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BeachMystress -> RE: Ratio (2/21/2005 2:15:40 PM)
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ORIGINAL: domtimothy46176
I agree there are probably regional variations but from what I've seen of the midwestern folks who attend public functions, which is in itself a huge qualification, there appear to be 4-5 female submissives for every male dominant. My understanding is that among gay men those who top are even rarer and het submissive males seem to have overwhelming odds against them, although I don't know if it's due to a scarcity of dominas or just the large number of submissive males.
Timothy
*steps aside to avoid the Dom stampede to the Midwest*
I do agree that het sub males have the losing side in the ratio game. You read estimations that there are 50 submissive males for every Dominant female. My area is well above that average, and I'd give it 250 submales to every lifestyle Domme. I average 10 new contacts from submissives in my area daily. Some days, I'll hear from up to 30 new subs. I do not know if this is a population issue or a stress level issue, but it sure gets to be a pain in the butt when they assume that THEY are a special case, and my profiles indicating that I'm happily settled didn't take THEM into account.
While the scarcity of Dommes is part of the problem, there is also the fact that any male with a submissive fantasy proclaims himself sub. Because it sounds good in their mind, they think it is who they are. The majority of "male subs" have never actually submitted to a woman in person. This unrealistically inflates the ratio.
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