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scenes - 2/18/2005 8:47:42 AM

Sirssweet

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This may sound like a stupid question but i am so new at this that almost everything is an unknown.

Can anyone give me any ideas about what typical 1 to 2 hour scenes might be? I realize that a Dom/Master can do as He/She wants but what are some typical activities that a sub may expect?

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RE: scenes - 2/18/2005 8:56:29 AM

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Well, it should be whatever is not excluded by what you and your Sir have been discussing. Whether the scene is 1-2 hours, 1-2 minutes, or 1-2 days that should be the answer. We know of people who 'script' intricate, involved scenes, but for us it's 'go with the flow'.

Have fun, don't worry about time.

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RE: scenes - 2/18/2005 9:24:30 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Sirssweet

This may sound like a stupid question but i am so new at this that almost everything is an unknown.

Can anyone give me any ideas about what typical 1 to 2 hour scenes might be? I realize that a Dom/Master can do as He/She wants but what are some typical activities that a sub may expect?

Oh my god...the mind grows tired running through all the things it could be. This is one of the few times I would suggest looking up one of those "Checklists" of bdsm activities- anything and everything on that list and more.

A TYPICAL scene generally starts by putting you in hard bondage, cuffs or some such. Then spanking/clamping/flogging/beating your body in various places with various toys, building in intensity and then slowing down.

But...anything can and might happen. You'd have to ask the person you are playing with what their preferences are and what mood they are in. I rarely ever know what specifically will happen to me in a scene unless it takes a lot of prep and set-up.

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RE: scenes - 2/18/2005 9:30:16 AM

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This might sound silly, but for "me", a scene of 1-2 hours (not to mention days..lol) would involve some breaks. i have arthritis -- not the typical "getting older" kind (although the person in the mirror got lots older when i wasn't looking..lol), but what my Rheumatologist calls "rampant and degenerative". i simply can't stay on my knees or be bound that long. The meds i take require lots of liquids (and therefore potty breaks). Sometimes my Dom has had to remind me to stop for a stretch or a drink, other times there's no problem with me not remembering..lol.

No matter what kind of scene you and your Dom have, it's a good idea to listen to your own body, and for him to really look and tune in. since you're both so new i also might suggest that your activities are short in length -- the "leaving em wanting more" kind of thing. Good luck to you both :)

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RE: scenes - 2/18/2005 1:47:07 PM

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i'm with everyone else so far on this one. Pretty much anything goes. You might start with an idea of what might happen, but trying to plan exactly what will happen doesn't sound like any fun.

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RE: scenes - 2/18/2005 2:22:58 PM

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A scene does not have to involve bondage at all. In fact many doms believe when they are truly dominating you. There will be no bonds. That is when they tell you to remain still and you do out of respect to them. That is the moment they know they truly own you.

A scene also does not have to involve pain on any level. One of my favorite scenes is sensation play. Of course when we get to play with sensation that is a treat to me. Doug certainly does not use it as punishment.

The scene can be as diverse as the person dreaming it up. You have to sort of know what the dominant likes and dislikes before you could ever imagine knowing what may or may not be within the scene.
We like wax. That would be somewhat typical of us. Putting the wax on...then getting it back off.
For some it is stand there and be spanked.
Has the dom told you any of their likes yet?

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RE: scenes - 2/19/2005 5:44:21 AM

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My Dom knows i am completely unschooled and unexperienced. As a result, he is being extremely cautious, concerned and caring. As he says, "little baby steps." I appreciate his protection of my well-being and feelings. But i get the impression he would like me to be a bit more pro-active, altho i may be wrong. i curse my inexperience daily for i do not want to be a dissappointment to him. but i truly do not what i can add to our time together.

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RE: scenes - 2/19/2005 7:56:57 AM

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Way back in the dark ages, when i was still brand new, i did lots of reading, asked my Master lots of questions, and he still took things much slower than i thought he wanted to...lol. It turns out that he truly enjoyed my newness..it brought things back to him that he'd either started to take for granted or just forgotten about. He enjoyed the freshness he found in my eyes and soul as we began a journey that rocked and changed my world.

i remember my mom telling me, as a teen, not to be in a hurry to grow up, and thinking she was nuts..lol. Now, while i don't want to be a teen again -- no way, no how..ewwwwwwww..lol -- i still kinda miss looking at the world with trust and love that only someone who's new has. Perhaps that's why he wants to bring Your experiences along slowly.

enjoy :)

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ORIGINAL: Sirssweet

My Dom knows i am completely unschooled and unexperienced. As a result, he is being extremely cautious, concerned and caring. As he says, "little baby steps." I appreciate his protection of my well-being and feelings. But i get the impression he would like me to be a bit more pro-active, altho i may be wrong. i curse my inexperience daily for i do not want to be a dissappointment to him. but i truly do not what i can add to our time together.

