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when it's great but not quit anyway - 12/13/2006 7:22:13 AM   
Notanaddict


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Status: offline 		I am so in love with my girlfriend... She is the first person I can imagine spending the rest of my life with.. And i love fucking here, she can come for hours and I revel in it... here's the catch (and there is always one isn't there..)
She can make me come without fail, and she does the things I like and experiments and makes me happy and pleases me... BUT its just not mindblowing.. and thats ok, but its hard when I know I can practically bring the house down from coming SO hard.. but now I am having what feels like "housewife-orgasms" . they still work and still feel good, they're just a bit boring.. and i don't get it, becuz the sex is not at all boring...

And its not like this other person did anything different... it was just better... its so frustrating and i feel so guilty...

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RE: when it's great but not quit anyway - 12/13/2006 7:26:48 AM   
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Status: offline 		Have you ever been able to have mind blowing orgasms, or is it only the orgasms she gives you? Personally speaking I have never had a "boring" orgasm, so I do not know how to relate to this post. Your OP left me with the impression that you either do not have much passion for this person, or you are envious of her ability to mind blowingly orgasm.

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RE: when it's great but not quit anyway - 12/13/2006 7:28:21 AM   
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Status: offline 		Most likely she's shy and insecure about it. Guide her through it and let her know what feels really good. Also, look into tantric practices that can enhance your own enjoyment. Sometimes, having mind blowing orgasms, or multiple ones, is a matter of being open to them.

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RE: when it's great but not quit anyway - 12/13/2006 7:33:16 AM   
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ORIGINAL: juliaoceania

Have you ever been able to have mind blowing orgasms, or is it only the orgasms she gives you?
yes, several times


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Your OP left me with the impression that you either do not have much passion for this person, or you are envious of her ability to mind blowingly orgasm.


I LOVE the fact that I (ME ME ME) can make her come over and over again, she tries to tell me its oly happened with me but I find that hard to beleive...


IT's not boring per say, it's more like that eddie murphy joke about starving and someone throws u a cracker and u think its the best fucking cracker you've ever had but then u have the same cracker for every day and one day u realize its just a ormal boring cracker... or not like that.. I mean, It's good, and it would be great if i idn't actually know how hard i actually am capable of coming...

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RE: when it's great but not quit anyway - 12/13/2006 7:51:07 AM   
Notanaddict


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Status: offline 		I guess if i could choose between the dysfunctional relationship that had the mindblowing orgasms and the great relationship with the great orgasms i would always choose what i have now...

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RE: when it's great but not quit anyway - 12/13/2006 8:39:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		How would she feel if she read that post?  Or if you told her directly "I'm choosing a dysfunctional relationship with you"?

I go with the other advice- communicate and teach together.  Relationships that make it in the long term require a LOT of both on all sides.

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RE: when it's great but not quit anyway - 12/13/2006 11:32:43 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Notanaddict

IT's not boring per say, it's more like that eddie murphy joke about starving and someone throws u a cracker and u think its the best fucking cracker you've ever had but then u have the same cracker for every day and one day u realize its just a ormal boring cracker... or not like that.. I mean, It's good, and it would be great if i idn't actually know how hard i actually am capable of coming...



Well the question to me from your postings is when and how did you have your mind blowing orgasms. While I am also one to not know what a boring orgasm is and the more intense ones I have are more on me then the other, I understand you wanting them. If it was strictly because of a person or something specific done or type atmosphere then you do have to ask yourself if the one you are seeing now is the one for you. If you got these mind blowing orgasms randomly or because of some newness to something then you might look into yourself then looking at your other.

In the end it comes down to the personal combination of what makes you happy, what you need and what you are wanting and what you are getting and it is all on you in some way.

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RE: when it's great but not quit anyway - 12/13/2006 12:13:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		listen, to many people sex with their parteners is a big part of the equation. If you are bored with your partner already, then I doubt this is who will be spending your life with. I just cant see it.

Also in the world of sex, it seems to ebb and flow those wonderous magical moments. Sometimes youre hot. Sometimes youre not. If your relationship is new, well, you're about to find out where it will take you. Just be open. You seem to be shutting down and that cant be good for the realationship.

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RE: when it's great but not quit anyway - 12/13/2006 12:32:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		You have gotten some great advice.
 
Communicate. Tell her what you need.

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I am so in love with my girlfriend... She is the first person I can imagine spending the rest of my life with


Remember that a good relationship can last a lifetime. Is this the kind of relationship you could live with - forever?

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its not like this other person did anything different... it was just better... its so frustrating and i feel so guilty...


If you want to settle, then that is your decision. I never settle for less than I want and feel most people don't, in the long run. Do what you can to make it what you want.

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