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attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 6:16:34 PM

tml721

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she likes EVERYTHING!!! NO, REPEAT, NO LIMITS.I'm think I'm in over my head but somehow i'm still drawn to this woman.She wants abuse, humilitation and a lot of things I'll just leave to the imagination.The question is,whenif ever, do I give her any praise, espo if I want to for some reason or I want to tell her something positive. What do I do?? does anyone need more info to help answer thias? I know it sounds complicated so i'll give as much detail as possible.

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RE: attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 6:25:04 PM

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So, it's NO LIMITS....except you aren't allowed to be nice to her?
Sounds like a limit to me.

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RE: attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 6:29:08 PM

tml721

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Well I shouldn't say "not allowed" those are my interpritations of her actions, not her words. If I make a suggestion or say please forgive because i'm still learning she seems patient but she would still rather have the abuse, HARD abuse.

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RE: attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 6:34:33 PM

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Thank you for the clarification.
Well, it seems to me that if this is a situation where you are "playing" with one another, you could potentially meet and interact within those parameters (ie you giving her nothing but abuse) but I can not imagine a more holistic relationship, as in a life partnership being built around this sort of dynamic.

When it comes down to it, you're the top...so, if subjecting her to kind words is what you want to do, she will have to figure out a way to process it within the framework of her particular ethos.

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RE: attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 6:39:09 PM

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right now she's sick with the flu or something very bad. she hasn't been to any site she's got a profile on in over 2 weeks. It MUST be bad. We live about 2500 miles apart.If we begin to agree that we can try to make a go of it I want us to meet once and see what happens first so we really see if we'll work togehter.
After I posted this, I wondered if I should've asked the Doms/Masters about it as well.

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RE: attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 6:43:49 PM

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People from all different sides of the coin read the forums, regardless of what section you post in.
I wish you and she the best of luck. Just take it nice and slow and you will find your way.

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RE: attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 6:46:39 PM

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OH yea, slow, that I understand.i'm flying blind on this and learning the hard way as I go. Is any part of this easy!!????

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RE: attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 6:54:16 PM

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I think it's a teeny bit easier when you are not 2500 miles apart. Good luck.

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RE: attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 6:58:13 PM

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Does the girl live in Nigeria or Ghana?

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RE: attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 7:04:54 PM

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Ron... why do you think I politely backed out the door?
Not touching it.
Not with an inordinantly long pole.

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RE: attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 7:08:53 PM

KatyLied

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quote:

Does the girl live in Nigeria or Ghana?

sigh. This may be his dream sub. Don't be harshing on people's dreams.

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RE: attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 7:15:34 PM

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Regardless of where she lives and assuming that she is not out to extort money from the OP, it seems to be a difficult road he has chosen for himself. A new Dom taking on what appears to be a hard-core masochist with desire for serious edge play...
not the ideal "first gig".
And, she disappeared for two weeks. Not a good sign.
I genuinely wish this guy all the best in his self-discovery, wherever the path leads.

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RE: attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 7:17:32 PM

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a sub should always be praised if he/she earns it

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RE: attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 7:22:02 PM

KatyLied

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quote:

she disappeared for two weeks. Not a good sign.

She's a poofer!

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RE: attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 7:22:46 PM

BDSM05478

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I read the question, I read the profile of the person posting the question. I'm confused..... your flying blind yet..... your profile seems to say it all.

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RE: attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 8:05:06 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: KatyLied

quote:

she disappeared for two weeks. Not a good sign.

She's a poofer!

Sounds like, and what do you hit a dream masochist no limits poofer with for punishement? A poofer puff.

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RE: attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 8:09:21 PM

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quote:

your profile seems to say it all

Lots of demands that scream mid-life crisis to me. You might also try spell check.
No wonder one of the "fantasy subs" found you. Did you get a link to her web site?

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RE: attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 8:18:27 PM

tml721

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N hollywood actually!!

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RE: attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 8:20:57 PM

tml721

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Her auto reply from her email said she's out with the flu. That's what I'm going by.

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RE: attempting to attact a sub/slave - 12/15/2006 8:23:22 PM

tml721

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She'll get complements whether she wants them or not. She's a very attractive woman. I've got several pics of her.when I insult her she'll know things are OK and then something's up if I compliemnt her. Does that sound right???

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