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family and relationships - 12/13/2006 9:24:32 PM

jesskitty

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since this is the holidays it got me to thinking about relationships on a family dynamic. this was more directed to those younger people in a daddy/daugther relationship(but any dyanmic can respond) since the younger you are the more you typically are still connected to the family compared to the older you get.

have you told your parents/family about your daddy/little girl? if so how did you go into it or introduce it to them? if not do you casually talk about them or try to hide him from the folks? are you planning to or how does the whole family and relationship dynamic work out for you?

i wanted to see how it was for other girls around my age and their expereinces. especially with those that have an age gap around 10 years or so around each other.

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RE: family and relationships - 12/14/2006 5:32:58 AM

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I am one of the lucky few that comes from generations of perverts lol My parents were kinky bondage and bedroom D/s types. My sister is discovering her submissive feelings. They all know I the basics and I call him Daddy, which kinda sickens my mother but it's only far after all the stuff my parents exposed me too by accident, like catching them roles playing in the laundry room when I was a teen....(the memory still kinda makes me sick lol) my advise to you is just live your life how you wish and if it creates any questions be prepared to educate the uninformed. Best of luck to you.

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RE: family and relationships - 12/14/2006 7:16:32 AM

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Funny you should mention it.......

I am not in a Daddy/little girl relationship. As of right now I'm in no relationship at all. If I do get into one it will be Dom/sub. Because of that, I have started thinking about how to tell people closest around me what I'm doing. There will be things I can't hide and I don't want to hide them from the people I care about. I'm not sure how to tell them. My best friend knows but that's it.

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RE: family and relationships - 12/14/2006 8:30:22 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: jesskitty

have you told your parents/family about your daddy/little girl? if so how did you go into it or introduce it to them? if not do you casually talk about them or try to hide him from the folks? are you planning to or how does the whole family and relationship dynamic work out for you?

I strongly believe my father would be heartbroken if he knew he is not the only Daddy in my life, even though part of my submissive personality is due to him and the fact that he's my mom's submissive. They have a D/s dynamic in their relationship, they just don't know it has a name, and I think my mom believes in female supremacy, so I'm not planning on telling them either, for the sake of their mental health.

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RE: family and relationships - 12/14/2006 9:15:30 AM

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well i've never been very close to family, so i might be a unique case. the family that i've kept in contact with since being owned all know that i have a Daddy, who is also my Master, and that we live a D/s lifestyle. of course, they have no real idea what any of those things mean, but they understand that i'm in a "different" sort of lifestyle. whether they approve or not, i don't know/don't care. i rarely see them and their opinions don't really matter to me.

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RE: family and relationships - 12/14/2006 9:33:45 AM

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My former Master was much older then me and I would use Daddy sometimes but not totally. To me, but this could be a culture thing, it would be quite disrespectful to have called him daddy in front of my family.

I think it is case by case thing, but certainly for family member’s feelings and comfort that you love what both you and your Daddy prefer to call each other all of it should be taken into consideration and adjusted if needed.

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RE: family and relationships - 12/14/2006 1:00:25 PM

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thanks for the responses so far guys! i kinda want to redirect the responses so far though. i was more curious as to how your folks percive the age difference, and how they precived you introducing your partner to them without even going into the whole bdsm part of it yet. but it still is very cool to hear all types of responses.

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RE: family and relationships - 12/14/2006 1:04:53 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: jesskitty

thanks for the responses so far guys! i kinda want to redirect the responses so far though. i was more curious as to how your folks percive the age difference, and how they precived you introducing your partner to them without even going into the whole bdsm part of it yet. but it still is very cool to hear all types of responses.

well from what i could tell no one really cares about the age difference (19 yrs), although a few have made friendly jokes about it on occasion. but i come from an area where it's common for older men to be with significantly younger women. as far as introductions, it's not my place to do that, even around my own family. Daddy has always introduced himself to others, usually by his first name, and i always refer to him as Daddy no matter who we are around.

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RE: family and relationships - 12/14/2006 1:25:32 PM

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I was fortunate that it is not average but far from uncommon for a significant age difference in a relationship in my culture that it was not a big deal. It also helped that they got use to me being with older poeple and it would have surprised them more if I brought home someone my age.

My biggest problem with the age difference was with friends and coworkers who think comments or jokes about it not in good intention or judgmental. I did have a hard time with that and had to learn just to let it go instead of trying to argue with them.

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RE: family and relationships - 12/15/2006 5:12:35 AM

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    My Master and I occasionally use Daddy in our playtimes, but generally in day to day life He is Haster and I am Slave or Pet. I know at one time my mother and father were kinky because many of the sounds I hear at our local BDSM club I remember from when I was a child sleeping curled up outside my parent's door. The issue however is that my mother is now engaged to a methodist minister, and thinks my Master occassionally checking in to make sure I am ok is controlling. For this reason it makes it hard  to tell her I am in a D/s relationship for fear she'll think badly of him.    I am a big klutz, and Master calls only to make sure I am ok while at work (( I arrange and deliver flowers at my family's flower shop)) I have been hurt at work, so he wants to know everything is ok.

      I wear my collar all the time and have had comments from my aunt about it (( I'm positive she knows because she answered my phone one time and it was him and his number shows up as Master on it.)) And I know she's ok with it, she even thinks him a fine young man who takes good care of me. I think my mum thinks this too but I'm worried she may get a bit protective over her youngest and now only daughter if she knew the true status of my relationship.

      His father knows because we met at his club which happens to be the local BDSM club and he's fine with it of course, but his mum is a different story. When we go to her house and have dinner or do something , he calls me pet in her presence and since I am a little prone to day dreaming will occasionally snap his fingers to get my attention. His mum says he acts like I'm a pet dog and she says it's disrespectful to me, I try to explain to her and she doesn't understand.   Until we can openly admit it to both our mothers it will be a little hard to spend time with them because of the restrictions on our behavior and attitudes because of the 24/7 lifestyle we lead but we shall have to deal with it until we can safely and accurately explain it all to them.

Hope that helps!

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