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DianeB269 -> RE: Het Doms and strapons (12/14/2006 6:29:31 AM)

DG

This is the first reply in my group to your question.


"I do with my slave.  Obviously there's a different dynamic from a Domme/male sub to the exchange, but that in itself is tricky too, because the power is then in the hands of the receiver of such a fucking, so the reasons and desires (and level of intensity, or limitation of) are probably going to be more varied than the F/m scenario tends to be.

Personally I don't go for any limitations in the situation at all, just so long as the intensity is all about raw lust.  Less attitude & ego / more wild frenzied fun.

What group did that come from Diane?"


Diane



SmokingGun82 -> RE: Het Doms and strapons (12/14/2006 8:02:08 AM)

I can't say it's something I'd personally do. Just not interested myself, but I see nothing wrong with someone else doing it. As long as all the parties involved think it's groovy, that's my answer on (almost) everything I'm not personally into. 



Lashra -> RE: Het Doms and strapons (12/14/2006 8:50:50 AM)

I think the thing is most male Doms don't like to admit that if they engage in this activity that they like it. I know many males do and enjoy it as it stimulates their prostrate which can lead to one hell of an orgasm.

I don't know why alot of people believe if a male likes strapon sex that makes him gay, it doesnt it just means he likes anal sex which can come from a het woman.

My sub loves me to use the strapon on him and yes, he was a Dom at one time.

~Lashra



farglebargle -> RE: Het Doms and strapons (12/14/2006 8:59:24 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: adaddysgirl

i have a good idea of how the subs feel about this so now i am looking at the other side of the coin.

If you are a heterosexual Dom/Master, would you, have you, do you engage in strapons being used on you by your sub/slave?

I totally disagree with the use of a strap-on by a sub/slave.

The varied assortment, and easy availability of zucchini at the local market makes it a much better tool for the job at hand, so to speak, that, and properly fitted harnesses, and that certain... I dunno, motion, just never clicked w/ strap-ons.

quote:




If not, why not?

DG



If not, it's likely cause people are hung up on the whole Penetration == Submission meme.




DianeB269 -> RE: Het Doms and strapons (12/14/2006 9:21:24 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Lashra

I think the thing is most male Doms don't like to admit that if they engage in this activity that they like it. I know many males do and enjoy it as it stimulates their prostrate which can lead to one hell of an orgasm.

I don't know why alot of people believe if a male likes strapon sex that makes him gay, it doesnt it just means he likes anal sex which can come from a het woman.

My sub loves me to use the strapon on him and yes, he was a Dom at one time.

~Lashra





Before I closed my account on the other side, I'd get emails from dom/males asking
if I would be interested in training them with a strapon.
I think, Lashra is right in saying many doms will not admit in a open forum they wanna
try it.
And yes, F2m strapon play DOES NOT mean the male is gay!!!!!!!!!!

Diane



MasterDoc1 -> RE: Het Doms and strapons (12/14/2006 1:48:42 PM)

As noted there was just a posting on this subject a couple of months ago "Dominants who desire anal". I'm with LA; if you want a response from certain specific people e-mail and ask. Otherwise just see that thread for some answers..



adaddysgirl -> RE: Het Doms and strapons (12/14/2006 3:25:03 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MasterDoc1

As noted there was just a posting on this subject a couple of months ago "Dominants who desire anal". I'm with LA; if you want a response from certain specific people e-mail and ask. Otherwise just see that thread for some answers..


And as i said to LA, i was not looking for a response from particular people.  i mentioned names as a way of trying to draw out responses from Doms that i have seen post here frequently.  However, i was not limiting the question to just them.  Is that really the impression that post gave?  Or could that just be yours and LA's perceptions?
 
In case you haven't guessed it by now, this is a public forum....and people ask all kinds of questions every day, whether there's been a thead (or several) on them already or not.  So telling me to either email those individually or just go read the other thread is a crock of shit.  i do believe i have the right to post this question on this public forum and if you have a problem with the thread, then by all means, pass it by.
 
And yeh, i can see it now....an email to Rover....'Hey Rover, do you like a strapon used on you?'   i'm sure he'd  really dig that  [sm=rolleyes.gif]
 
DG



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Het Doms and strapons (12/14/2006 3:26:25 PM)

I will note that I did not say you should ONLY email people.  I quite specifically said that you should email people AND make a thread.



adaddysgirl -> RE: Het Doms and strapons (12/14/2006 4:04:00 PM)

i do have to thank everyone who replied here (even Devilslilsister on the first page....whom i think i missed there).  i do have to admit that i would have more respect for a dom who admitted such a desire (although i could not engage him) than a dom who hid it or wouldn't admit to it.
 
Some may have heard this story but i think it relates perfectly to this thread so i'll repeat it  :)
 
The very first dom i was involved with....i had actually met on a vanilla dating site (i had no idea about bdsm then....and i mean none).  Short version:  he actually introduced me to 'the lifestyle'.  He actually called himself a Master....but he only dommed in the bedroom.  Outside of that, there was no division of power and we were complete equals (which i ended up not liking).
 