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RE: scenes - 2/19/2005 10:33:55 AM

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My Dom knows i am completely unschooled and unexperienced. As a result, he is being extremely cautious, concerned and caring. As he says, "little baby steps." I appreciate his protection of my well-being and feelings. But i get the impression he would like me to be a bit more pro-active, altho i may be wrong. i curse my inexperience daily for i do not want to be a dissappointment to him. but i truly do not what i can add to our time together.

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RE: scenes - 2/19/2005 3:42:43 PM

pandoravampire

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Hello Sir's sweet,
if you go to literotica dot com and look at there stories site, it wil have a bdsm section. There you can read all sorts of scenes in the short stories. Any questions about techniques can be found in their library thread.
When i first started, i would look up a library thread that i didnt even know what it was ie. CBT and read the library thread, then go to the stories, for a more subjective look of what it plays out like. Then give whatever stories i liked the sound of to my Dom to read.
Talking about your own needs openly with your Dom is vitally important, but very hard to do when you dont know from lack of knowledge what they are? I always likened this to, how can you order from a french menu, if you only read english?
Reading was a great help to me, and this particular ask a submissive/slave thread is a godsend

If your Dom is going slow, and you want to pick the pace up, ask. But just like you, its easier for him to meet your needs if you tell him what they are. Most Doms will accept requests. They may not grant them, but they accept the request.

I wish you and your Dom a very fruitful journey. Long may the excitement reign.

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RE: scenes - 2/19/2005 3:52:41 PM

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It could be anything, really, truly.

If it were a "baby step" I would think it could be going to dinner, He chooses your clothing, makeup, jewelry orders your dinner from drink to dessert.

It could be a single clothespin on bare flesh. It could be a bite on your nipple held second too long. It could be ten lashes with a cane. I have no idea.

Maybe you should tell him your idea of a "perfect" evening and let Him go from there.

Since he knows that you are fresh in the lifestyle, I think He would appreciate knowing where your head is...

Much luck and happy days.

edited for spelling errors, too many martinis....

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RE: scenes - 2/19/2005 5:28:49 PM

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I don't do this often, but Velvet, that is a perfectly awesome post, in tone and intent. Much better than what I could have said.

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RE: scenes - 2/19/2005 5:59:54 PM

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I'm still new myself, maybe i can give just a little advice from reebt experience. Try reading BDSM story sites (i use BDSM library). If you read something that interest you, don't be afraid to bring it up. Chances are that you Dom will appreciate you being open and letting him know what you want to try.
It's proabbay best to ask if something can be tried, or just bring something up,not "we're going to do this becuase i want to" type attitude.

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RE: scenes - 2/19/2005 6:34:22 PM

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I am certainly no expert, but I do have an opinion...As some have mentioned it is great to go through a bdsm checklist, but I would think in general you would want to get to know someone's interests quickly for compatibility.

Ground rule: only going into scenes with someone that is fully trusted!

Secondly, I don't go in with expectations....and you know what? I've never been disappointed!

Respectfully,
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RE: scenes - 2/19/2005 6:43:28 PM

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Thanks, Emerald!

You like me, you really like me....

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RE: scenes - 2/21/2005 4:52:13 AM

Sirssweet

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Thank all of you for your suggestions. I appreciate the time and energy you took to help me. I have gone to literotica.com and read stories... i have even poisted a few under the author name "josie girl". howver, i always wonder how realistic my writing is considering my lack of real life experience. And in reading other stories, i wonder how much literary license they have taken to form their plots...

But i will take all of your kind words to heart and learn as i go.

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RE: scenes - 2/25/2005 12:45:31 PM

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as strange as this may sound i typically dont scene with a sub until after we have been lovers long enough to know the others likes, dislikes, erogenous zones, etc. Then when scening, i know what turns them on the most, where to concentrate my efforts, what new implements or experiences to introduce. She knows what satisfies me and with training gets better at it. Dont plan some intricate elaborate scene to begin with, just go with the passion and desire, that always works.

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RE: scenes - 2/26/2005 11:56:40 PM

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The best advice i can give is not to have any expectations. He will guide you as He wishes you to be. If you get expectations/scenes in your mind, you may be disappointed if He is on another track all together.

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RE: scenes - 2/28/2005 10:10:11 AM

sputniklove

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I agree with emerald slaves response here, that is usually how a typical scene works for me. I am aware of what my sub wants as I have either discussed her needs or read about them. I rather than crafting each aspect of it prefer to let it flow as it were, though I have also written a scene to a sub,she enjoyed,then came and we put it into play as the orginal was written,again without a script but rather with guidelines for the scene

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