it the next time and I am pretty sure it won't happen again. Don't fret too bad. Just deal with it and move on. Good luck.

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RE: What did I really ???? - 12/11/2006 8:18:34 PM   
AquaticSub


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Status: offline 		I would liken this to losing a wedding ring down the kitchen sink (or in my father's case: his shirt pocket at the cleaners). The guilt you feel over what you did is more a punishment then anything he could ever say or do. You messed up but you apologized. Remember that while things are sacred, they are still only things and the bond between you is what is important.

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RE: What did I really ???? - 12/11/2006 8:29:41 PM   
darksdesire


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Status: offline 		I lost my Master's collar a year ago.  Lost.  Never to be recovered.  I tore my house apart, top to bottom and never found it.  Sometimes I carried it in my purse, and I suspect it might have fallen somewhere.  Admittedly, I wasn't treating it with the respect I would have expected from myself or that he would expect from me.  I can be scattered and careless with many things, and I was scattered and careless with his collar. 

Now, I have a ritual around his collar.  I bought a special small bag, and when ever I take the collar off it goes into the bag and into a drawer.   Now that it's a habit, I don't have to run around the house panic stricken about where I might have put it last.

Anyway...I understand the guilt.  You could express how badly you feel and ask for punishment.  Sometimes I need that punishment just to help me release my remorse and guilt.   

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RE: What did I really ???? - 12/11/2006 9:03:48 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Symbols can be important, but the moment we put more into the symbol than we do into ourselves, we get into trouble. 

Let it go.

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RE: What did I really ???? - 12/11/2006 10:22:21 PM   
masochistboy


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Status: offline 		...you get to wear collars to school?....or university?
we'd get served hardcore with detention for wearing stuff like that at my high school :(

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RE: What did I really ???? - 12/12/2006 8:27:22 AM   
AquaticSub


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...you get to wear collars to school?....or university?
we'd get served hardcore with detention for wearing stuff like that at my high school :(


I wore a collar while attending high school. You may be thinking of a different type of collar though. Mine didn't have any spiky things on it. It was a simple purple dog collar. And colleges generally don't care what you wear.

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RE: What did I really ???? - 12/12/2006 9:01:10 AM   
toservez


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Status: offline 		It is a reality check. Both of you would have preferred that something different happen but what happen really has nothing to do with your relationship and it was refreshing hearing a Master giving something like this a nice perspecitve. Life happens, let it go. If you want to do something nice for your Master then by all means but keep it in the perspective he showed it.



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RE: What did I really ???? - 12/12/2006 9:52:22 AM   
Caitriona


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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub
Remember that while things are sacred, they are still only things and the bond between you is what is important.


Very well said! 

To the OP - If you are still that upset about it, talk to your Master.  Let him know that you feel terrible and will make a better effort next time.  Let him know that you need to express this to him so that you can "get it off your chest" so to speak.  I know that I have a hard time letting things go once he tells me "it's okay" - I am working on that.  He often tells me that I am too hard on myself, even harder than he would be.  Perhaps you are this way also?  Talk to him - communication is key.


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RE: What did I really ???? - 12/12/2006 9:55:18 AM   
AquaticSub


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ORIGINAL: Caitriona

quote:

ORIGINAL: AquaticSub
Remember that while things are sacred, they are still only things and the bond between you is what is important.


Very well said! 



Thank you! 

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RE: What did I really ???? - 12/12/2006 1:08:54 PM   
dawntreader


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Status: offline 		Would you feel better if he disciplined you? Sometimes that helps because with the punishment comes the release of guilt ...

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RE: What did I really ???? - 12/13/2006 6:23:42 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		If he said he understood i would just let it go. It was an accident. Just be more careul with you collar next time so it doesnt happen again.  You i think are being too hard on yourself.

Matt's littleone

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RE: What did I really ???? - 12/13/2006 12:18:07 PM   
bardtothebone


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Status: offline 		To lose a symbol is manageable.  To lose its wearer would be unbearable.
The depth of love of which you are clearly capable is unaffected by the
mere misplacement of an object. Replace the collar and move on.

Bard to the Bone.

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RE: What did I really ???? - 12/14/2006 10:08:28 AM   
delust666


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Status: offline 		Thank you too all who replied, I took all your comments to mind nad ask for what I feel I needed to get over what happened.

Thanks again,

DeLust

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