Anyhoo....6 months into the relationship, he admitted to me that he liked to cross dress.  While i was digesting that, he also told me he wanted me to do some sexual things to him...like tieing him up and using things anally.  He told me he was actually a switch...which i had never even heard of until he mentioned it. 
 
At that time, the thought did not occur to me that he might be bisexual....but i will admit that i did see him as less domly....or as someone else might have put it....i saw myself as less sub with him in those roles.  We ended up splitting up because of this...but remained friends (he was a good guy). 
 
Not too long ago, he joined here and saw my profile....so he said hi and sent me a pic of him dressed as a fem and sitting on some guy's lap.  i did not ask him but i could presume he is bi....but it doesn't really matter to me anyways now.
 
i noticed his profile said he was a dom seeking sub females.  i asked him why he didn't list himself as a switch....and include switch fems in his list of interests.  He never did answer me.  But i have also run across this after that.....doms who like to bottom sometime (sexually) but list themselves as doms, not switches.  So i asked them the same question....and i got the same answer.  They were switches sexually but were predominantly dom....so they felt no need to list themselves as switches. 
 
A dom can demand anything he wants.  At any point, he can come to his sub dressed like a fem.  Perhaps that turns him on sexually.  Or as my former partner, he can desire being tied up a fucked in the ass.  Personally, i would like to know if this might be the case before i become involved with someone.
 
Would i automatically conclude he is gay?  No.  Would it have an effect on my view of his domliness?  i can honestly say yes.  Although i really don't care what others do....i do need to know this of someone i am looking at as a potential partner.  And obviously, it will not effect everyone the same.  So?
 
i most certainly am not the most submissive person around but i do have my own ideas of what constitutes domliness to me....and what i could deal with in a partner.  And that's all that really matters to me.
 
And who knows.....perhaps there are some 'un-subly' things that a dom might not want his sub to engage in because somehow, he would feel less domly.  Everybody's got their own thing.  i can only make my choices based on who i am.

Again, thank you all.

DG 
 



DarkDaddyZ -> RE: Het Doms and strapons (12/15/2006 9:03:22 PM)

I love girls who pack both soft and hard!



Pulpsmack -> RE: Het Doms and strapons (12/16/2006 8:23:21 PM)

The problem as I see it is the same problem as bottoming. Everybody has their views, but I find it troublesome in the least to have the person submissive to you top you. Now if a guy likes his ass stimulated, he would have to make one hell of a power play of it or the whole dynamic is confused.



DianeB269 -> RE: Het Doms and strapons (12/17/2006 7:18:32 AM)

Don't knock it 'til you try it.


Diane

PS; wanna be my next little bitch?



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Het Doms and strapons (12/17/2006 7:55:56 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Pulpsmack
Now if a guy likes his ass stimulated, he would have to make one hell of a power play of it or the whole dynamic is confused.


I don't think so really.  It's as simple as saying "I'm ordering you to do this" and them saying "Yes master."

If the dynamic can be so easily confused...perhaps the issue isn't the type of stimulation they want.



kyraofMists -> RE: Het Doms and strapons (12/17/2006 8:40:49 AM)

My Lord does not.  He may enjoy rimming but he doesn't enjoy anything being put in his ass.  It is purely a dislike of the sensation and has little to do with the thought that alandra and I might be topping him.  For us topping and bottoming is not about who has the authority in the relationship and when he desires it, alandra and I will top him however he wishes.

Knight's kyra



Kramel -> RE: Het Doms and strapons (12/17/2006 11:24:11 AM)

I've never tried it, but can't say I would never try it.  It would depend on the circumstances and the sub (or indeed Dom/Domme), they might consider strap-on to a man a hard limit.

I suspect the lack of responses is more reflective of the lack of Doms that have experienced it. 

Having something stuck up your anal passage no more makes a man gay than it does a woman.



agorwarrior -> RE: Het Doms and strapons (12/17/2006 11:33:29 AM)

Once in awhile I like it. I tell my girl to strap on (its a small one), I decide when and for how long, as well as what comes next. I have lots of kinky ideas on how to play with it and two girls at the same time, just waiting on the chance. [8D]



Sirandlittle1 -> RE: Het Doms and strapons (12/17/2006 4:34:10 PM)

Im in a D/s relationship. My Sir's ass, like every other human beings, has lots of nerve endings in it, that can be used to provide pleasure. He's of the same ilk as i am, if it feels good, do it. Sensibly.

Ive been enjoying anal since sexually active. Its primal in a way that vaginal penetrative sex isnt. I love it. But i have years of experience of having my ass fucked. He doesnt.

I have a strap on, trouble is, its too big for him. Even though it looked innocent enough to my trained eye lol. So gradually, we are working up to this.
We do enjoy anal play.
As a Dom, he views this as me pleasing him. Then he's comfy with it.
As a female ex top, i just love it. Im comfy with it. Its the one area of play, where i am in control of his body. Making my own Dom gape, with pleasure, feeds my need to top.And there aint nothing submissive about the way my pulse is racing i can tell you.
And although we disagree on the dynamic being fed into with this form of play, who gives a shit as long as we both are having fun.

A person that denies themselves pleasure, coz it doesnt fit in with the norm, is a loser. No if's no butts, a loser.
littleone



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